The affectionate to sex parts
 

Sorry for the title, I meant to change it, but couldn't.

Anyway I always wondered about the timing of when 2 people go from getting to know each other to affectionate, then to the intimacy. How many dates did it take? I know its not a number and I know its when 2 people feel comfortable that they do this, but exactly at what point does it start being comfortable to do so?

I see in movies all the time, it's like virtually the same day, all of this happens, but in real life, how long did it take for your partner(s) to start smuggling kisses, hugs, show affection before getting down to the nitty gritty? Is it the same in real life as in the movies??

Just curious is all. I always wondered this in reality how long to 2 people finally show physical affection for one another. I am imagining the casual sex or one night stands are different?

Sorry but none of these have happened to me before so was just wondering. Thanks

it varies for everyone. i doubt that people are gonna come up in here and give you more details than that.

but jeeeeeez yougc, one thread was enough. don't you have people in real life that you can talk to about dating and relationships?

If you're not walking it on in there in under 10 minutes you are just the most pathetic loser ever.

Thank you for posting on GreekChat and goodnight.

*choke* LMAO

No. I have never been in a relationship before. Nor am I around anyone who does or can ask this or I wouldn't ask on here. I was just curious. I have no idea what any of your answers mean.

Hopefully not long, especially if it is True Love. Seriously, kiss the first night you meet someone. That is how to tell if anything is there or not anyway.

yougc how old are you?

I'm in my mid 30's.

erm....and you have NO ONE to talk to about relationships? you have to resort to random strangers?

*mute*

and...at this point there will be no more responses to this thread from me.

Troll.

yup, the scent is wafting to my nostrils. lol.

go to bed.

get some head.

kill em dead

'til they red.

yall silly.

Head idea is a good one....hmmm

make em spread. *snicker*

'cause I said

^^ da phuck are you?

No I actually have no friends. I can't talk to my family since they are all much older and busy. So I'm real new to the relationship arena. I only falsely believe that romance and relationships are like in the movies. I have no real in person experience to actually see. So yes I resort to strangers. Is that a problem? There's no rule that I can't ask on here. I mean its not like I would ever meet you guys and expose you to the world for shame.

Suuuuuuure....

Troll or sock puppet. Too formulaic in trying to get a response that she/he knows will be more snarky than helpful.

I have a friend who did "everything physical" with her boyfriend in the first month of the relationship and they waited to say "I love you" for a year. I say this to say that, like a few other people have already told you, every relationship is different. Some people become involved physically very early on. Some people don't become involved physically until they are married. And there are so many gray areas in-between. Good luck to you!

I'm not sure I understand your answer, but it's ok. I can go elsewhere on the internet for answers.

Thanks for answering! Best one. Interesting.

lmao :D

It depends. Context would be nice. You can't ask for such personal advice without us knowing more about the individuals involved.

Why are you inexperienced in this arena? Is the other person also inexperienced?

Well then I'm more interested in a general public advice. Doesn't have to be real, but just in theory advice.

I don't understand your questions. And what other person? There is nobody else but me asking this.

Good advice on this subject cannot be given without knowing something about the parties involved. Without that information, the only correct answer you'll get is this: "It depends."

What 'it' depends on is the personalities and backgrounds of the people involved. And by "other person," I'm talking about this individual you may or may not have a relationship with, dummy.

wow I did not know it was that complicated to answer this question. I am looking elsewhere for the answers and moving on from here. I'm not in a relationship with another person. I'm just asking in general. NO need for name calling. Geez.

on the 2% chance that you aren't a troll- i'd say you need to do some serious self (and perhaps professional) evaluation to discover the reasons why at 30 you:
a) don't have close friends in real life
b) have never been in a relationship
c) don't know the answers to the questions you've been asking.

i seriously thought you were a teen. not everyone needs close friendships, but the fact that you're coming to strangers to ask these personal questions means that YOU need them. seek help. fix yo life.


and your post is still a
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you know... i wonder if i know the OP. i know a guy... 37 years old, never been kissed, never had a girlfriend, no close "friends." Sad thing is, he's a GOOD looking guy.

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lol.
i already told you, just go to the bathroom next time man.

*wonders what kind of body you have where your heart belches*