3 day rule or what?
 

I went out on what I thought was a fabulous date Friday night. I've been talking online to this guy for the past month EVERY night for around 4 hrs. or we talk on the phone for an hour or two.

Friday night was our first date. He drove 30 mins to pick me up, opened the car door for me, drove an hour to Savannah to eat at the Olive Garden (which he paid for). When we got back to my town, he asked if I wanted to go to Walmart (god that makes us sound like such hicks! He wanted to see if they had any new DUB city model cars in) so I said sure. I figured if he wasn't having a good time he wouldn't have suggested going to WalMart and instead would have taken me home and then went. Why prolong a date if you aren't enjoying yourself? He then took me home and walked me to my door. We told each other good night and he said he would talk to me later.

WELL.... its now sunday night/monday morning and I haven't heard anything from him. He got on MSN messanger last night and quickly signed out. I did send him an email letting him know I had a good time.

So is he doing the "don't call her for 3 days" thing that most guys do? I would think b/c we had talked every night for the last month he wouldn't use that rule, but I don't know..... :confused:

agreed. Its hard not to worry or wonder, but be sure of yourself. You are a great catch and any guy who doesnt see it doesnt deserve you. Wait and see if he calls in a few days, but if not, move on and date someone else.

I agree.

Live your life and have fun! If he calls, great. If not, screw him.

Q

Is she really? Like do you know her? Or are you just being nice?

My advice: Call him. The person doing the calling is self-empowered.

Personally, I hate the call game. We all play it. Boys think, "well I don't want to be a nuisance or I don't really have anything involved to say, or we aren't going to make plans until the weekend so why call before thursday?."

Whereas the girl may be thinking, "Why isn't he touching base with me. Why isn't he letting me know he is still interested?"

That being said: He should have called you and reassured you that he had a good time and that he wanted to see you again. Assuming that is true.

In fact. He should have made realtively concrete plans with you before the end of your first date. Thats the best way to do it.

So call him and try and make plans. Thats the best way to see how he feels.

Watch Swingers and all your calling the opposite sex advice will be taken care of.

I agree. Watch "Swingers" - one of the top 10 movies ever made.

Don't worry -either he will call or he won't - either way, you'll be fine.

He took you to Walmart? Hmmm... you may be better if he doesn't call...

Most definitely not in Clemson for the summer (unfortunately). I won't be returning until next spring or the fall of 2005 :( I'm going to try to make it up for at least a few football games. My 21st birthday is the night before the big Clemson/USC game so I definitely will be in Clemson that weekend, though I may not remember much of it.


As far as calling him goes...... I know this sounds horrible, but I don't have his phone #. He asked for my phone # first. He always called me from his mom's cell since there home phone is usually tied up with the internet and he doesn't have a cell right now (neither do I), so I never bothered asking for his number. He lives in a town with only a couple hundred people and I know his parents names so I could find his phone number without any problem, but I think that'd make it look a little too despreate. I did email him on Saturday night and let him know that I had a great time. If I don't hear from him by tonight I think I will email him and say my final goodbyes. Oh well, his loss. He wasn't a CU boy anyway. I need someone who understands my love and devotion for Tiger football (which is also why I'll never date another USC cock fan again either!)

[QUOTE]Originally posted by James
[B]Is she really? Like do you know her? Or are you just being nice?

I am sure she is. I do not know her, but that doesnt mean she isnt. Im not just being nice, Im being truthful. We all worry about this calling game and it sucks. I am a chronic worrier so I know how it feels to wonder why he didnt call. I was just letting her know not to fret over it cause guys are a dime a dozen till you find that right one.

If I liked a guy I would have called him back the next day and when I know he is interested he has done the same. Move on. You are putting way too much worry into someone who obviously is NOT worth it.

He might think if he calls you early on afterwards you will see it as "STALKER!" "NEEDY!" "CLINGY" etc. :)

Not to say you would [or he would!] but some women do act that way and ruin it for others.

Not to say you would [or he would!] but some women do act that way and ruin it for others. [/B][/QUOTE]

I have a friend like this. She meets a new guy and she is instantly in love and the flavor of the week is all she talks about. I've had some of her potential love interests tell me that the reason they are not interested is because she comes on too strong.

If a guy took me to Walmart on a first date, I would be relieved that he didn't call. But that's just me. ;)

If I wanted to see him again, I wouldn't look up his parents' number. I would email him, tell him that I had a great time, and that I looked forward to doing it again. If you do that and get no response, forget him.

Gwirrrlfriend...
 

Walmart??? WTH???

I don't care how much he paid for dinner, but a Walmart Date??? I don't think so!!!

