E.Lynn Harris......Is He Your Frat.....???
 

I was just wondering.....Is E.Lynn Harris author of Invisible Life and so on......Is he a Kappa?

How do you all feel about your gay frat brothers? Can you put the prejuice aside? Do you ignore the fact that he is gay?

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TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN....MUCH IS EXPECTED.

I think he is a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc.

Yeah, he is a member of APhiA.

MN

MN,
Correct me if I am wrong. Is the Kappa Alpha Psi Forum the secret place for all the bad azz threads (questions) and all the good threads go to the other Forums...

Dayum,
"How do you feel about your gay frat brothers?" What the.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif
How do you think I feel about gays in my FRAT!?

The real question is how do we feel about these crazy azz questions that get asked every 3 or 4 weeks... I am sorry if I seem anal, but save those questions for someone else's Forum, please. Personally, I don't have anything against homosexuals but they are not welcome in my FRAT.

"Um yo brother... Um yo brother don't you know... Um yo Brooooooother...Um you brother, don't you nooooooo ooooooh.
Every WOMAN every MAN join the caravan of Love!"

You see it says woman and man not half woman and half man.... GET IT!


[This message has been edited by Bobby Earl (edited March 07, 2001).]

"True Manliness........though ever dost impart!"

MN

Lynn Harris? Is GAY? I went to Arkansas with him and I never suspected!!!

Carnation,

That is sarcasm right? I thought so. Eventually this wil become an issue in your frat and other......My bestfriend is a Kappa and he is living with aids.....I am the only one besides his family that show an interest in his "life". Where are his sands? What happen to "Brotherhood?" I am just wondering. Homophobic or not......what happen to the love......We are military his commander is a Kappa and so are a few other people in our neighborhood.....yet nothing, no love at all.........

Deja

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TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN....MUCH IS EXPECTED.

Deja--no sarcasm! Of course this was the mid seventies but we worked together on the yearbook and he never gave us a hint of being gay in any way. I haven't thought about him in years!

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I think you can find some sort of "abandonment" in any situation (sickness, monetary deficiencies, legal matters, etc) from family, sorority/fraternity, church members, friends, etc.

So, it should not be too surprising in this instance. It is unfortunate that this has happened, but if you and others are there for him, and are there for him GENUINELY, then that's all that matters. You cannot worry what others are or are NOT doing, frat brother, soror, momma, daddy, sister, brother,son, daughter, grandma, grandpa, friend, whomever. They will be held accountable for their actions.

Have you read Invisible Life? If not, read it! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Deja,

Please do not portray HIV/AIDS as a homosexual thing, cuase we all know that it is not. Yes, there is are certain feelings regarding homosexuals. But I work for an organization that deals with HIV Prevention, so I have seen how this disease has ruined the life of men and women both hetero and homosexual. 90% of HIV cases are in Africa, and they are transmitted mostly by heterosexual contact. Also there are so many myths surrounding HIV and the ignorance that is displayed about it is mind bottling. Did you know that there is a myth in Uganda that if you have sex with a white woman who is a virgin, you will be cured of HIV? Also, the carribean and South America have the second highest HIV rates in the world, and most of the time this is through HETEROSEXUAL contact.

The plain fact is that a lot of people think the way they will about homosexuality. I ain't gonna sit up here and lie, I have my own hangups and I work with some gay men. As far as those brothers not being there for the frat brother you were talking about. That's sad. I would definately view my sands differently if they came out and said they were gay, but you have but one set of ships/LBs/sands whatever term you want to use, and I will always be there for them.

PHI NU PI

MN

ManndingoNupe and AKA2D91:

Very well said.

I am real emotional about this topic and don't know what else to say.

(I went back to check and there is no smily for tear drops).


[This message has been edited by BlueReign (edited March 08, 2001).]

I was trying to stay out of this one until I knew which direction the topic was going. Deja asked how we would feel about a gay frat brother. Well how would you feel about a gay soror? Like my frat said, I have my own hangups about homosexuality. However, it would be foolish for me to think that there are no gay men in Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Inc. This goes for Alpha,Omega,Sigma, and Iota. Kappa Alpha Psi, does not discriminate. Never have. The day greeks start doing this, the day we have more law suits filed against us on top of all the hazing ones. Whether or not you believe that gays deserve any civil rights, the fact of the matter is they are being discriminated against in this country. WE as blacks were and still are being discriminated against in this country. I will not subject someone else to the same bigotry and injustice I face. To ask me how I would feel about a gay frat brother, is to ask me how I feel about gay people in general. They have become a fabric of our society. There is nothing we can do. To hate them is going against the teachings of Jesus Christ. If you believe that homosexuality is a sin, remember that even Jesus loves sinners. Keep that in mind.

