Boys
 

I've always been a very optimistic, trusting person... I really have faith in the goodness of people until they mess up.

However, I'm beginning to wonder -- is there really such thing as a truly good guy? Or are all males born to be somewhat unreliable and untrustworthy?

Sorry... it's been a rough week.

I think there are pretty equal amounts of unreliability and untrustworthyness (new word?) spread about both sexes.

I am pretty sure your will stir up the guys on GC with this one. They will come storming in with their torches and pitchforks and carry banners that read "Girls suck too!"

Damnit! You beat me to it!

Libra thank you for what you a said about guys! Some Good Some Bad!

Yes, I am one of the Good Guys! At least Try to Be!

Do I fool around, NO! Do I have someone, NO!

Why, I am to damn old to mess around with a 20-30 year old person. But one never know what is old!!!!!:) :)


I hate to wear Hats!!!!

Hats make people go bald early!;)

Yes, I believe there ARE truly good guys out there. The problem is, you find the one good guy, the one guy in the WHOLE WORLD that you would give up anything just to have a chance with him, one of the following happens:

1)you find out he's gay. (it's happened to me more than once, actually)

2)you find out he has a girlfriend. (happened MANY times to me)

3)he's so good that EVERYONE loves him, so why would you have a chance with him? That's my current situation. I've fallen hopelessly for this guy who is one of my best friends, and I don't think he has any clue. It's so pathetic...I'd do anything for him. He wanted me to help him with a project, so I stayed up all night(literally) helping him with it. He needed someone to help him study, so I quizzed him on his study guide for a few hours. He's having problems with a friend, so I sit in his room, quietly listening to his problems and giving advice when necessary. It's so pathetic, because I neglect things that don't need neglecting just to spend time with this guy...and I just feel like he's too good for me.

Sorry for that rambling mess, guys. Guess I'm frustrated too.

And yes, girls can be pretty stupid sometimes too. I try to be fair. :D

:(

no dude, girls are cool - i'm a fan

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Just seduce the boy already. Most of the guys on here will tell you that words just confuse us. Action.
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See, SAIRose, I don't have those problems. They have never turned out to be gay... And, if they have a girlfriend, whatever... I can find another guy. And if they are so great that everyone loves them, well, I usually win!

My problem is that they start out good, and then I find out what they are really like. But, it's too late because I already care...

Yeah, I've had that happen too. *hug* :( Can I ask what happened? You can reply here or PM me if you wish.

I think all males are born with the CALPABILITY to become nice, trustworthy, lovable, adorable, and/or reliable people. Most just choose to run as far from that as possible. I don't mean this in a derogatory way, I'm merely trying to state a fact :)

People of the human race can't be trusted period. Not just men.

UGHHHHH
 

Guys are the devil!!!!

I thought it would get easier when we got older (you know, when guys are supposed to mature)...but my friend's older sister is 31 and she says it just gets harder!

Here's my problem...
 

You know how guys always bitch about how girls always go for the assholes and the good guys are "just the friend?" Well, I've had really strong feelings for the "good guy friend" for several years, but I don't know how to tell him because I'm afraid that he doesn't feel the same way! And if he doesn't feel the same way, i don't want to screw up an almost best-friend-ship of 6 years! Any advice as to how I might go about telling him? I have suspicions that he might feel the same way, but you can never be sure, you know?

Any thoughts?

Yes, there's such a thing as a good guy -- I know: I married one. However, everyone's opinion of what makes a "good guy" differs, so I won't go into detail about what characteristics you should look for. I will say that what helped me was to sit down one night and really think about what I wanted from a partner, and what I had to offer a partner. I was really clear about the things I would and wouldn't tolerate, and I wrote them down clearly in my journal. Four months after I did that, a guy walked into my life who became my husband 18 months later.

Dude I hate to sound like a really negative person but hon, I totally agree with you. I've been screwed over time and time again by guys AND girls.....I don't trust anyone. Maybe not the most enjoyable way to live, but it works for me. I've gone through a lot of hell to realize that the only person I can ever really really trust is myself....sad, but true for me. Oh well.

As for my current guy situation....:mad: that's all I have to say.

My "friend" Josh IM'd me earlier and said something along the lines of how I should quit feeling sorry for myself and my problems aren't really problems BLAH BLAH BLAH and he's like take this as good advice b/c I'm happily in love with Erin (his g/f) So I told him I don't need his kind of advice when all it does is make me feel even worse and friends shouldn't be like that. Then he told me to stop craving attention and that he was going to stop paying attention to me b/c our friendship wasn't worth that much anyway. :eek:

Seriously, this day has been like some weird ass, bizarre, bad dream. :confused:

The problem here is that you're talking about boys, not MEN. Boys aren't worth your time... men are.

Tell it on the mountain!:D

I think SisterMadly has the right idea. Any guy can seem perfect at first when he's on his best behavior. It's six months in that you find out how moody, tempermental and selfish they can be. But you know what, everyone on the planet has issues and emotional scars that make them a pain in the ass sometimes. It all comes down to whether or not what's good balances out what's bad, how bad it gets and if you can deal with it.

My boyfriend has caused me a lot of headaches but I know I'm no picnic..... Ahhhh love.

Sorry too lazy to scroll dow nto see who posted it, but whoever wrote that they have had a best friend for 6 years and have strong feelings for them, I say discuss it. Not come out and say look I love you, lol. I mean I was in the EXACT same situation. Me and one of my closest guy friends, we went out, talked on the phone for hours, etc. Everyone else said we ACTED like we were "together" and that it seemed natural. Well I had nary a clue as to how he felt about me, but slowly we both kinda broached the topic of what it would be like if we were more than friends. It started out like "ha, ha, so-and-so thought we were together...would it be weird if..." and eventually we found out we both felt the same way.

In the end we agreed that it would be better for us not to test the waters and potentially ruin a good friendship, but it feels much better to have our feelings out in the open. Also, a little sexual tension/flirtation never hurt anyone! ;)

boys have just been redeemed in my eyes
:D

When people stop being independent and start "needing", then they start to lose their own value and end up being taken advantage of and feeling bad in the end.

-Rudey
--I love guys who talk about being nice and would suck a dude's dick to make their girl happy or girls that would quit school to spend more time with their true love...

Where did that come from?!? :confused:

boys have their ups and downs.. it seems like every time you want nothing more than a NICE boy you get the badass ones, and everytime you just want a couple dates you get the ones that are like super sweet (to the point of irritation)...