Oh wise ones of GC... i need advice
 

If you need to you can catch up on the thread here: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...threadid=60443

but anyway, the newest drama in my life...

This Sunday night Caleb shows up at our college group thing at my church. He only came once last semester (before I started going), so I thought hmmm, maybe he came to see me and get to know me. Well he got there late so he didn't get to sit by me and was all the way across the room. One of my friends asked him if he wanted to go out to dinner afterwards (i hadn't been invited) and he asked "well,does stormy want to go" (i didn't know this at the time) so she asked me what I was doing but I had to babysit. When my friend and I both got home she IMed me and said that they had talked about me at dinner. He really likes the way I look and all that, but he wants to get to know me first before we go out on a date. He suggested that me, him, the friend, and another friend go out one night this week. Well, my friend shot that idea down b/c she said her and the other girl would end up talking the entire time and he and i wouldn't get a chance to know each other.
She said that he knows I have his number, and he wouldn't be surprised if I call him. The friend also said that Caleb and I could most likely end up dating if I'd just make the call. but that is where the dilemma lies. I HATE talking on the phone and to top it off i'm a rather shy person until I get to know someone. I know most guys don't really enjoy talking on the phone. Whats the maximum of time I should talk before I make up some lame excuse about why I have to get off the phone. Also guys, what are some things you like to talk to girls about (so i can get an idea of what questions to ask him). As interesting as is it I don't want to end up talking about college majors/classes/etc. the entire time.

I could use some encouragement to actually pick up the phone and call... just thinkin about it makes me wanna puke thats how nervous i am.

I find your number of sexual partners to be alarming!

-Rudey
--Even if you don't contract an STD, you may end up with roast beef syndrome.

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i'm not concerned by your exponentially growing magic number, but i'm an accepting guy - drink up!

The edges on the beef aren't all twisted and burnt looking. Plus there is always the danger of toothpick in a toilet bowl syndrome. You can be built like John Holmes and never find the end to the tunnel - and shizzle.

-Rudey

3 is an alarming number!?! Besides I didn't say anything about sex in this post. IF Caleb and I do go out we won't be having sex until we've dated awhile.

Will your wedding dress be red? You may not be able to wear white.

-Rudey

You can't handle the truth...
 

I can be "real" with you or I can sugar coat it for you--but the sugar coating would be a total lie...

FCUK IT--

I'll tell you the truth...

Caleb dude has found out that you put out... And he wants some... He's ready to lose his "virginity"--with you... But you all are not going to be dating. All you all will do is have a lot of sex...

And like I said to you in the last post with some other guy your played yourself with...

If you are going to screw around, just do it right. And protect yourself at all times...

Okay, I remember the story with this guy and I think that the only thing you can do is call him, hang out with him and see what happens. Don't listen to what your friends say he said, or what anyone on here says he's probably thinking. Get some cojones and call the boy. The worst thing that can happen is that you won't be dating him, but you aren't dating him now so you're really no worse off than if you did nothing. Give it a shot and see what happens

I WOULD think this was true, but honestly not that many people (other than GC ppl) know I put out (actually only Jason and Random guy, neither of which remotely even know Caleb). Plus, one of my friends 'dated' Caleb last year and tried to sleep with him and he wouldn't (i have heard this story from several people and the friend... the friend told me about this before she knew i liked him).

Unlike other girls on GC I'm not even close to beginning to plan the wedding.

It seems unfair to have put out in the first few hours you met a boy you didn't like romantically but will make Caleb wait for some time if you start dating him.

What kind of really screwed up message does that send? Isn't that game playing?

Re: Oh wise ones of GC... i need advice
 

I think the real question here is -- what kind of name is Stormy?

I'm just kidding. Seriously though, i think the more you prepare and cram about things to talk about on a date, the more idiotic and rehearsed you sound. Be natural, let the converation come. If youre super nervous about making a bad impression, state upfront that you are terrible at small talk, or something of the like.

Re: Re: Oh wise ones of GC... i need advice
 

Haha you know after my initial reaction of oh not again my second thought was the same thing.

My question is why do you want to go out with this guy? You guys have a different belief system so how far do you think this relationship (if it happened) would go?

Also I have a hard time believing that you have no problem pouring your entire life story out on GC but not many people in your life know about your sexcapades.

If you can't talk to a particular person pretty easily right off the bat, that probably isn't the person for you. Coaching on topics to discuss isn't a good idea. Conversation with someone you get along with well will just flow. If it doesn't, then it's a good clue that the person isn't a good fit for you.

Dee

Stormy: Hi Caleb. It's Stormy. How are you?
Caleb: Hi Stormy. I'm ok. How are you?
Stormy: OK. So do you want to get together this weekend?


Done and Done!

