Well next week my freshman daughter will be going through rush at a competitive Texas school. We were so glad to find this site, as it provides information you can't find anywhere else.
I won't go on about how beautiful, intelligent, involved, blah, blah, blah she is. (Of course as her mom I believe this!
) Let's face it 95% of the girls going through rush here have all this and then some. I promise not to hover or whine!
My daughter's friends, who will be scattered throughout the state, have no desire to go through rush and have given her some flak for it. She hasn't let this change her mind, though. A big reason for her wanting to do this is that she knows so few people at this school, and she likes the idea of making lots of new friends and having social activities to attend.
This spring she got busy getting her own recs ( I thought that showed she was really committed). What she lacked, family members were able to help her get by contacting friends and coworkers. So now she has at least one rec to every sorority.
One advantage she has is that she doesn't know any Greeks there so there are no preconceived notions. She's doesn't know who the "top houses" are or what the various reputations are. Frankly she doesn't really care. She's not into the "gotta get to the top house" mentality. She also won't pledge a house she doesn't feel comfortable in just to wear Greek letters. Pretty level headed kid.
This same issue is also her biggest disadvantage. As with many things in life, your friends and social connections can really help. Not knowing anyone there, she won't have anyone pulling for her. Maybe this won't be as big an issue for freshman girls - I really don't know. All she wants is to find a group of girls she can feel at home with.
I hope to be able to post during rush week, but daughter has 2 modes lately: 1. Chatty 2. "I don't want to talk about it" . Your guess is as good as mine as to which we be around next week .Probably a combination of both. As this will be stressful for her, I won't push for details. So I may have to post after it's all over and she is more talkative. Keep her in your thoughts next week. God knows, I'm going to be a nervous wreck when we drop her off to school!