A serious question: Calling EVERYONE, MEN in particular!!!!!!!
 

If your friend, girlfriend/boyfriend, significant other, mate, person you sleep with (whatever name you give him or her) asked you to take a HIV test, would you? :confused:

Are there any instances where you would NOT take the test?


Is anyone willing to share if he or she HAS taken the test?




I thought about this while visiting the following DST thread...


http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...5&pagenumber=4

I haven't taken one because I'm not sexually active. However, for a while now, especially with threads like the one from the Blvd., movies like "One Week," etc., I FULLY intend to start requesting RECENT test results from potential partners. If they can't produce one, then I will request that they take a test. We can go together. If they can't do it for me, then he can get to steppin'! I'm not trying to catch the Gangsta!

Well regulatah, you know where I live so it's a requirement ! I think it's the only intelligent choice to make. If you're grown enough to do the crankin, then be grown enough to take the test.

I feel both partners should be tested. I've been tested once a year since I had the brat in1993. This was obviously a time when I had unprotected sex and I always just wanted to be sure. I thanks God that every result has been a good one and I encourage people to be tested. It's almost painless and it's very good to know.

I've gotten tested before. It's a very reasonable demand to ask your partner to get tested, and to SEE the results for yourself (if it's printed). If you plan on having sex with someone it's good to ask them to get tested. Period. If they refuse then sex can't happen.

Its simple. Get tested, get your results. Proceed with your life. End of story.

How ironic
 

My boyfriend and I just discussed going to take the test together. Not to accuse the other person of anything, but simply because we feel that it's the mature thing to do when you are sexually involved. I just took one back in May prior to having surgery and I believe that going together will only strengthen our relationship...unless he comes back positive. Then I'm going to be forced to open a barrel of whoop a$$ on that man! If that happens then all of y'all will know because I'm going to be on every news network across the country.

I would take it if asked and would ask the same in return. If a man refused to take the test, I would have to bounce. To me, that means he has something to hide or that he has participated in behavior that could possibly lead him to test positive.

I take the test every year, not because I partake in risky behavior, but I just think it's the responsible thing to do. I don't go out of my way to get tested, but I get it done when I get my yearly exam. Hell, they're taking blood anyway, so they may as well test it.

I would not object at all. We are talking about lives here. Oddly enough, I asked him when was his last AIDS test this morning. :D

I had my first ever back in November. I am negative. :)

Ditto.

My boyfriend and I go together to get tested for everything. We just went a few months ago....everything was clear.It is just something we do together to 'just make sure' we are OK. I think it is good for a lot of couples who are sexually active with one another to get tested. You have to take care of yourself and he has to take care of his. Like my mother always told me "You Never Know".

I'm not sexually active so I haven't taken the test. Before I do become active I will ask that the person get tested mainly because I firmly believe you only get one body and I'm not taking any chances with the only one I'm gonna get! I don't see any instance where the test would not be needed. If we are going to get down, we are definitely going to have a "share session" before!

Most Definitely!
 

Tested before I got married and then again when I had my blood work done for my pregnancy.......tests came back clear.

Fine with me
 

Being tested in no issue to me. Because I do research with human blood products sometimes, I am requested to get tested for HIV as a part of my job. So, hey, free test!!! Why not.

As far as my husband goes, he got tested when I asked him to before we were married. He did not have a problem with it.

What would be interesting would be to ask all the ministers, priests, pastors, etc. to get tested... That is what my former pastor was requesting folks to do... Hmmmm....

I have another question. After you get tested, how would you respond if your partner requests that you always use condoms? Whenever I become sexually active, I plan on requesting this of my partner, but I'm afraid that he might think that I'm too uptight. I'm just trying to be careful because condoms do break.

I agree
 

I have been tested twice. The fist test was a requirement before marriage (married in another country) and the second test was taken about six months ago when I purchased life insurance coverage. I am NEGATIVE!!!!

Peace

I would take it no question!

Yeah I'd take the test, if they took it with me. (Or let me see their recent results.)

If someone asked me to be tested: Yes, I'd take the test, and not be offended.

I was tested in my early 20s, and it was negative. I was celibate for about 5 years, so I wasn't tested every year. When I got married, I had to have blood tests (although HIV was optional) - MisterMadly and I both opted to take the tests.

As someone who has a close relative who is HIV+, taking the test is crucial - the sooner you know, the sooner you can start treatment that will prolong your life.

I'd be glad that I was with a sexually mature and responsible partner. Even if an HIV test comes back negative, it doesn't mean that other STDs aren't a risk.

If you're worried about condoms breaking, learn to use them properly. Better yet, be the one to put them on him - that way you'll know for sure that it was put on right!

I would definitely take it hands down....my man LaFonz didn't have to ask.........

