How and where did you and your SO meet? Who was the aggressor?
 

As I read about people talking about their significant others on here, I'm just curious to know how and where did you meet each other? What was your first date like and who was the "next level" aggressor? You or your SO? I'm single, so I don't have any stories to tell, but I would like to read other stories though.

Our first date was at a comic book shop since we both enjoy a (manga) Japanese samurai story called Lone Wolf and Cub. After we left the store, we had dinner. It was a fun date. I remember the look on his face when I walked in the store. He kept averting his stare the whole time we were there. I would catch him looking at me, not in a stalker way but the cute "puppy dog eyes" way. :) He and I are both Scorpios and we are both aggressive but I stepped back and let him do the "man thing" and be the aggressor. He knew at the end of the date I wanted to go out with him again. Needless to say, it's been a year and 6 months now. Last year at one of his best friends wedding, he and I had been together only 6 months and other guests there thought we were married. His friends thought we had been together longer than 6 months. LOL!

My husband was the best friend (from home) of our sweetheart my junior year. Said sweetheart threw us an off campus party one night, invited his BF from home up "because there would be a ton of hot chicks there." I couldn't take my eyes off him for a long time. Finally introduced myself, we spent the whole night talking. The following weekend, I drove 2 hours to the town where he lived to go to a family dinner. I was the aggressor, and we've been married for over 7 years. :)

I'm really laughing at the use of the word "agressor." "Date me!! NOW!!!"


My wife's sister introduced us. At church. Yep, we met at church on a Sunday morning. Our first date was a minor league baseball game. I guess I'd say that I was the persistent one, at least at first, though my mother would have said my wife chased me until I caught her. ;)

I've known my husband since middle school, but we never really talked much until college. We had a lot of the same friends and took a lot of the same classes, just avoided each other, I guess? Once we were in college, I invited him to come to eat with me in the campus dining hall so I would have someone there I at least knew, and we wound up talking for hours about nuclear weapons. We kept meeting in the dining hall after that, and kept getting kicked out by the cafeteria ladies for making elaborate sculptures out of our leftovers and for staying too long. I tried to get him to ask me on a "real" date, but my attempts at subtlety failed miserably and somehow we just kind of wound up as a couple without any of the usual dating crap.

I met my husband at a restaurant we both worked at. I invited him to a party, then in the days afterward he would come stop by my house. I wouldn't say either it us was more aggresive, but I made the first move. Funny thing that it was against policy for us to date, but we did for almost 8 months before anyone, except his family who also worked there, found out. I think the best was this obnoxious waitress who kept insisting that he was making goo-goo eyes at her...little did she know...

I'll try to keep this short. When I was finishing up my last year at the University of Minnesota, there was a coffee shop (Nina's) that I used to go to where I would study. I actually had been going there for about a year. That was also his favorite spot, but we never saw each other. And I know at one time or another we were there at the same time, we just didn't notice each other. We became e-mail buddies, until one weekend he told me he was coming to visit his parents. So, we agreed to meet up at Nina's (I also brought two of my friends with me, just incase). So, we all talked for a few hours, ate, had coffee, etc. Long before I met him/talked to him/e-mailed him, I applied to the vet schools I wanted to attend. I got accepted to my first choice, which happened to be in the same state where he lives, just over an hour away. I didn't know anyone in Michigan, so we hung out a lot during that summer. Although, I thought he was really, really hot, I never pursued him in that way. We were just friends for the longest, I just thought he was a really fun person to be around. I don't think we ever really had an actual "first date" because we never hung out in that way. Eventually, one thing led to another, and we've been together ever since.

I would say he was the one who pursued me. He disagrees, but I think it was because I told him about this guy who asked me out on a date. That's when he started moving a little faster.:rolleyes: So, he was the "aggressor".

My SO is friends with my sorority sisters, so we actually were around each other a lot before ever dating. One of the girls told me he thought I was hot (they like to shit stir, which I love about them), and when the guy I was dating at the time pulled some unforgiveable stuff he kind of sidled into the picture. I finally dumped the other guy and agreed to go on a date with him and that was that.

Long story short, I met him at work! He came by my office to ask someone else (who wasn't there) a question, we got to talking for about a half hour, and before he got back to his office, I found him on the email address book and emailed him a link to a game to play via excel. We lined up a date that day!

I met my bf at a day party, but I don't remember meeting him! I swear I was sober, too. I was dating one of his older brothers at the time, and my bf is a year younger than me, so he wasn't really memorable to me that day. We ended up hanging out and seeing each other off and on for a few years after that, but we didn't actually start dating until April 2010. I went out dancing with him and some of our mutual friends. We argue about who made the first move, but I still insist it was him!

Blind date. He needed a date for his formal, one of his brothers was put on the case, and asked our president if she had any suggestions. My name got thrown out there, I gave the okay to pass along my number, he texted me the next day, we met the next evening at his formal... and we've been dating ever since.

I don't think either one was really an aggressor. He kissed me first, and showed me he was feeling what I was thinking. He invited me over all the time after that, so I guess it was technically him- but I sure pursued it too!

One of my sorority sisters introduced us back when I was a freshman and he and she were sophomores. She thought we'd make a great couple, but for whatever reason it didn't "take".

Fast forward to the end of my junior year / end of his senior year. We'd each racked up a couple of psycho exes in the interim, so each of us had ideas about what we didn't want in a partner. Anyway, I went to a party at his dorm. Neither of us knew a lot of people at the party, so we started chatting with each other and dancing. We went to the after-party and danced some more, then left and chatted some more. Then the sun rose...

He and I each stayed on for grad school. We got engaged during my senior year and got married after we finished our grad programs.

I couldn't say either of us was really the aggressor, though as I recall, I kissed him first.

I met my husband online. I was not going to "date" him because he didn't fit the profile (smoker, among other things), but he was funny, so I figured we could have lunch as a reasonable escape from work. During the lunch, I said that I had a date with another guy that night, but now I didn't want to go. He said "dump the mofe. We'll go out." And we did.

My first date with my bf was Coronas at the river near Santa Cruz. It was super cute. :) I wanted to know why he had decided to go to school in CA (he's from WA), and he said he'd tell me over beers @ the river.

I met my husband through a local punk rock website. He sent me a message on AIM because he liked my posts and thought I was funny. We talked on AIM for weeks and weeks until he finally asked to call me. Then he asked me out on a date, which went awesome. Then we met up at a show the next week, and I kissed him. Turns out we knew the same people, had been at the same parties and shows, just had never been introduced.

AAAAAAAAAANnnd then my mom and dad found out that he was 21 and I was 16. Oops. We were banned from seeing each other for 6 months. We talked on the phone and on AIM during that time, and at the end of our "ban" we were allowed to date in groups, and then they eventually just said, "behave yourselves and don't end up pregnant".

So in the beginning the agressor was both of us. In the "ban" stages, it was definitely me.

That was almost 10 years ago, our first date. We've been married for over two years now. And still madly in love! And my parents love him to pieces. They call him "Saint Patrick" for putting up with me.

My boyfriend and I grew up about 30 minutes from each other and actually met once in passing about 5 years ago, but neither of us really remembered it.

I reconnected with an old friend about a year ago, and I would go and hang out with her at her job, where he also works. He's really shy, so we didn't talk very much, just conversations with other people. There was something about him that I liked and I wanted to get to know him, but I couldn't get him to crack in person. We started talking more via facebook. One day last May he updated his status about going to a local bar that most of my friends go to. I commented and told him to have a beer for me because my car was in the shop and I didn't have a way to get there. He offered to drive me if I wanted to go, and I accepted the offer.

After that night we hung out a lot, but since we're both pretty shy so neither of us could make the move. Some of our friends helped us out there, and we've been together ever since. =]

I think we were both the agressors! We met at a convention, but had both heard of each other. The last convention I had attended was in the middle of some cornfield, so I was excited to hear that he was going to drive there. I told him a joke, he loved it, and I said, "I'm just sucking up to you because I heard you had a car here," and walked away. He followed me everywhere that evening and most of the weekend. We had some terribly interesting discussions, and at the last night, he made such a devastatingly confident move to get me to dance that I knew he could very well be my Mr. Right.

Which doesn't mean we haven't had our share of arguments! I once read that every couple needs to have "the showdown argument" prior to really deciding to make it or break it. We've had a few of those - but always come back to each other. It's very satisfying when others notice it, too. <3

Online, in WoW. We chatted and I visited and after being dumped by 'the' ex I visited again and we teased each other into something more. He jokes that he seduced me, I reply that I know he did and it was hard work making him do it. It can be a difficult relationship for every reason except for him. He's awesome.

2+ years in the bag, as soon as I finish my degree I'm moving.

Met my husband in English III in HS. After school, I was telling my friend about this nice guy I met who was new to the school (like me) and he was gonna be my new bf. Then he passed by my bus on his way home and I called him over and gave him my "business card" (geek, I know but we made them in Comp Lit Class) He called me a week later saying that he'd left my number in his pants and even after a wash and dry it was still intact so he took that as a sign he should call. I told him good thing because I told my friend that he was going to be my new bf. He took that to mean we were dating and here we are 10 yrs later been married for 5!