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XI LAMBDA

N4L for Grand Polemarch!!!!

NUPE4LIFE,

I have never met you.......however, let it be known that we are a kindred spirit. Very well said.
FOR THE REST OFYOU: (Not YELLING)
I am was in no way attempting to or nor did I say "AIDS/GAY same thing". I am intelligent and I have done enough research to know that AIDS is not a GAY disease....I am no shallow......I believ you missed my point......

THanks NUPE4LIFE

Deja

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TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN....MUCH IS EXPECTED.

LOL!
Bobby Earl, you are too much http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

I agree. He is such a deep brother...

In the word of Ice Cube on Boyz in the Hood:

"Your pops is like Malcolm Farrakkan" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

tears are in my eyes...anger is in my heart. i can't even think of any words to say right now.

Was this post even necessary? So what if he's gay? I mean really what does that have to do with anything? Not putting words in any member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Inc mouth but i'm sure they all love him just the same! A brother is a brother! Maybe i'm putting too much into this but I just think that there are more important things in life to inquire about other than someone's sexual orientation. Such as what kind of person is this human being? What has he done for his community, etc. Putting my two cents in I honestly don't feel that coming in here asking these men how they feel about their "gay" frat brother was neither appropriate or necessary. What does it matter?

I agree with most of the others what does it matter if he's gay?

[This message has been edited by Sagacious1 (edited March 15, 2001).]

Perhaps I am in error......I thought this was a place where I can speak candidly about issues. I think the topic of homosexuality is a quite valid one.....If I OFFENDED YOU..I do apologize....for that was not at all my intentions. I am hurting over the pain of a dear friend and I just wanted some answers. I believe this issue just hit to close to home for some people......for it to be an unnecessary topic.......It is on fire!

Peace Lovely Black People.....I was in no way trying to offend.

Deja

Deja,

I didn't find your topic offensive at all. And I agree that homosexuality is definitely a valid topic/issue. The reality is that gays/lesbians/bisexuals are everywhere http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif and deserve respect just like everyone else and people need to begin to deal with that in a mature, honest and intelligent fashion.

Also, I am sorry to hear about your friend.

Peace, Love and Progression,
BN


[This message has been edited by BrandNubian (edited March 16, 2001).]

Well I'll make my comment short and sweet. First of all, I love E.Lynn Harris, he is my favorite author and I have and read all of his books. Second, someone asked how would you feel about a gay/lesbian soror-I wouldn't care. As long as she doesn't try to be more than my soror, (if you know what I meean) then it's cool). But then again I think that women are just more comfortable or accepting of the whole lebian/gay thing. I personally don't get down with that whole thing because it just isn't right-that's how I was raised.


"Could it be so? After 3 rough drafts the final was Sigma Gamma Rho."

Isn't that sort of contradictory? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

Actually, no.

Had she said "Women are completely comfortable or accepting, then yes, her second statement would be a contradiction.

For clarification purposes: I would never feel attracted to women because I am Christian and that is how I was raised. However, the Bible also teaches us not to judge. Also, I was saying that more women than men are excepting of the whole gay/lesbian thing. You ask a brother if he's gay or anyhting of the sort and they feel as if their manhood is being challenged. You ask a woman if she is a lesbian and she'll probably reply, "no."

This is a touchy subject for me!! I love to read and I have hard time reading his books. I have not purchased one yet!! What book does he have out that doesn't illustrate a gay lifestlye?

I think the last one does the best, as far as not really illustrating to a direct point a gay lifestyle. It's called "Not A Day Goes By", but it does elude to a character from all his previous books that is really confused. To read this book you really have had to have read all his others. This character is in all his books.



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Peace
KL

Thanks, kim.....Girl....I just dunno!!

I hear ya!!



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Peace
KL

Basil Henderson reminds me of Deion Sanders. I don't know why, but when I read the books and he talks about Basil, I picture Deion. If he ever made his books into a movie, Deion would definitely have to play Basil! I think that together, Abide with Me and Not A Day Goes By would be the BOMB as a movie!!! What y'all think?

Oohh Ideal08...Yeah



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Peace
KL

Soror, I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

To you and your friend, be blessed.

MandingoNupe:

I e-mailed you.

I thought I would be the only one picturing Mr. Sanders as Basil!
And yes...those two books made into a movie would be hot.