No, I don't. I was trying to minimize the formality of it. You're the one who jumped in saying it was given to a girl you were dating as in pre-engagement for marriage. Anything given in contemplation of marriage should be returned if they break up.

Unless anyone else has other ideas I still think a lavalier in this case can be given without any pomp or circumstance, since they're not even dating. She'll give you a hug and a kiss, and you can be on your way.

Only an official badge offers the protection of the Fraternity, although I'm unclear on what that actually means in practice. Sounds good, though, doesn't it?

It means that we cannot leer at her and give her the official Fraternity whistle.

Yes, boys and girls, we REALLY had one of those. And an official hat band, two.

From watching all the rush videos the notes were undoubtedly the same as the first bar of Magic Carpet Ride.

I think that's an awesome idea. So far greek traditions haven't caught up with "modern" ideals of love and commitment. It's not your fault you can't lav a man you love. But, being a gay man's best friend, I know that he would be nothing without me. He came out and I was there. He was experimental and I was there. He met his first boyfriend and I was there. It's quite a job being the best bitch of a gay man, and I think she deserves it ONLY if she is enthusiastic about your fraternity. I know that I am the Sig Chi sweetheart and I LOVE those boys to death and everything that I'm allowed to know about their fraternity, therefore the idea of me being lavaliered (though I'm sure my boyfriend is still being slow and hasn't even thought of it) is definitely going to be fine with the rest of the brothers. If she's just your best friend and none of your brothers know her, idk if it would really be relevent to lavalier her.

Ok. That's all I have. Good luck!