Rational people don't analyze thing like you do- only you analyze things like this.

None of us are worrying.

I'm thinking you sort of like this - posting stuff like this to get intarweb attention.

^^Co-sign (and lol).

I don't know what POF is in terms of "legitimate" online dating sites and I know it's a common thing these days, but Scandia, if you don't get more discerning and definitive in your immediate sizing up of people, you're a tragedy waiting to happen. IF you meet anyone from that site in person, fly VandalSquirrel out to do her shadowing; I would have serious concerns about your ability to handle yourself and pick up on danger signs from a possible kook.

I don't think it's getting intarweb attention per se--I think it's more of not having any experience with this sort of thing. I think about questions that I had when I started dating and, more than 10 years later, they make me laugh and I'm grateful for how far I've come.

Without a lot of experience with dating, or even having friends, you end up having these sorts of issues that people with more of a life don't even think about.

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He posted pics- he somewhat taller and a bit stronger than what I would prefer, but his coloring is fine. QUOTE]

I'm a little late to the party here, but I daresay that this sounds like shopping for a car instead of trying to connect with a real-live person.

One of the most vivacious, professionally successful and magnetic women I know went on Match.com on a whim just to increase her options of meeting a nice guy. She got a message from someone in a town about 30 miles away. "The only person I know from there is my ex-husband, and I don't ever want to go there!" was her first response. Then she looked at the guy's picture, and said "Is that a PONYTAIL?! Oh, no way." But, she returned his message, and after corresponding for a while she was touched by his warmth, his spirituality, and his kindness.

They've now been married for 5 blissful years now, and his teenage daughters have become the children that she was never able to have on her own.

Moral of the story: it's not about the packaging.

I think that's internet dating in general.

LIES!

Totally agreed. The pushier someone gets with me, especially right at the beginning, the less likely I am going to want to meet him. If I get a bad vibe from him - forget it.
I'm on Plentyoffish too and I have met several people from there - including my current boyfriend, who is awesome. :D I have been pretty good at weeding out the crazies before we get anywhere close to meeting. I do like to exchange messages/IM a few times at least before we meet. If someone pushes to meet right away - HUGE red flag.

Wait...he's a paramedic who is tall and strong? Send him my way! Thanks! :cool:


.....Kelly :)

No kidding!