Originally Posted by Elephant Walk (Post 1921164)

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi (Post 1921208)

Then don't bring it up if you don't need to. It's not like you're hiding it or keeping it secret, but your worlds don't all have to intersect. Why give them the power to disapprove? Unless you are asking for their opinions, in which case, they are entitled to think what they want. Doesn't mean you don't have to listen (unless it's a parent forbidding it and withholding your tuition money).

Originally Posted by Aerylle (Post 1921324)

What?

Originally Posted by Aerylle (Post 1921326)

Then who do you suggest I talk to about this? If I can't talk to my mother (who is my best friend) . . . then who should I talk to about it?

Originally Posted by AXiDMeesh (Post 1921212)

To answer your question, no I did not have any support from my family and my good friends. The only people who were excited for me were girls in my graduating class who had joined a chapter the year before (I joined as a sophomore). My family wanted me to join my legacy sorority in another council, and my friends thought I was kidding when I said I wanted to join and completely (and they still do this) tuned out whenever I talk about anything Greek related. But I went through recruitment and I had a LOT of fun and it was such a great experience that I'd do it again and take the criticism tenfold. My whole mindset was that I'm doing this for myself, not for my mom or anyone else.

And MysticCat, maybe she's from one of those really close knit communities where your neighbors might as well be extended family?

Anyway, I think you should go for it.

Originally Posted by MysticCat (Post 1921241)

But I'm guessing that the friends and neighbors who are not supportive are also not in a position to provide recs. It sounds like her network doesn't include any Greeks and that the people in her network aren't aware of any other Greeks they may know.

Originally Posted by ree-Xi (Post 1921243)

Are you in HS?

As for recs, I am SURE that there are girls in your current school who are pursuing recs (unless you go to one of those k-12 day schools with 11 people in your graduating class). Ask your friends who plan to go Greek in college. Also, there are a hundred threads on recs here.

Originally Posted by MaggieXi (Post 1921278)

Also if you are still friendly with anyone who graduated from HS a year ahead of you, you may want to ask them if they know anyone who is in a sorority who they could put you in contact with. I know some sororities (not all) allow current members to write recs. If an active sorority member can't write you a rec, maybe they can put you in touch with alums in your area that could.

Originally Posted by MysticCat (Post 1921328)

Support garments.

But you said your mother is supportive and willing to do anything to help. :confused:

Originally Posted by Aerylle (Post 1921337)

I could, but it would be like talking to your father (assuming you are a girl) about your period or boy problems. He'll listen, but he might not have much to say or would be awkward with his responses.

Originally Posted by Aerylle (Post 1921335)

I'm doing just that. I have contacted everyone I know that has joined one, but so far, they haven't gotten back to me on who wrote their recs/if they can write me one. I've tried locating the local alumni group with little luck. I'd ask on here but I'm too paranoid to say where I live. Ha ha.

Originally Posted by MysticCat (Post 1921338)

He probably would have been speechless, since I'm a guy. ;)

Originally Posted by ree-Xi (Post 1921340)

Plus, since no one knows you, you are really A. taking a chance that someone could send in a No-Rec, or B. feel kind of used. Your "joking" last sentence leads me to believe my first gut feeling - that you were looking for someone here to hook you up.

Are you a sophomore? Know ANY current Greeks on a first-name basis? Ask them for suggestions on where to go to meet/talk to alumnae who might be willing to meet you and write a rec. (Note: chapters may or may not accept recs from CURRENT chapter members). Instead of saying "do you know anyone who...?", ask "who do you personally know that might be able to point me in the direction of alumnae to meet?"

Have you read the RECRUITMENT forum??

Originally Posted by ree-Xi (Post 1921340)

A. taking a chance that someone could send in a No-Rec, or B. feel kind of used.

Originally Posted by Aerylle (Post 1921358)

"No-rec"?

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1921372)