Up until recently I had never called the guy first before, but I'm glad I did. Even in the "relationship" doesn't end up working out, I've still taken a giant step and never have to do that for the first time again. I say rip the bandaid off and call him. As others said, the worst that can happen is rejection, and though we're all afraid of that, you don't have much invested, so go for it. Otherwise you may miss out. I know it's cliche-ish but oh well.

Topics:
Movies
TV
Music
Family
Mutual friends
Drinking
Sports

Just be yourself. Make up an exit excuse when you feel like you're running out of stuff to say. Go with the flow. Leave him wanting more! Good luck!

Re: Oh wise ones of GC... i need advice
 

I don't get this. IN MY DAY, the purpose of a "date" was to get to know someone. A date isn't a big deal -- I agree with what Cream said -- if you want to go out, call him up and see if he wants to go out on Saturday or whenever.

Re: Oh wise ones of GC... i need advice
 

CALL HIM!!!!
You want to see the boy. So make a plan. Plan a night out with your friends and invite him along. Keep the phone conversation short and sweet. I'm sure you are capeable of doing that. For gods sake, dont let you dislike of the phone keep you from getting with a boy you like. That's just silly. And besides, you know he likes you.

Perhaps he may want to remain a virgin though ?;)

Dee--

Why do you have to make so much sense??? Because it is too easy??? ;) :D

what kind of sick twisted manipulating project are you trying to pull with this guy? You seem afraid to talk normal with this guy or move too fast for him so you come here looking for conversation advice? Come on, All the girls that put out for me never had a problem running their mouths before and afterwards.


However, if you are indeed serious and want to impress this guy, stick with an easy 7 minute conversation. Avoid at all costs talking about sports, weather, school (what are ya studying), or any other lame topic. They are filler space and pointless in an opening conversation. Don't rehearse, just jump in with a hello and how ya doin'? Think of a creative day date (less likely of ending up in the sack if you have lunch and not friday night drinks together). While it is the winter, I'm sure there is something simple to do.

Honestly, this guy doesn't sound like your type, so use caution if you are going for it. Best of luck..... I said LUCK!


RUgreek

Dude, I remember when I had to explain to you what roast beef was...I had to say I was a little shocked that you didn't know. But as long as you're avoiding girls who have it then everything's ok. Ewwwww.

in real life i am private person and reserved when it comes to talking about my relationship, but thanks to GC it seems like maybe i cant vent a little
last night the voices in my head were telling me i needed to break up with my boyfriend... and we sat down and talked about all the little things that have come to carry so much weight in our relationship. in the end we did break up. so far i am doing well, i actually got good sleep, so many things had been on my mind lately i was sleeping over it. him and i were friends almost two years before we 'got together', over that time we became almost best friends, we've shared good, bad, awesome times together and with friends, we shared conversations about past relationships and about almost everything under the sun, and we became almost inseperable. we dated 1 1/2 years but in the last couple months we started to fight over the most irrelevant things. now that we are broken up, i know that being friends isn't going to be impossible. but to be honest, it is killing me inside. we had previous plans for this week with friends, family and ourselves and the intention is to keep those plans, but be friends. i am just about to go absolutely insane missing him in that sense. he's called me twice today to check up on me and in one way it's fine, but i am dreading the day that i dont get those calls and we stop making plans. he's told me that he wants me in his life as long as now and in the future, because we were friends long before and we can appreciate each other in that way. i feel the same way and i'm grateful already for the things i know i am going to get out of this break up. being together in the future is not out of the question but of course,theres no way to know. I want to know if there's anyone out there who has ever been in my situation? any 'good' advice is appreciated.


on a lighter note, i am also FABULOUSZETA on this GC. I made the mistake of changing my email and i never recieved a confirmation e-mail, now i'm unable to post or PM... if anyone can help me on that end, i'd appreciate your time and attention.

Do you know how many girls I've explained the roast beef concept to and it's all because of you? Whenever I get spare time I like to read urbandictionary.com and find new words to use. I can't wait to tell someone he's an Ebeneezer Ball Squeezer.

-Rudey

Roast Beef Syndrome

1. Roast Beef Syndrome
A brown discoloration on the vaginal lips, often seen on porn stars.
When I went down on Tina, she had some wicked Roast Beef Syndrome that reminded me of an Arby's Big Montana

That's just nasty!

F.Y.I. Stormy is the name of an actual porn star who starred as Princess Hubba-Hubba in the wonderfully done SPACE NUTS ;)
Many thanks to HBO & Pornucopia for introducing me to this.;)

I wish I knew a girl that had sex with only 3 guys.

Re: Re: Oh wise ones of GC... i need advice
 

Don't listen to this girl at all if you actually want to keep this guy around. XOMichelle does not know what she's talking about. The last thing in this situation you need to do is invite him out with a bunch of girls....unless he has some gay tendencies. :rolleyes: