My mom occasionally calls me a hussy. It's hard for her to deal with like, clothes that actually fit people. :D :p

Eh, I'm really good friends with one of the fraternities here and I've stayed over there a bunch. I've stayed over when I shouldn't drive. If I'm horribly upset, there are of a couple of my great guy friends that live in-house, so I end up going over there to talk to them and they usually make me stay so I'm not driving all the way home, sobbing. (Of course, there's little better than snuggling with another warm body to make you feel better) In bad weather, I live about 30 mi away so I stay there overnight. I'm treated like a princess, everytime I walk in the door of that house (as is all women) and treated like a Queen if I stay the night. Granted, I'm not hooking up with any of the guys IN the house, so maybe it's not the same, but I'll stay in the rooms with some of them on occasion (usually when I'm upset) and so, any outsider would think that i was, but the brothers know what's going on, so it's not a big deal. I don't think it's an issue....if you're ready to stay the night and love this guy, who cares what they think (even if they do think anything). Just remember which bed is his and not to wander from room to room...it's amazing how many girls wander from room to room ;-) ;-) (some even try, here, but are usually shot down)
Greek Love and Mine,
Mandie

I've been staying at my guy's fraternity house on the weekends since April and if you make an effort to get to know the other people in the house no one makes a big deal if you stay over. I regularly eat breakfast with the guys and hang out...but I was friends with people in the house before he and I got together. Honestly I think when you're ready for it go for it. Yeah the bathrooms are gross and stuff like that but it can be fun too! :D

can any fraternity brothers give us the male perspective on this topic?

I think a girls rep would be find if she stayed over if she was with her boyfriend. If she has no boyfriend and stayed over she might not look as good to people walking out in the morning.lol

Go for it,
the only guys that would have a problem with it in any way would be the ones that never have girls stay there.
Most of the guys will be cool with it and actually it's probably one the best ways to get to know his bros. Considering they will act a lot more like themselves since you're a bro's girlfriend, and not just show their ass to impress.

Most of the guys on here wouldn't know. And if you stay over you're considered a regular, people know you're hitting it with your boyfriend (not a bad thing) and you're not a shy quiet girl in the library. Of course most of the brothers wouldn't touch you since you dated one of their brothers if you broke up so their opinions shouldn't matter. And if you're just a hook up, the guys will talk about it probably after meeting and recommend you to others.

-Rudey
--Truth.

Yea I totally agree with you here. I stay at my boyfriend's fraternity house, and I am good friends with most of the guys there so while they occasionally tease me, it's all in good fun. And his house is just up the street from mine, but he still drives me home in the mornings. Girlfriends do not do the walk of shame here, so if that's what you're worried about I wouldn't. Just my $.02, good luck with whatever you decide to do. :D

X 2 - that is the truth.

I agree! I sleep at my boyfriends house all the time. he has a single and I am in a double. Yes the bathrooms are disgusting, but they are all fun to be around! I dont see a problem with it at all and like everyone said it is totally different if you are a girlfriend than if you were a random hookup.

If you are ready, listen to what everyone else here is saying. Make sure you are ready though, you seem worried about that part. He will deal with his brothers if that would even be an issue. I've dated guys in two houses, and stayed the night with them, and it was no big deal. Granted with the first guy, I wouldn't walk into Sig Chi alone for like three months. (I was a big fan of the hoodie.) The reality is that if you act naturally about it, they won't blink an eye. Just really make sure you are ready to be there, that is most important, boys are dumb and will be fine. Besides, people are right, the strangest things happen at 2am in a fraternity house...it really can be quite the experience.

I'm not sure if this is a national or just a chapter policy (I'm guessing it's more of a chapter policy) and I'm not sure of the policies of the other sororities on my campus, but our members are highly discouraged from spending the night at any of the fraternity houses. It can also become an issue with our Standards.

We don't "look down" on our sisters who do it (after all we are in college), but we do try to adhere to our policies as much as possible. :)

Geez, I've really not been reading GC too much, lately. Since when does FAB have a boyfriend?! Congrats! Hope you're happy! :)

As far as sisters looking down, etc. it probably all depends on the school. At my school, we all lived on the same block for the most part, but we stayed at frats all the time. I mean you were either really good friends with the guys in that house, or had a boyfriend in it, but it wasn't a big deal. And all the houses did it, so it didn't give you a bad rep. I stayed *right next door* at my bf's all the time and neither the guys nor the girls had a problem with it.

THANK GOD I went to a laid-back school
 

Shacking was very much the norm at my school, both in fraternity and sorority houses. We had views of quite a few fraternities from our house, and we'd laugh at the obvious walk-of-shame girls, but never the girlfriends. I mean, really, what's so wrong about it?

If you discourage your sisters from staying overnight at a fraternity, do you also discourage them from staying overnight at their boyfriend's if he's an independent or living out? If so, that seems super hypocritical.

I'm curious if this applies to fraternity houses that are at different schools too. Just about every Saturday night (or another night each weekend) I go to my boyfriend's school an hour away and I find that it is much safer if I have been drinking or depending on how late it is to stay at his house. I think your standards board would agree that they would rather have girls shacking than having DUIs! I'm also curious if this also applies to boyfriends or just random shacking!