You know he has a "situation" at the Walmart :rolleyes:

Maybe he was "checking up" on his girlfriend at the Walmart she works at... To tell her that he can "play" too... Why else would he come up with a lame excuse to go to some chit like dat...

No callee, no emailee--no nuthin'! Forget about him. Leave him the HAYLE alone. I don't care how much fun you had, you are better off writing this luser Walmart assed date, don't know how to call a woman, that calls from his alleged "mama's cell phone" to talk to you...

Now, that's why you get caller ID with anonmynous call block service... Besides, whose email address is that really? Yeah, he can make some chit up, cain't he???

Re: Gwirrrlfriend...
 

Best advice I've heard all day.

Re: Gwirrrlfriend...
 

Damn, you are GOOD! I never thought of that scenario but it makes total sense.

Reference: Wallmart

You guys are snobs. In some regions of the country wallmarts are like bread and butter lol. Scary but true

Lookee heera, the Walmart is fine to buy stuff in and it's fine when you are looking around... But a date it is not... It's like going to a cheap Costco or the poor man's Target... I guess he coulda taken her to Big Lots...

I can think of myriads of sad love songs:

I found love on a 2-way Neiman Marcus, but lost it a lonely Walmart...

I left all my Exes in the Walmart in Texas...

I fought the security cop at the Walmart and the cop won... :rolleyes:

One of us - maybe me, maybe you - is misreading what CUGreekgirl originally said.

I got the impression he took her to a niceish restaurant for which he paid and at after the date they passed a Walmart and he was all "oh I gotta pop in here to check something out quickly - would you be ok with that?" and so they did and then he drove her on home afterwards.

But I get the impression you think Walmart WAS the date?

Or maybe it was - am I mixed up?

CUGreekgirl?

Clearing things up....
 

WalMart was NOT the date!

We went to the Olive Garden, which is considered a pretty nice date around here (yes I live in the country in South Georgia).

He collects DUB city car models and when we got back into my town, he wanted to check out the WalMart in my town to see if they had any of the models he didn't have yet. It wasn't like we just went to WalMart for the hell of it. WalMart is pretty much one of the only stores we have around here. I usually go at least three times a week to pick up stuff for projects I am doing or stuff I need and he knows that. I wish we had better stores around here, but we just don't.

TO reiterate: WALMART WAS NOT THE DATE, and when he asked if I wanted to stop by he knew I wouldn't mind.

I dont think stopping at Walmart is a bad thing. He just wanted to check if they had something and he knew she went there a lot. It wasnt part of the plan it seem like.

I dont see stopping at Walmart being a big deal, but I am from Ohio and we dont have all sorts of entertainment to do around here and people are raised diff ways. I wouldnt expect to go to some 200 dinner than go to a like 200 theater or something. Then again Im married and there isnt much to do here. Plus I enjoy the little things, like picnics lol....

Thanks for being so down to earth Shannan! I grew up in upstate NY where it is the same thing with not a whole lot to do. My ex-boyfriend grew up in Long Island then moved to Manhattan. He would always "make fun" of my family because they went to chain restaurants or to the mall all the time. It is a different lifestyle, definately, and people are happy so leave them be! Needless to say, my family is happy we are no longer together because they thought he came off as being snobby. I may live in the city and be exposed to great restaurants and "culture" but I won't forget where I came from. I like to splurge once in awhile but I think it is a waste of money to drop that much cash all the time on dinner or drinks. There are also girls out there though who unfortunately look for this in a date, and will only date someone if he spends lots of money on them all the time. In my eyes, my ex is getting his payback. I had dinner with him the other night and he said he is getting annoyed because (he's not an attorney yet, still in law school) all the girls he meets only see him for "his money" (which he is not even making yet duh!). He told me one girl ditched him because he wouldn't take her out for an expensive dinner on her birthday and looked down on him because he said he would MAKE her dinner and drinks.

Even taking into account that going to Wal Mart was not the main purpose of the date, and even taking into account my personal disapproval of chain restaurants -- is it ever a good thing when someone decides to basically run an errand while on a date? I can't imagine being on a first date with someone and saying, "Oh, I want to run to the store to look for something..."

The mama's cell phone thing is weird too. That's the kind of isht guys do when they're married or something.

