Dionysus, I suggest she start being PROACTIVE. Invite the girls out to dinner. Call one of her pledge sisters and say, "what's going on tonight?" Call her big and ask when the next meeting is.

I can only put up with someone's complaining for so long if they're not doing anything to fix it.

Wow....
 

Some of the messages on here are really hurtful.

Getting back to the original topic....it is hard when you feel excluded. I have a very outgoing personality, so I have a hard time really relating, but I know some people in chapter kind of can get lost sometimes. I think the best thing to do though is to get involved. Really, IMO, it is the active members' responsibility to draw out the new initiates, but sometimes that doesn't happen. :(

You mentioned making Valentine's for your members. Maybe you can work on Membership Development or does your chapter do a philanthropy- usually philanthropy chairs LOVE any help anyone offers? Even if it is too late to run for a chair position, maybe you can assist someone.

If you are too overwhelmed to do something like that, maybe you can invite your "big" and your "family members" to a family dinner at Chili's or whatever local restaurant you have. I love "family" dinners. Sometimes you will have to make the initiative or else it won't get done.

Sometimes it is hard to find your niche though, but I am sure it is there somewhere. Honestly though, sometimes you can get disappointed. Sadly, that is true for all things.

Good luck though! I am confident things will work out.

This is random. . .

But I think everyone has felt a little left out sometimes. However, you need to learn that you also have the numbers to EVERY SINGLE GIRL in your sorority. You can take the initiative and call them.

Another thing, why don't you try inviting some of them to come and hang out with you? Once, I felt like I was lost in the loop. . .so I started up a "Schmooze Night' on Friday nights at my apartment. I announced it in a meeting and invited everyone to attend. Everyone came and people started making up excusing to come over and spend the night. Now, I can't rid of my sorority sisters.

When I first became a new member, I was told this SORORITY LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT!!!!





I bleed blue and gold. . .PHI SIGMA SIGMA

PLedge-

When new members are initiated many older sisters feel that they need to give their new sisters a break. After a long pledge period, some sisters feel that the newer ones may want a chance to step back and spend time with their non-sorority friends whome they have spent almost an entire semester neglecting. This could be why they don't call you every chance they get.

Another reason, could be that some of your sisters are just set into a routine. I'm in a local sorority as well as we have a very small house ( 5 girls live there). I live in the house and myself and the girls are all very close. We don't mean to not invite people out, but it happens all the time, when just the girls in the house go out. We never noticed until we were called on it by some other sisters. We had just gotten so into the routine of just going out together, that we thought no one else wanted to join us. It could be that these girls are just overlooking you. Why don't you ask them to tell you when they're going out next so that you can join them.

It sucks that this has been you initial sorority experience! If you have a Member at Large Iwould consider talking to her abotu the apparent lack of sisterhood your sorority is experiencing. Do you have a Big? Ask your Big to hang out with you and some of your new Sisters. It takes time to get to know people.

Above all else, you have to make an effort to get to know these women as they should be making an effort to get to knwo you! I'm sure that it's not anything personal, cliques exist in sororties. Jsut give ti some time!