In October, my friend with the marriage problems was accidently copied on an email written by our other friend, in which she stated that our friend had lost her mind by staying with such a horrible husband, etc.
This event set off an actual confrontation in which all of us expressed how our friend needed to really take a look at what her life has become (a mess, controlled by her husband). To this, she responded that we just "don't know him like she does" and he's "a good man," and that we just never hear about the good side of him, and it was her fault that we only heard the bad. She also said it was her fault that they had so many problems in the marriage--that if only she would obey him more often, etc. things would be okay. (!!!!!) I told her she was brainwashed and that I was her friend, and love her, but I can't stand by and watch this any longer.
Cut to last week...
They are getting a divorce, officially, and have even told their families. My friend finally realized that she lost control of her life, and deserves to be happy. I've been thanking God each day since for opening her eyes! :)