Met my wife at a Fraternity (our fraternity is co-ed) dance. She was part of a colony and I was on staff, but in the group who became the first pledge class (the documents for chartering went to national before she joined). About a month after her chapter chartered (and she initiated) they went to visit another chartering about 3 hours from their chapter. The lead alumni staff member for the area asked me to go visit them for a planning meeting the next day rather than going straight home. Since I had no life, I agreed. :)

My radio had gone out that day, so rather than travel for 3 hours in silence (which drives me nuts), I wanted someone to go with me. Most of the chapter that was there were on one side or the other of the issue that the lead alumni staff member was concerned about so I was down to two choices and one of them would have driven me nuts in 5 minutes. She was the other. We talked for 3 hours in the car and then another 3 hours while she attempted to contact a male brother of the chapter for me to stay with. By the end of the 6 hours we were definitely interested in Dating. I guess I was the aggressor in dating, but she was the aggressor in getting married.

My boyfriend and I met on our very first day of college. We had a class together. We didn't start dating until a few months later. I guess he was the aggressor but he wasn't exactly aggressive...he just asked me out for Chipotle. :p

Hahaha, Chipotle on a first date? This made me laugh.

Then again, I met my S/O in a known pick-up joint.

My husband and I met the last week of August of 2004. The young adults group at my then church & another church co-sponsored weekly happy hours (Catholic Church), and on this particular occassion he showed up where I proceeded to tell the story of earning my first (and last) speeding ticket that morning that cost me $175 and how my days of gloating to friends & family about being the only one left that had never got a speeding ticket, much less pulled over for anything was over. A few getting to know you emails were exchanged for a couple of weeks. I had kinda started to like him, eventhough I knew he was older (ten years older). So when he came to this next happy hour, I made sure to sit by him. So we talk, eat, drink, laugh. I'm unsure what brought it up, but I mentioned that the night before I had seen on TV the first Resident Evil (RE) movie. The second RE movie was due out that weekend, so I had mentioned that I intended to go and see it they next day (Saturday) because I had to see what happens next to which he replied, "why dont you invite me to a movie sometime?" To which I said, "Oh do you want to go?" He said he did, so I told him I would call him in the morning and we could set up a time to go. Admittedly I was intoxicated when I asked him that question, and I guess he thought I was more intoxicated than I actually was, and was not expecting me to remember to call him the next morning, but I did and he was pleasantly suprised :)

We made plans to see the first showing of the show. Just prior to seeing the movie we hung out and talked a bit at the coffee shop that was next door to the movies. We saw the movie, and I thought the "date" was going to end then, but it was a nice day and those that have seen RE2, know there is a lot of shooting in it, so I was aksed if I would like to go with him to the shooting range. I wasnt quite sure how to respond to that, especially since at that time I had never been to a range much less shot a gun before. I expressed that concern, and he told me not to worry that he would teach me. With an unsure reluctance, I said sure why not!

We get to the gun range, and he teaches me how to shoot a 9mm and very much to my amazement I shot well and rather enjoyed it! I still have my target from that day! :) Once again, I'm assuming the "date" is winding to a close so I stated to him that I needed to get back and eat dinner soon because I was starting to get shaky from where I hadnt had anything to eat really since breakfast. To which he replied, "Oh why dont you come over to my house for dinner, I have some steaks that I can grill out." I said sure, and he brought me back where he grilled out steaks. After dinner we watched another movie I hadnt seen, "Old School." When the movie was over, I told him I really had to go home and take care of my dog because she had been home alone all day and obviously had not been let out. So he drives me home and we had our first kiss :) and he left. He called me when he got home to tell me what a great time he had that day and wanted to see me the next day. I told him probably not because I had to study for a nursing quiz (which was true) and needed to study and catch up on reading.

However, the next day he called me to ask how I was doing. That evening he showed up at my house and suprised me with a beautiful purple orchid and we sat around and talked for a bit. I'm unsure how it got brought up or who brought it up, but we decided to make the commitment to be a couple. We shared another kiss and he went home. :)

Thus the timeline went like this:
August 27,2004 we met for the first time
September 11, 2004 we had our first date (and was also the one year anniversary of his divorce being final)
September 12, 2004 we became a couple (and also was the date of my oldest step-son's 13th birthday)
December 24, 2004 we were engaged
May 13, 2006 we got married and the rest is history!

We still celebrate all of our anniversaries! :)

I met my last relationship while I was engaged to someone else. Once I was single and making a new life we had gone to dinner and a drink with my lab partner and this guy she was on a date with. I asked at the end of the night if we had been on a date, he said no, and we laughed about that often.

We got together later, I was more aggressive, but he decided it was for real real when I he had to take me to the emergency room for severe dehydration from the stomach flu he gave me. He knew he was done for when in a serious health crisis I could make jokes about the Oregon Trail when they coded me with cholera, and apologized to the nurse because I ate asparagus before providing a urine sample.