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Old 12-02-2008, 04:11 AM
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My mom's dating a Frat Boy

Im 23 and my mom is 48, and she's dating a guy the same age as me. He's actually 7 months younger than I am but he was in my grade all throughout high school. He is a total frat boy type, who was a prick in high school to me, and lots of others. I don't approve and it makes me uncomfortable to see him all the time saying shit to me about my mom, parrtying, or about how he "loves coming over." I feel like they're flaunting it, and I don't think my mom cares that I don't approve, and I know he doesn't. Does anyone else think this is weird and that I'm right to not approve? Have any similar situations or advice in general? Thanks.
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Old 12-02-2008, 09:21 AM
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Move out.
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Old 12-02-2008, 09:57 AM
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He is a total frat boy type, who was a prick in high school to me, and lots of others.
Don't really know what this is supposed to mean, but you make it sound like all fraternity men are pricks. Probably not the best thing to do here. Just saying.

Now, the fact that you even typed all of this makes me think that you already know it's ok for you to not approve.

This is a weird situation all around. It's bad enough that it's someone your age... but someone your age who you know, and who treated you poorly in high school (and continues to do so). Have you had a serious conversation with your mom about it? Because if you just roll your eyes and complain about this behind their backs, it's not going to get you anywhere, and they'll probably stay together, pushing you farther away, as you continue to do the same to them.

If you talk to your mom, and she seems to not care about what your feelings are about this (which would be sad, but could happen), and it's really bothering you, then I agree... move out.
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Old 12-02-2008, 10:47 AM
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Im 23 and my mom is 48, and she's dating a guy the same age as me. He's actually 7 months younger than I am but he was in my grade all throughout high school. He is a total frat boy type, who was a prick in high school to me, and lots of others. I don't approve and it makes me uncomfortable to see him all the time saying shit to me about my mom, parrtying, or about how he "loves coming over." I feel like they're flaunting it, and I don't think my mom cares that I don't approve, and I know he doesn't. Does anyone else think this is weird and that I'm right to not approve? Have any similar situations or advice in general? Thanks.
Your mom rocks.

I'm sorry she has such a bigoted cheese dick for a son. If she was dating a black person or an Asian, I shudder to think what the title of this thread would be.
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Old 12-02-2008, 10:57 AM
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Your mom rocks.
You took the words right out of my mouth. At least someone in the family is cool.
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Old 12-02-2008, 02:02 PM
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sorry that your mom's a slut

i hope telling the internet made you feel better though
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Old 12-02-2008, 02:17 PM
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She's most likely going to do what she wants. If you don't like it, move out.
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Old 12-02-2008, 03:32 PM
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Okay, Nick Hogan.
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Old 12-02-2008, 09:30 PM
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I'm not a "bigoted" person 33girl. I'd actually say I'm more tolerant that both my mom and her frat boy bf. I'm gay, and thats why he was always a dick to me in high school and still is. I don't approve of her behavior, or why she's dating a guy i wen to school with. Please don't judge me, or better yet, don't accuse me of being something I'm not.
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Old 12-02-2008, 09:32 PM
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You can disapprove of anyone your mother dates. I, for one, hate my stepfather's guts and want to fight him.

That said... if you live there, either move out or suck it up. Not much else can be done, champ.
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Old 12-03-2008, 01:51 AM
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I'm not a "bigoted" person 33girl. I'd actually say I'm more tolerant that both my mom and her frat boy bf. I'm gay, and thats why he was always a dick to me in high school and still is. I don't approve of her behavior, or why she's dating a guy i wen to school with. Please don't judge me, or better yet, don't accuse me of being something I'm not.
Then quit using terms like "frat boy" as pejoratives - especially when you haven't even clarified that the guy was actually IN a fraternity. Labeling an entire group of people with a stereotype is bigotry, no 2 ways about it. Nothing you have said makes you seem the least bit "tolerant."

Your mom is an adult. She's attracted to who she's attracted to. Deal with it.
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Old 12-03-2008, 08:43 AM
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:40 PM
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Old 12-03-2008, 02:06 PM
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Heheh, oh RU.

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Old 12-03-2008, 02:36 PM
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