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Originally posted by ZTAngel
Dude, I'm surprised you out of all people have never heard this expression!

Ashley has a nice everything, but her face. Therefore, she's a butter face.

well, in my circle we refer to girls like her as "down the hatch girl."

thanks for filling my innocent mind in.

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Originally posted by cashmoney
Have you ever walked away from a 3 yr relationship and then forget it ever happened?

Its not that HE'LL forget, its that in making her think he does not give a damn--that is the thing that would drive a girl nuts. The whole living well is the best revenge thing.

Mr amycat and I have been having drama lately and his thinking that my life is so taking off right now and all my dreams would come true without him is driving him crazier than anything else, youknow?

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Originally posted by amycat412
Its not that HE'LL forget, its that in making her think he does not give a damn--that is the thing that would drive a girl nuts. The whole living well is the best revenge thing.

Mr amycat and I have been having drama lately and his thinking that my life is so taking off right now and all my dreams would come true without him is driving him crazier than anything else, youknow?

Well, I told him to just ignore her.....that kind of crap eats a girl alive. Chicks hate to be ignored, they love attention. Its just I think that if he confronts her then he'll end up trying to justify it because, i guess, the sex may be worth it? :rolleyes:

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Originally posted by cashmoney
Well, I told him to just ignore her.....that kind of crap eats a girl alive. Chicks hate to be ignored, they love attention. Its just I think that if he confronts her then he'll end up trying to justify it because, i guess, the sex may be worth it? :rolleyes:

Yes. the ignoring will drive her nuts. And if he wants to say anything one controlled, well placed statement such as I don't date prosititutes or liars, let alone someone who is both, should do it.

eeesh. Or someone with a tattoo like that.

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Originally posted by cashmoney
I'd tell him to stick her in the ass and then leave her a note asking if it was better than any of her client's poop shoot extraveganzas.

:eek: Just....well....wow.

I think you may have topped the "All time hilarious LMAOROTF post" that I once attributed to lifesaver.

Look on this page to see

This tops it. And that is an accomplishment.

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Originally posted by cashmoney
Listen, I dont care what the girl looks like....I just want to know how some of you think I should come at him about his girl. I'm a blunt person. If I didnt care about how he feels, I'd tell him to stick her in the ass and then leave her a note asking if it was better than any of her client's poop shoot extraveganzas. But the fact remains, he really cares about this chick and he's hurt.

I think you should tell him you know he's hurt and whatever he decides to do you'll support him. Or tell him to dump her escorting ass and take him out on the weekends to get his mind off it. Either way you need to just be there for him as a friend...

Hey Cashmoney, honey...

You know your boy best. How do you think he wants to handle it?

Fact: Homegirl prostituted herself on the "fact sheets"...

Fact: She has hourly rates with clients...

Fact: She likes it... Apparently...

Yeah, it sucks to be your boy. Yeah, he might be the one being used beyond comprehension... But what more does he want in a woman that has that kind of highly trained and used "equipment"? Does he really want a nun--don't give none, don't get none? Does he want a housewife by day, but a "hot potato" at night? How much can he forgive and forget?

It's time for him to grow up and be a man. Either let homegirl go because it is his issue with her illicit paid sex... Or keep her knowing about her reality--because it is not her past yet--and his friends be damned... And if his male friends are like, "dude, even I slept with your girl!" then how will he handle that? If his family is what you say they are, she probably has some of his family folks as clientele... Can he reconcile that?

I dunno know how he can heal his broken heart. He invested his heart energy into someone that gives her lower red earth chakra with payment and without reservation (spelled freely). That suggests that she has deeper issues with sexuality... But the focus is on him... My question to him would be, what does he think he lost? His honor or dignity or respect? He knew she was a ho-flea-bag when he started off with her, what more did he want? A true to life "princess"? Okey... Your boy needs a reality check on life... And here's his chance... To love a prostitute... That's the way love goes sometimes... Oh well...

But one things for sure, he will have an awesome bachelor party... Just think? In Vega$... Whoo Hooo... Like, Jenna might show up... "Bown Chica Bown Bown..." Boogie Nights and all...

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Hey Cashmoney, honey...

You know your boy best. How do you think he wants to handle it?

Yeah, it sucks to be your boy. Yeah, he might be the one being used beyond comprehension... But what more does he want in a woman that has that kind of highly trained and used "equipment"? Does he really want a nun--don't give none, don't get none? Does he want a housewife by day, but a "hot potato" at night? How much can he forgive and forget?

It's time for him to grow up and be a man. Either let homegirl go because it is his issue with her illicit paid sex... Or keep her knowing about her reality--because it is not her past yet--and his friends be damned... Can he reconcile that?

You know, I don't think there's any other way around this. The bitch is like 7eleven...she's not always doing business, but she's allllllways open.

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Originally posted by cashmoney
You know, I don't think there's any other way around this. The bitch is like 7eleven...she's not always doing business, but she's allllllways open.

Like a spread eagle...

No, seriously... The fact is, I fail to understand why your boy is so hurt by this... :confused:

You lie down with dogs, you get fleas... So the story goes...

He knew the job was dangerous before he took it... Just like others have said before, the best thing you can do is be a "listening friend" and hear his whining for awhile... Then when you get sick of it, tell him to move on...

Because really, what is he going to miss from this situation?

The sex? She was doling it out to him for free...
The dishonesty and lies--she protected the innocent or whatever he doesn't know won't hurt him... Or "Oh what webs be weave when first try, try to deceive..."
The fact she slept with everybody up in the club for payment? I'm sorry, but who was he trying to kid, himself? Jokes on him... Oh well... And you had better believe that you ain't the first dude that EVER told him 'bout homegirl and her "free market economy"...

When he heals. And he will. And it will take a long time. You just can tell him, he's better off without this drama... Take his lumps of salt and move on to better thangs... There are a whole world of other lady fish in the sea that have yet to have been touched by a man...

And really, what top notch playmates are you all trying to "recruit"? Desparate housewives? Or what? Do you really need that in both of your lives, now?

Re: So one of my friend just found out his GF is an escort

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Originally posted by cashmoney
Normally I dont post the drama that surrounds my life but I really want to know what some of you think about this and how I should approach my boy. So, here's a little past info on this deal....

I have a friend that I've known for a good minute, like 5 years. Out of the 5 years I've known him he has been dating this chick named Ashley for about 3 years. Now, since the start of their relationship I didnt like the two of them being together. Maybe it was because I almost banged her and still wanted to in a way but regardless I still didnt think they should be together. Anyhow, they had thier issues like all long term couples do and they did all the stuff like meet the families and become good friends with them and blah blah blah.....well, about 2 weeks ago my boy called me up and said he had a funny feeling about his girl. Like she's been acting wierd lately. Now this guy is an idiot, he totally trusted his girl all the time....was in love with her and wanted to marry her. Well, when i talked to him about it all a few weeks ago I joked with him about her cheating on him and told him shit was bound to happen, and that what he really needed to worry about was the ninja catching up to him (just because guys like us are always after girls like her). He laughed it off, said nothing popped up on him the whole time they have been dating. Well, today he called me up sounding like he hadnt slept in days and his speech sounded like he ate 10 xananny bars....I could barely understand him. He said he needed to talk to me so I said i'd call him back when i took off for lunch. Hour later I called him from my office, he anserwed the phone sounding like he had been crying or did a lot of anti-anxiety drugs. Make a long story short....he found out his GF/finace was an Escort!!!!! I was like "WTF!?!?!?" Apparently one of our other friends who's a dirty motherfucker found out about this website of chicks that are escorts/prostitutes and saw her on there listed under the Tampa girls. He called my boy and he flipped out, didnt believe him. Then our friend sent him the link to the site and to her page. I think he went in to shock after seeing it. I mean this chick has by the hour rates, double team rates, in call, out-call, this girl will come to you. It was unbelievable to him. Never in a million years would he have thought that about her. Now me, I had my thoughts about her. I quit coming around them for a long time because everytime I was around she'd be flirting with me while my boy was around and I woulda hit it had I stayed around longer. And the scariest thing about all this to me is that the girl is actually kind of good looking. Nice tits, tight body, ANY guy would hit it. She's the hot chick in the club you'd try to take home to bang later. If you saw her at the beach you'd holler at her in a second. And this girl was cool as hell. You can tell she'd be a dirty slut in the bed, but she's one of the nicest people you'd ever meet. She became good friends with my boy's mom, and his parents are wealthy in the 8 figure range. I just cant believe no one really saw through her shit the whole time. How do any of you suppose I talk to him? I've never been in this situation and I hope to god I never am. I mean, I feel like shit for joking with him a little while back about catching that HIV from her cheating.....but now he's really freaking out. And as if the STD thing wasnt scaring him, he literally wont ever trust another female again. He's going to end up like me and others of our crew who do shit like get the girl's cell phone in-call and out-call record up to date by the hour if we want (online), that way you know whos calling her at what time or who she's calling at 4am. Personally, I've been trying to tell his ass for awhile now to get 4 small voice activated tape recorders that record when he's not around and place them in different spots in the room where she wont find them. One of our other boys tried to tell him to shave off the edges of her blinds just enough to the point where he could see in and to set up a path down the side of her house where he wouldnt step on any twigs or leaves and make noise. Even still, we've all been telling him to make a copy of her key and check her bed sheets when you know she's been at the house for a long time and when you know she's going to be at a certain place for awhile....still, he didnt listen to any of us. :( Now, he is literally at rock bottom....and I dont know what else to say short of "She was a slut, what do you expect?" So, any suggestions?

BTW, here's that page for those of you who live in Tampa/Orlando and actually go out.....you might know her.

(Don't worry, these arent nude)

http://www.onesexysecret.com/home

pics of her:

http://www.onesexysecret.com/gallery_one

http://www.onesexysecret.com/gallery_two

BTW, this isnt dowing any of you freak girls out there on GC who do this stuff for a living. All I'm saying is don't lie to your man about this crap or you might end up face down, floating in a south-florida canal.

No offense to you or your boy but she is freakin ugly!!:eek: :eek: He shouldnt be upset at all!!

Does anyone have Sims 2? I swear she looks like the maid but with blonde hair! lol

There only thing you can do is just be there for him if he needs it. I can't tell you what to say. It depends on the convos you have. If he sounds like he's sad and whatever, don't say something assholish. I know you know how to party, so take him out to get his mind off of her. But don't let him get piss drunk cause people usually get all depressed and stuff when they're really drunk if they haven't passed out in time.

A quick reality check for the ladies. When giving Cashmoney advice on how to counsel his friend . . keep in mind that he is a boy not a girl :p

I am with AKA_Monet on this one. I am not sure why the guy is so devestated. Nothing has changed except his perception of the girl.

She is still the same girl that treated him well. She is the same girl that treated him with love. She is the same girl that rocked his world in bed.

Its only his prejudices that are now changing the way he views her.

Kind of like being absolutely in love with someone and then finding out they were mixed racial and feeling betrayed and not able to handle it.

Same person, changed perception.

He has the problem. She doesn't. Even though we may dissaprove of her lifestyle, its still her lifestyle.

Doesn't anyone find his martyred feelings of betrayal to be at least a little silly?

PS. She can't be THAT bad looking. If she was truly hideous I think a lot of the girls would be more sympathetic :p

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Originally posted by James
A quick reality check for the ladies. When giving Cashmoney advice on how to counsel his friend . . keep in mind that he is a boy not a girl :p

I am with AKA_Monet on this one. I am not sure why the guy is so devestated. Nothing has changed except his perception of the girl.

She is still the same girl that treated him well. She is the same girl that treated him with love. She is the same girl that rocked his world in bed.

Its only his prejudices that are now changing the way he views her.

Kind of like being absolutely in love with someone and then finding out they were mixed racial and feeling betrayed and not able to handle it.

Same person, changed perception.

He has the problem. She doesn't. Even though we may dissaprove of her lifestyle, its still her lifestyle.

Doesn't anyone find his martyred feelings of betrayal to be at least a little silly?

Uhhh . . . she lied to him.

I don't think this has to do with the lifestyle (I mean, of course it does, but that's not the main issue). If she'd told him up front that she was an escort and he'd decided that he couldn't deal with that lifestyle, that's one thing. But he didn't get to make that choice.

I think betrayal is a perfectly rational emotion in this case. She's sleeping with other men. She's not telling him that she's sleeping with other men. Whether she's doing it for pleasure or financial gain, it still counts as a betrayal.

And she knows that what she's doing is wrong, or else she wouldn't try to hide it from him.