Dude . . . you've already been common-law married to Rob, and we all know how that turned out.

Yeah, me too... make sure I get my invite.

Ahh alcohol abuse, it will ruin even the best of relationships...

Maybe the second time will be the charm.

There will be no second time, Mr. Collin - this time I'll demand a ring, now that I know you're good for it . . . no more of this 'common law' shit for this high-class individual

Thank the heavens my huzbin proposed after 18 months. And we never did technically live together, even though I can count on one hand the number of times I actually stayed at my place once I moved here, and that's only because he was out of town.

But I'll send y'all nice parting gifts when you have your party.
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Get it? Parting?

How about an Old English and Sunset burger?

Collin
- Only the best

Since my upcoming marriage is already doomed, I want to have a kick ass party also! I am going to register for everything I have ever wanted so at least I will have cool presents when it all falls apart.

I haven't even planned my wedding, and I am already planning my divorce. :(

You should have a divorce shower to celebrate that and then you can get more presents!

Me too...so don't worry about it, there are plenty of us who have doomed our marriages.

We could call it Delta Mu (Doomed Marriages)

Ooh, I am so registering for my divorce shower. That is gonna be awesome.

I was driving along a few weeks ago when I saw this car parked on the side of the road. It had cans tied to the back and streamers and all that jazz . . . and in the back window, somebody had painted, "JUST DIVORCED."

I laughed.

Ah man...I've been with the boy for about 2 years and lived with him for just at one year.

Obviously if we get married, it won't last at ALL. Hopefully at least until the party's over and I get the gifts to the apartment.

blueangel--

You are stating some stats and want back up disproving what these stats say...

If Rudey was here, he'd call you a "copy paster" :rolleyes:

But most folks are much nicer than the some folks who can more ruthless about what you are saying...

My question to you is after all the data filtering:

Are you married?
Do you want to be?
And will you be getting married within the next year?

I do not think you can answer those questions unless you have seen the "promise land" of marriage and actually been on the other side...

Then I also do not think you can begin to answer questions if you have not been a party in divorce.

Just so you know, I'm married. I was married when I was 34. I only knew my husband for 5 months before marrying him. I also did not believe in co-habitating with him before marriage--but that was for my own ideals. I would NEVER assert my thoughts on others and what works for them.

I have seen marriages flop after some time and end in divorce, which is always bitter. Some folks co-habitated, some did not.

The only consistency I have seen in divorce is that one loses a lot of weight when going through it--it is like the best diet ever...

Marriage and staying married is a lot tougher. And I truly recommend some form of marriage enrichment before and during marriage if folks want to make it work.

The best suggestion is from the Gottman's Institute that studies how people truly pair bond with each other with research in top tiered psychology and marriage counseling journals.

As for my marriage--after 2 year mark--I do love my husband. But for me, marrying before 30-something would have never worked. Most folks don't stabilize emotionally, financially, mentally, physically, career-wisely, etc. until they are in their 30's.

Unfortunately, your best times to have children are in your teens and 20's...

Oh well...

Whose house are we having the Delta Mu party at? When do I get my invite? Can we do recruitment and put out a brochure as to what to wear...oh wait, I know, let's all wear our wedding dresses and tuxes!;)