Actually, all jokes aside I have take 3 tests and come out clean everytime. Yes three, the first one was for a physical, and the last two were for life insurance increases. Ya know each time you increase your life insurance policy they give you a mandatory HIV test. Cuz I don't want my family banging on nobotties door asking for donations when I pass on to GLO-ray! I thank God for my negative tests, but I would expect my man not to give me a problem, and I really don't feel I should have to ask him either.

My (only) partner and I both had ours done when I became pregnant. That could be considered alittle to late but i figure better late than never.
If I had more than one partner i would definitely request a new test to be taken. Although a recent test may suffice for some. HIV has an incubation period that can last as long as 10 years. If your partner has engaged in risky business right before you got together but after his most recent test....there is no way of knowing unless a new test is adminstered.

I was tested when I was pregnant with my son, and my husband was tested to do an intern.

I'd whip my paper out quick. I don't think it's wrong at all to ask someone to be tested. I know my status and have a copy of my lab results confirming it.

I don't have a problem with it. It's been about a year since I've been tested for an insurance policy and since I haven't been with anyone I know that I am free.

Always the odd one out
 

This is sort of hard for me to admit, but y'all my peeps, so ok.

I seem to be the only GCer who hasn't been tested and doesn't want to be. I was JUST talking about this with my friend at home last week. THEN, BET runs all them dang on commercials about being tested. My friend was like, "These are hints, Monique." I was like, whatever. I just wouldn't want to know, and I know that sounds crazy, but I wouldn't. I honestly feel like it's a death sentence. And I also think it gets worse once you find out. I feel like if I were positive as soon as I found out, my health would start to decline. These are all of my irrational fears, right? I also would not be able to tell my sister. The isht just makes me uncomfortable, to tell you the truth.

BUT, all that aside, I have decided to get tested. I'll get it done at my next exam. I still really don't want to, but after reading this thread, I will. I don't want to be irresponsible. :(

In answer to the question, I think it's a reasonable request and if I were asked by a partner to take the test, I'd do it, but we'd do it together.

Re: A serious question: Calling EVERYONE, MEN in particular!!!!!!!
 

I have no problem taking a HIV test. I took a test three weeks ago for my Insurance Company and I came out negative.

What's the name of your insurance company? OthelloStreet, who is your insurance with?

I'm curious. I didn't know insurance providers were making its clients test for HIV. Hmmmmm, I wonder if my provider will insist on this? :confused:

Maybe they do it because they would view it as a pre-existing condition?

New York Life Insurance.

Re: Always the odd one out
 

Ideal08, if I could give you a hug right now, I would, so a cyber one will just have to do. {{{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}

The times are changing
 

I have been celibate for a long time, so I haven't felt the need to take a HIV test. But I think that may also change when I get my next physical.

Way to go!!!
 

Good for you Moke, and Steeltrap!!!!

I haven't been tested for HIV either but I will at my next exam. I'm like Ideal, if my test came out positive my health would decline so quickly because my mind would take over my entire body.

Im with Prudential and each time I would ask them to increase the amount of coverage on my policy, they had me take a physical with their doctor and take and HIV test.....

The Test
 

There is no reason for me to take it because I am not sexually active. However, if I were serious about someone I would request that we take it together before ANY sexual contact.

However, since there isnt any significant other nor has there been any other sexual contact, I didnt see a need. I think that since you guys brought it up, I may get tested at my next exam too.

Even though its a tough pill to swallow, it would make it a lot easier for you (in general) to know. Think about how many people that are infected and dont know. I think its a good idea. Be Safe!

Q

mos def'
 

been there...been tested...

every one should do it!

Re: Always the odd one out
 

I used to feel the same exact way. I always thought that people don't get sick until they find out that they have some type of disease or illness (Cancer included). I just never wanted to know. I even feared getting married because in most states it is a requirement that you have to take a blood test in order to get a marriage license. It wasn't until after I had to have a blood transfusion that I first got tested. Even though donated blood is "suppose" to be safe I just had to know something for sure. Not only that, but it seem as if the week after I had the transfusion is when reports came out on the news about people getting some type of virus through blood transfusions (I think that it was the West Nile Virus, but I could be wrong). Call me paranoid, but the thought of foreign blood in my body didn't sit too well with me :eek:. It wasn't until after the HIV test that I was okay with the situation. No HIV or West Nile Virus. I really do think that I'm a closet hypochondriac. Anyway, even though I'm cool with being tested now I still get a little anxious about the whole thing.

Ideal,
I was the same way, until I had to get tested as a requirement when I was pregnant. That was a long two weeks. It was negative, and I've been tested twice since then. All were negative. I'll go with you, if you need some support!! :)

re: insurance Some companies view HIV as a preexisting condition. Medicines to treat HIV are VERY expensive, so they pass the cost onto the consumer, in this case the policy holder. :(

I'm with Allstate... I don't know too much about the policy because my parents are paying for it. I just remember having that done around the time I got my physical and assumed that was what it was for.

I don't want to imply that they do this on a regular because I couldn't tell you, I just remember doing it.