If the guy doesn't respond to your e-mail, then definitely his loss. Why in the hell would he not give you his number? And I also don't understand why he would drive so much for a date only to take you to Olive Garden. Why?????? If I'm driving that much, I'm eating somewhere good. If he's a guy w/ simple tastes, fine. He could enjoy those simple tastes a little closer to home. No way in hell would I drive an hour to eat Olive Garden.
It's also tacky to run an errand on a first date. If it were your 3rd, ok. But not the first date. It takes the focus off of you and puts it on some lame collector cars that one can purchase at WalMart.
How on earth did you meet this guy? :confused:

Just a question to all people who have responded to this. WTH is wrong with Olive Garden? Why is everyone so "Olive Garden is a crappy place"? I love OG. I go there all the time. When the hubby asks where I want to go to a nice place I say OG. I hate stupid expensive places. Who wants to pay all that money for something to eat? Yeah it may be nice to go out to a fancy place sometimes, but come on. OG is just as good as Red Lobster, Applebees, ect.... Sorry to say but around here those places are HUGE places for dates. College kids and even people out of college either dont have that money to waste on some fancy place or dont want to. I know Id rather spend that extra 100 I saved and use it to get more flowers for my garden or something. OG is GREAT!!!! Its actually my fave Italian place to eat. I love their soup. I just wonder whats everyones dealw ith dogging OG? Man we arent all in NYC or CA and love to dish out 500 on a meal. Why does a date have to be about going to the most expensive place. Come on now.....

About Olive Garden... It's all about perspective. My boyfriend is from upstate New York, land of cheap and fantastic Italian restaurants all over the place. We went to Olive Garden once and he thought it was disgusting. Being from Des Moines I think it's okay but nothing special. It's just that since I currently live in a metro area of 3 million people (counting Boulder) there are at least 4 places I can think of that have prices similar to Olive Garden, are owned locally and serve far better quality food that I'd rather eat at. That's why I would rip on them. I'm beginning to understand that not everyone has options and if you're driving an hour to get there you're probably stuck with the chains.

I'm from a fairly small town, and NO. No OG for Munchkin. But, that could be because I lived in Italy for a while and don't like dumbed-down food made for Americans with immature palates. When the boy and I go out for a date, it's usually to a smallish local place in one of our hometowns or here in the city. We definitely eat for less than what one would pay for a dinner for two at OG.

I don't see where anyone says that it's necessary to go to fancy or expensive restaurants. Some of the best food I've ever had has come from tiny hole-in-the-wall places where you can get a meal for $5. Olive Garden is a chain -- it's boring and sterile, although I do like their breadsticks and salad. The atmosphere leaves a lot to be desired also -- most of them are large and they tend to attract people with kids, not my idea of a place for a date. I look at chain restaurants as lowest-common-denominator food -- it's designed to appeal to many people, so I tend to find it rather boring.

I prefer more out of the way restaurants, something small and locally owned with some character. It has nothing to do with being fancy or spending a lot of money. I'd rather go to a funky little Mediterranean place, or for Ethiopian or Thai food or to a quirky little Italian restaurant. If a guy suggests something like Olive Garden, to me that's saying he has no creativity and that's a bad thing.

um . . . des moines has a huge italian-american population, compared w/ its size, and i can come up w/ 8 restaurants off the top of my head that are similar in price, but dominate in quality . . . you can find them anywhere, if you want to do the research and are willing to try something new.

-RC
--olive garden plus walmart equals the kid from des moines thinks jah lazy

1) I'm in Denver now.
2) We moved out of West Des Moines when I was 13. I didn't get to pick a lot of restaurants as a kid.
3) The only thing I was trying to say was that relative to upstate New York.....

Sorry for the hijack.

Any updates? Did he ever call? Is this the same ex-druggie guy?

Nope, He never called, or emailed or anything. So I guess he wasn't playing the 3 day rule, he just wasn't interested.

Yes, this was the same ex-drug user.

He was a really awesome guy. I really miss talking to him for hours every night.

Don't feel bad about this guy for too long. Go out, have fun, flirt, and meet cute guys who don't have baggage and will call you. :) Summer is a great time for a romance. Consider this a blessing in disguise.

I don't know, I've been to upstate NY a bunch of times (fiancee is from there) and all around the country, and you can find good solid Italian restaurants, better than Olive Garden, most anywhere. That's not to say there's anything horrible about the place...I just think there are comparably-priced, better tasting options for Italian in most areas.

If he didn't call...eh, it's not the end of the world, you'll move on.

As far as OG, anyone find me a place that serves Pasta Fagoli soup thats in Ohio near Cleveland and its better than OG. If not Im sticking to OG thats all I eat there unless its dessert.

This was more my point - i wasn't really shooting at anyone in particular, just making a general statement toward the thread (and trying to explain the anti-Olive Garden reaction . . . it's anti-laziness, guys, not necessarily 'elitism')