From my experience I have found that Greek men and non-Greek men can both me mature and immature. It all depends on they way they are. I have dated both a greek and non-greek and found both to be nice guys. My boyfried now is Greek and he is wonderful!! He isn't wonderful because he is Greek, he is wonderful because of who he is!
As for the Greek dating a non-Greek thing. It can work. The non-Greek just has to learn that there will be committments that the Greek has to make. I didn't understand this compleatly until I became Greek myself.
As for the special 'perks' you get from a chapter when you get engaged or lavaliered...don't not set your sights out to date a Greek guy just for the notoriety of it. Find a guy who makes you happy http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

s_leigh 20
G-Phi-B

This is in reply to all of the women who have had bad experiences with Greek Men.
Just because you don't care for them done not mean that you should state the name of the orginiation that they are from and say how horrible the chapter is. That my friends, is just rude and very childish. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif

This is in reply to all of the women who have had bad experiences with Greek Men.
Just because you don't care for them done not mean that you should state the name of the orginiation that they are from and say how horrible the chapter is. That my friends, is just rude and very childish. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif

I have to agree with s_leigh20 about date who makes you happy. As from my point of view I believe neophyte of any organization tends to be more wild or relationship challenged. Its like when you first come to college, for most people the first semester is party enjoy being away from home and have fun, and as you stay in the system you start to realize you can play but you also have to work. In a Fraternity or Sorority, the neophytes have there fun when they first get initiated and then instead of always having fun, they start to have to plan and organize before they can have fun. So in all fairness I believe as far as greeks go, the neophytes have more of a commitment problem then Senior members, because they are always on the run partying and seeing what they can get themselves into. Just my $.02

I know where referring to men in this topic but I'd like to speak about my experience with greek women as well. I think it can go both ways for both greek men/greek women. I think many people here have hit the nail on the head that those that are greek are a step ahead in the beginning. You both have common ground and understanding of each others commitments. I will say on behalf of the "nice" greek guys that we do often times get lost in the shuffle *L* Often times we're judged with our brothers from what our fraternities reputation is. Not that I agree with it but thats just the way it is. I myself never had a "steady" relationship with a greek girl. I guess as James coined the term I was a cuddy buddy to many and party buddy too. I will say some of my best girl "friendships" have been with greek women. At least those worth mentioning. For me, college was just a time to have fun and bond with my Brothers.

Kevin
Beta Theta Pi Alumnus
Epsilon Mu
Sigma Class Spring '94
George Mason '97

[QUOTE]Originally posted by lilnongreek:
[B]hey all,
i'm a non greek myself and interested in a kappa...now i really wasn't aware of much of their reputation until my friend told me quite a bit...i have to say, i'm a little critical of how well this could actually work b/c although he's been a perfect gentlemen, i've heard quite a bit of stories.

i guess i'll just have to wait and see if it all blows up or not. oh well.

where do u go to school bc that sounds alot like out Kappa chapter...

The non-Greek just has to learn that there will be committments that the Greek has to make.

This has been the major problems I have had when dating a non greek. You get questions like "why would u let people treat u that way?" " Isn't that buying your friends?" and many other lovely questions.

However, these questions have also been asked by many of my non greek friends...

all you need to realize is that this doesn't matter, nobody could understand all the wonderful things about being greek unless they acually were....lets just keep it our secret...hehe....just kidding http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif


Trust, respect and unity - Nu Sigma Chi

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you

Here's my two cents...

Pros of dating a Greek Guy:
- he understands your committment to your sorority
- great way to get to know his brothers/make new friends

Cons of dating a Greek Guy:
- chance of a fraternity "groupie" trying to break up your relationship (HAPPENS A LOT!!!)
- more committed to his brothers/stereotypical greek lifestyle than to you