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My daughter is still not sure if she's going to join the chapter. I told her that she can quit before initiation and still rush again next fall. However, she said that they won't tell them when initiation is. She's afraid they'll just surprise them one day! Is that the way its done?
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Withholding the date of initiation is a form of hazing. If they're pulling isht like that, maybe she does need to bail. :mad:
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Are they witholding the date from her, or do they not know exactly when it is? Most schools have dates set as to when new members must be initiated by.
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Even if they do "surprise" her, and believe me, if they tell them or not, it's never really 100% a surprise, she can bail right up until they walk into the initiation room.
Unfortunately, although it is hazing, it's fairly common that new members don't know the date of their initiation. Active members think it "takes the fun" out of being a new member. Here's a good clue that initiation is coming soon: New member educator says that the new members need a VERY specific outfit (coming all the way down to type of shoes, length of hem, etc), and that it's due by X day. Chapters try to get that stuff taken care of a couple of weeks before initiation. |
I believe so. I will check with her later to ask and get more specifics.
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There's a possibility that the actives just haven't set a date in concrete yet. I know in my chapter, we didn't always know for sure when initiation would be right after rush. DZ's new member program lasts for 10 weeks, so we knew which week we'd initiate, but we sometimes didn't have an exact date immediately. We don't have houses and had to reserve a place on campus for initiation, so sometimes we'd have to wait a few days to get all our ducks in a row between the chapter and the Student Life office.
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Wow, 10 weeks? Are the new member periods usually that long? I think she's afraid they'll just spring it on her sooner rather than later. And, I can't imagine her walking out at the last minute--awkward. I'll tell her to look out for the special clothing requirement clues. Thanks!
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I know that personally we were required to tell the NMs when their intiation was scheduled (even if it was just a tentative month if we didn't have the exact date). |
Do any schools still wait until the next semester to initiate?
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From what I have seen, the trend for shorter new member periods, thus early initiation, seems to be based on each NPC group, not necessarily the campus. I know of only one NPC group that waits a full semester (give or take) to initiate -Chi O, but there may be others.
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Just wanted to let you all know that my daughter was recently initiated into her chapter. Although she's still not 100% sure that this was the right choice, she decided that she really wanted to be in a sorority. She's been going to the events that she feels comfortable with and will be living in the house next year. She wants to try and get a leadership position in the chapter, which I think is great. I also reminded her that next year there will be new members so more potential for "girls like her". I hope it works out and just wanted to thank you all again for all your great advice.
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