right on, phimuandfries!:D

I understand your stance on the whole his/her reputation but I had a different question.

Why is it that if people are sexually active they don't "respect" the act of sex?

See that makes no sense to me simply because people choose to do it they don't respect it? Maybe they respect it more by choosing to do it?

The act of sex shouldn't be talked about as it's some type of degrading act because it's not. And I think a lot of people who are sexually active do respect the act and sometimes they may respect it more because they actually know what it's like.

/End rant

i know that many people that are sexually active do respect sex... and i shouldn't say that it needs to be saved for marriage. i meant that people don't respect sex, in that they will have sex purely for the physical gratification, and not think of it as something that is emotional and that can be spiritual. i didn't mean to sound like anyone in a sexual relationship outside of marriage didn't respect it. sorry

GeekyPenguin, I'm not sure what you meant by "a class issue," but I agree that it is not a north/south issue.

I also agree that if the young lady who began this post were planning to rush at a school like my alma mater or LSU, shacking in the frat house wouldn't be the best idea. Around here, you never know who's watching.

However, it is up to her to decide if 6 weeks is enough time to date before sleeping over, whether or not anything sexual is going to happen if she sleeps over, and if she feels comfortable seeing her boyfriend's fraternity brothers first thing in the morning.

Personally, I never shacked in a fraternity house. I never wanted to (the smell of stale beer, combined with a lumpy twin bed and an empty pizza box?...no thanks!) But to those questioning the difference between that and an apartment, the main difference between a fraternity house and an apartment is that you don't have 35 other guys standing around (or in the bathroom!) when you wake up in an apartment.

I know alot of guys in frat houses with double/queen size beds!!!

How may frat guys' bedrooms have you been in, Rachel?? ;) :p

Ah, no need to be sorry you have your opinion and I respect it. I was just trying to get another view (which I did get thank you).

Now THAt I would have to agree with! Very well said.

Too many to count!!!! :)

Man, I go to class for a few hours and see what happens?

Caitie, you've gotten excellent advice. I know you said you have 3.5 years left in college, which I take that to mean that you're a freshman. This is one of many inherently adult decisions you'll have to make. If you're still unsure about whether or not to stay over at the fraternity, it can't hurt to wait a few weeks--until you get to know the guys a little more and befriend some Greek women around campus to find out how they feel about shacking in regards to standards issues. I know my campus was super-liberal and it wouldn't have made a big deal (I am living proof!), in fact it may have helped during recruitment, especially if sisters were doing the same thing. I'd just say don't do it before you're ready--if that's six weeks, six hours, or six years. I spent the night w/ Mr Munch (who's GDI, by the way) the first night we were together--because that's when I was ready. Please don't let anyone make you feel guilty (AHEM!) about making a decision that YOU have to make alone.

M'03 (former frat shacker, current alum)



I *heart* sugar and spice, GeekyPenguin, damasa, and breathesgelatin. :D

Look what we did breathesgelatin- we started a lovefest!

hehehe. :p


Let it be known that all the GCer's *heart* each other and we stand together against pople like amazinglagirl...who has been absent today.

hmmm.

There is a fine line between letting a thread die when you feel everything that can be said has been said, or closing it.

I am closing this one.

Catie, you've gotten some good advice from all sides of the issue. I echo Munchkin's statement completely.