1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?
HELL NO.

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?
HELL NO.

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?
YES it would matter. If I found out before the wedding, that wedding would be cancelled immediately. If after we were married...I don't know, but I do know we'd both be getting tested for every STD out there.

Re: Is cheating at the bachelor party ok?
 

So my questions are:
1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?

NO

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?

GIRLS AND WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE CHEATED ON. WE TRUST OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER TO RESPECT OUR RELATIONSHIP AND WE AS WOMEN SHOULD BE ABLE TO TRUST THEM TO KEEP IT IN THEIR PANTS IF WE ARE IN A COMMITTED EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP TO MAINTAIN OUR TRUST NOT TO MENTION PERSONAL HEALTH.

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?

I WOULD BE VERY HURT, AND TRUST WOULD BE BROKEN. I'D WANT TO BE TESTED FOR STD'S AND I THINK WE WOULD HAVE TO REALLY DISCUSS WHAT HAPPENED AND WEIGH OUR OPTIONS.

IT IS NEVER OK TO CHEAT ON SOMEONE. IF YOU WANT OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP, BE AN ADULT AND BREAK IT OFF.

YEAH JAMES. YOU STUPID DOH DOH HEAD. WHY DO YOU ASK STUPID QUESTIONS JUST TO GET A REACTION FROM THE WOMEN. DID YOU HONESTLY THINK THEY WERE GOING TO SAY " YES IT IS OK TO CHEAT ON ME...I GO BY THE 3 STRIKES RULE "

YOU BAFOON. DO YOU HAVE THE BRAIN OF A MOP? WHY DO YOU TALK SO MUCH IN YOUR POST. YOU TYPE TOO MUCH. I ALWAYS READ THE 1ST SENTENCE OF YOUR POST AND SAY " BLAH BLAH BLAH...LAST SENTENCE BLAH".

MERRY CHRISTMAS YA FILTHY ANIMAL.

AND HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR


ETA: BTW THAT LINE WAS FROM HOME ALONE 2 YA JERK

ETA: WAIT...IT MIGHT BE HOME ALONE UNO.

FYI... I think it was used in BOTH Home Alone and Home Alone 2. :D

As it should have been, it's a great line.

hmmm....this is an interesting thread indeed.

So my questions are:
1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?

Definitely not. Why do guys seem to think that? From what I've heard, it's definitely common for guys to get strippers for their bachelor parties which...I'm ok with (not thrilled with the idea, but ok with it). I'm guessing trouble probably comes when things get out of hand and the guys have too much to drink and suddenly it becomes an excellent idea to bang the stripper without any thought of the concequences.

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?

I think it probably goes on a little more often than girls think (just speculating here!) although if the guy cheats at the bachelor party, it's probably either because he has had way too much to drink or he's just a cheater in general. I just think that if you're in a mutually exclusive relationship, that definitely does not mean bachelor parties are an exception to the rule!

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?

I know I would be very upset and angry if I found out my groom cheated at his bachelor party. I'd definitely want him tested for diseases and we'd have to have a serious talk about our marriage and our options. We all have skeletons in our closets but....that's a pretty damn big skeleton. Turning the situation around, I know that if I ever cheated on him, bachelorette party or not, I'd be gone in two seconds. There are no exceptions to the rule in my relationships. It would be so hard to trust someone if they kept something that huge a secret.

If a tree falls and nobody is there to see it fall, did it fall? I say no.

If you win a war, you are a hero. If you lose, you are a war criminal. Burning down hundreds of thousands of Japanese in WWII was proof of that.

If she doesn't find out, is it cheating?

-Rudey
--I say no

She'll find out if there's a STD to deal with. Or photos. Or people with mouths.

Trust me, at some day, at some time, she'll find out. It's just a matter of if she decides to talk about it or not.

There was a woman in the seminar I mentioned before who had been treated for STDs eight different times before she could confront her husband about them. Then, the jerk told her that SHE must be catching it from a public rest room. She finally left when he gave her both herpes and AIDS.

You're right. Gentlemen make sure your photos don't show your face, you use a jimmy hat and other STD prevention methods, and make sure you don't have jerk friends that will tell on you or do it when nobody is looking.

So no she won't find out unless you're retarded. And if she does, blame it on the blood transfusions you had as a child.

-Rudey

I'm going to go out on a limb and let people know my freaky, sex-positive side by saying this...

... but if my fiance told me ahead of time that there might be the possibility that he'd like to have sex with someone at the bachelor party, I'd be okay with it. It's not the sex that bothers me -- it's the lying.

Of course, he'd have to be okay with me getting my final freak on the night before as well. Can't have a double standard.

UMMM....what?

I think that's the kind of attitude people are talking about when they say that if you feel the need to have sex at your bachelor party, you're probably not ready to get married.

That's her opinion. Who are you to judge? Huh Froggy?

On the contrary. It means I don't have an idealized, romaticized view of weddings, marriage, and sex. Bachelor parties are supposed to be about the last hurrah -- bachelorette parties too. It's not my fault that most women have their panties in too tight of a knot to take advantage of that fact.

can I ask all of yall something...why do all (well most) females say that if they ever caught their boyfriend/husband cheating on them or something equally as bad that they would leave them, and then when it happens they always (or most of the time) find some reason to take them back...or at least that has been the case with most of the people I know.