As an undergrad I had a strong personal policy against dating frat guys... a) most of the frat guys at my school were too stereotypically greek for my likings, and b) becuase I didn't want to have to face an ex if my sorority was paired with his frat for greek week, etc.

I am married to a non greek. Its so good. He treats me good. Hes also supportive of all my sorority stuff.

Exactly!


As far as my opinion goes, my husband was not a fraternity member. (Actually, he didn't even attend a traditional, 4-year college.) Granted, we didn't meet until our late 20s, so fraternity vs. non-fraternity would have been a silly comparison at that point.

Though he did date a DG at University of Kentucky for the majority of her college career, before he ever met me. I guess that helps a little, because it gives him a slightly better understanding of my time commitment as an advisor, etc. since he had previous experience dating a sorority girl. :)

(The guys I dated while I was in college were a fairly equal mix between fraternity/non-fraternity. Possibly a slight edge to the fraternity guys, but I suppose the fact that my most serious college relationship was w/a non-fraternity guy that balances it out a little. ;) )

No, I probably wouldn't date anyone outside of the Greek system unless it was a rare circumstance. It's a matter of common interests, you join the Greek system for a reason, and most people have the same reasons. Therefore, you are going to be around people who are very similar to you. Especially at my school, where there is such a large Greek system, there isn't really a need to venture out of it to find a guy. Also, I don't usually run into people who aren't Greek unless I'm in class, because the bars that I frequent are typically all Greek, and that's fine with me. I think it would be hard to date someone who wasn't Greek, because they don't understand half of the stuff you do. My boyfriend's school didn't rush fraternities until Spring of their freshman year, and I had already been in my sorority a whole semester. That first semester was so hard, because he just couldn't understand why I had so many meetings, and so many MANDATORY events. As soon as he joined, it became SO much easier and he was just as busy as I was. I can guarantee you that it makes life easier to both be in the Greek system, you have the same groups of friends, know the same people, and you typically have similar schedules.

No, I'm too old. But, when I was younger, I was really into Greek guys. NPHC, IFC, local, pledge, alum...it didn't matter, lol.

I am a Sigma Nu and I found it difficult while in school to date ladies that were not Greek.

I was a transfer student so I was a little older I had been in a commited relationship for a year prior to transferring from the JC to University. I had always wanted to be a member of a Fraternity because of the tradition and the beliefs that Fraternities embodied. I rushed in 2000 and was initiated in January 2001. By October 2001 my relationship was over (due to her not understanding my commitment to Sigma Nu and my belief that Sigma Nu would benefit both of us in the long run and that I could be a valuable member of the organization). The people there to build me back up were my brothers and the ladies that Sigma Nu associated with (many happened to be Sorority women).

By June of 2002 I had meet a great lady who is a member of Alpha Phi and we are now happily married (our 1 year anniversary was earlier this month). Both being Greek makes our lives a great deal more simple. We understand each others commitment to our organizations even as Alumni.

I am sorry I wrote such a long and drawn out response to the post.....

I do have one question for the post originator.... Why are you on GreekChat.com if you have no interest in being Greek....?

An Opportunity!!
 

"So...What's up?? Isn't Greek life supposed to be about partying, not remembering the last time you were sober (like 1 guy i talked to), and getting girls (or atleast lying about it)."

Dear Soda, Kyle, and All Others:

I have been registered for a long time, and I have only posted once or twice. It is time to post again...

Soda's question is an absolutely legitimate one. What he's really asking is if the reputation of greek houses as portrayed in the media is correct. He can't be blamed for asking the question when so many greeks themselves (particuarly fraternity members, I think) perpetuate the mentality that greek houses are just places to drink and have sex.

I also understand EXACTLY what Kyle means when he writes about "deadweight" in a fraternity: people who do not join for the brotherhood and who will do as little as possible to maintain what they consider to be their ticket to unlimited partying. For many people, that is all a frat means. It is an real opportunity and honor to be given the chance to explain to somebody who is considering fraternity life what the word "fraternity" SHOULD mean...

Soda, if want to find a fraternity that will just be a place to meet girls and drink, there are certainly a lot of chapters you can go to that will be glad to have you. These guys, though, sometimes from the president right down to the pledges, have lost sight of (or maybe really never known) what the fraternity experience is all about. When I call a guy in my house "brother," I don't do it lightly. There is a bond, a trust, that comes along with a real commitment to greek life and to each other. It means 100 times more than all partying in the world. I like to think that, given the opportunity, I would lay down my life for another Kappa Sig without even thinking about it, and that he would do the same for me.

I pray that you will find a fraternity experience like this, and if you can't find one on your campus, don't pledge! Don't settle for anything less than real brotherhood. All the suprificial sex and drinking yourself into a stupor every night in the world can never begin to make up for the lack of it!

Phil
elwoodpfiggs@hotmail.com

G.D.I.
 

Buttonz - weird about a GUY being obsessed with Strawberries. Are you still with him? If not I have a few sisters who might be interested!!! :D

Knoxstudent - To be lady like about it, G.D.I. stands for Gosh-Darned Independent, a title my husband takes pride in, for reasons unknown to me.

I am also married to a non-Greek. While I was in college, I dated several Greeks and several non-Greeks. As long as the significant other is respectful of the organization one is involved in, who cares? :o My husband likes to joke around with me--for instance, he tells me Phi Mu is his favorite sorority, and every now and then begs me to tell him what AOT means (which of course is fun, because I will NEVER tell him)--but overall, he respects how much my organization means to me, and knows how much my organization has helped me through the years.

And you could use your edit button, idiot. :)

I love you too, Fraternal. :) Where is all of this hatred coming from? :(

All of the moderators and posters here know that isn't true. Do yourself a favor and just get off of this site.