Originally Posted by OTW (Post 1395658)

So are you saying that NPHC members cannot hold dual memberships in in the NPHC and service/honorary/professional organizations? I know that once initiated in the NPHC, you cannot join another NPHC. But I know several NPHC members who are in service/honorary/professional fraternities.

It's the same for the NPC. Once initiated in the NPC, you cannot join another NPC sorority. The original poster knows this. What she was wondering is HOW her friend would be found out if she decided to initiate into two.

Originally Posted by adpiucf (Post 1395822)

Transferring to a new school because you don't like your sorority is not necessarily the best course of action. I know that sometimes as college students we lose sight of the big picture, but the fact remains that we go to college to get an education so that we can go on to be working professionals.

Your friend cannot join another NPC. She has the option to stick it out with DZ or drop out of DZ. Should she transfer to another university where there is a DZ chapter, there is no guarantee that the chapter will approve her petition to affiliate.

Should she be dishonest and rush at another school under the pretense that she was never initiated into an NPC, she will be living a lie. At some point, by her own slip up or guilt, or if someone else knows the truth, her life will become a living hell and she will completely destroy the chapter she joined because of her lies.

Also, she needs to carefully consider the repercussions of transferring. Whether mom and dad are footing the bill for college, or she's working her way through, on student aid, etc., not all of her credits are guaranteed to transfer. She may spend a lot of time and a lot more money to complete college because she transferred.

She needs to think through what her priorities are. If she isn't enjoying the sorority, she needs to talk to her big sister, or a chapter adviser. She can involved as a sorority leader and help effect change to make this the chapter she believed she was joining. Or she can drop out of the sorority. There are many meaningful activities on a college campus that she can investigate.

At the end of the day, she needs to make the decision to stay in DZ or drop DZ. But she must consider all her options carefully and keep sight of the big picture: college graduation within a reasonable amount of time and some professional goals to strive toward. We don't go to college just to join sororities and then bounce around to various universities trying to find a sorority we're happiest with. Every sorority has internal issues. This one sounds like it may have more than most, but not every sorority woman loves her chapter all of the time, and it is up to her to make it work or quit. This decision is never an easy one.

A sorority is a fulfilling social activity where you can make wonderful friends and memories, and you have a reasonable amount of time to determine during your 4-8 week new member period if this is a place you feel comfortable before initiation. She made the decision to be initiated, even with only 7 others staying in her pledge class and knowing there were problems. She needs to be a mature adult and think about ethical and financially feasible options that will get her to where she needs to be. But at the end of the day, someone who transfers to a different university for a sorority opportunity... well, that's just not a very mature decision.

Originally Posted by HeatherH84 (Post 1397325)

She isnt transfering BECAUSE she wants to join my sorority. She is moving and transfering to my school for her major and she thought that maybe she could somehow initiate into my sorority.