Rerushing again (Fall '10)
 

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Is she a member of a sorority, or just a legacy?

If she is a member of a sorority, you may or may not be a legacy (all chapters vary, though I'm not sure if I have ever read of cousins of a member counting as a legacy).

If she is simply a legacy of a chapter, and not a member, this has no bearing on your recruitment, other than perhaps helping secure a rec from the relation by which she is a legacy.

Schools do not have legacy policies. GLOs (may) have legacy policies, which vary from organization to organization.

Are you maybe confusing legacy with alumna? Your cousin is an alumna. Younger women within a prescribed degree of kinship to her -- like sister, daughter or granddaughter -- might be legacies.

Each organization does lagacies differently, it doesn't go by school. Ask you're cousin - she would know.

Sidenote: I was told that one NPC considers 1st cousins legacies, but I'm not sure if that's true.

ETA: MC Jinx!

Alpha Chi Omega Legacy Policy
A legacy is a potential member whose relative is also a sorority or fraternity member. If you’re an Alpha Chi Omega legacy, that means your sister, mother, grandmother or great-grandmother is an Alpha Chi Omega member.

http://www.alphachiomega.org/index.aspx?id=76

Yes, you are both technically correct... but the way a legacy is viewed does differ by school. At some schools being a legacy gives you a head start- a way to differentiate you from the crowd. At others, legacies are not very common and are more of a novelty. Regardless, having general knowledge of the Greek system is usually a good thing. Although it may not affect how the groups view you, it can help you better understand the recruitment process.

Kappa's legacy is the same as AXO's: sister, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother.

Atrainer- you were attempting recruitment as a commuter before, right? Good luck at the new school!

Define "didn't get along". If you make it an issue, and talk about it, then other people will think it's a big deal. When I rushed, I thought that a disagreement I had had in high school over a boy with an active sister would cause them to cut me. She ended up being the person who delivered my bid card (I COBed), and it turned out that she didn't even remember the incident.


What does "technically" mean in your circumstance? I would check the national web site of the particular sorority to see what they count as legacy status.

Especially since her cousin graduated and will probably have NOTHING to do with MS...

Atrainer89, I would advise you to read more and post less.

I think the girl she's talking about is the ex-roomie. I think it's two completely different thoughts mushed together. Cousin said she'd be a legacy - then talking about ex-roomie.

This.

But she's been given that advice already, and so far . . . .

NO YOU WON'T. Legacy policies DO NOT vary from chapter to chapter. They are NATIONAL/INTERNATIONAL policies. The Alpha Chi Omega chapter at Virginia Tech has the exact same legacy policy as every other Alpha Chi Omega chapter. Either your cousin is wrong or you are misunderstanding her. In any case, if you go into recruitment with this attitude you will be setting yourself up for the same disappointing recruitment you had at your previous school. Not that you're not already doing a great job of that here. How many flipping times can people warn you about what you're doing here?

I apologize for the misunderstanding.

Awesome. Yet another pnm who hasn't even gone through recruitment yet who feels compelled to dispense advice and opinions on sorority policies and recruitment.

Sorry. You are right, and I do know nothing about the situation.

Huh?

ETA: Ok, I didn't see her original post. Thanks for QFP, BR.

Read BR's post?

"Originally Posted by ucsbgirl
You're not a legacy, but your cousin can still write you a rec (the cousin graduated, right?) and since she knows you well (assuming) she'll be able to write lots of nice things about your best qualities. "

Wait I'm so confused. I'm a current member. But I don't understand why this is bad advice. The PNM's cousin CAN write her a nice rec, right? Sorry, I am genuinely curious.

Because non-members have no business speaking for sororities and their policies.

Your cousin may write a recommendation for you. If recruitment isnt that competitive or there are not a lot of legacies coming through, they may recruit you harder in an attempt to "keep it in the family," but you will not be extended legacy courtesies since you do not fit into the category of what is defined as a legacy for AXO.

In other words, as stated above, you need to change your attitude going in to recruitment as you are not guaranteed membership in any group.

Of subject, and no offense to the original poster, but does anyone else think of a training bra when they see the name Atrainer?

No, but for whatever reason your comment made me think of that commercial they used to play with politically correct names for athletes. One of them is a male cheerleader who said, "I'm not a cheerleader, I'm an athletic supporter." lol!

Wow...aren't we a little sensitive??! I said, "No offense." I can't help it if your name makes me think of a training bra. DUH!

As for being very mature, all of the posters are being very polite to tell you that you are mistaken in your ideas about AXO's legacy policy. This is to help you have a more productive recruitment process without erroneous preconceived ideas. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

No one has judged a book by its cover. If I judged you by the name, I'd assume you had small breasts, but I have no idea what you look like and really don't care what your bra size is. I just laugh when I see your name because it triggers a memory. Quit acting like a petulant child. Is Atrainer the name your were given at birth? No. Does it define you as a person? No. So don't take it so personally.

Okay...take a deep breath and don't take it as bashing. A lot of PNMs come on GC and ask a question. When they get an answer they weren't expecting, they see it as bashing. Reread the posts with a different tone (sometimes it is hard to tell what tone people are using in their posts since you can't hear how they would say things...all you can hear is how you are reading it in your head.) Read the posts like you are trying to give good advice to someone who really doesn't understand that what they think is true is wrong.

Everyone here really does want you to have a successful recruitment, and that includes not going into recruitment thinking that you are a legacy to AXO because of your cousin. Trust me, we know how hard it is when people think they are a shoe in for things, and it doesn't work out the way they think it should. You've been through it once before, so we really want you to have a better experience this time. :)

Here's some advice - SHUT UP!

You're making yourself look horrible, and what's worse is that every sorority at Virginia Tech will be able to pick out the transfer athletic training major who's cousin is a Tech AXO. We have at least one poster who is an active at Tech now, many others at Virginia schools with friends in sororities at Tech, and countless others lurking! Stop digging a deeper hole for yourself and, for the love of God, stop posting!

If you're thinking it's rude to judge a book by its cover then sorority recruitment is definitely NOT for you.

IBTF

F?

Flounce, of course!

:cool:

Oh duuuuhhhhh! :o

I know the OP is planning on going through COR, but the judging a book by the cover thing is still going to happen there, particularly if you don't know a lot of the members personally by the time the first parties roll around.

It's not that sorority members are ALL superficial there, it's just that there's not enough time in a recruitment setting to go deeper than the "what's your major, what are your hobbies" kind of conversation.

Although I'm sure at least a handful of sorority members at the OP's school will know a little bit about her given her posting history on GC.

Irony irony irony irony

since you have shared so much information about yourself on greekchat, it would probably be best that you NOT list your cousin's affiliation on your recruitment enrollment form. people might be able to figure out who you are and read your posts and they don't present you in your best light.

atrainer, legacies just don't matter as much as they used to, so i wouldn't worry so much about not being a legacy. usually it only gets you back to the 2nd round of parties during formal recruitment. informal recruitment is a whole 'nother ball game, and being a legacy is no big deal-other than the fact the sorority might think that they have an edge over the other chapters . sororities don't have to ask you back.

we do hope that you do well in recruitment-we are just trying to help you not shoot yourself in the foot.

Marry me. :D

Deal. But only if we stay away from teal and red because then half of GC would be shit talking at our reception.

I posted what I did because it's kind of like slapping a babbling person - you need to bring them back to reality. I think laying out the facts was the slap in the face to put it in perspecitve.

I would like to say I love you all for QFPing.