Sisterfrinds...What would you do?

AKA2D '91 · #1 03-04-2001, 11:39 AM

I know many, if not all of you have seen the post by "sickofthese". If not, I ask jokingly, what rock have you been living under?

LOL Anyway, let's take what she has "dished" out.

What if she were your "linesister" and these things were going on? What would you do to help ease the tension that is going on? What would you do to try to keep your "bigsisters" from trying to find out that everything here is not peachy keen? Or could you?

What would you do to try to bring some kind of cohesion among the group?

How would you try to rectify this "situation"?

PLEASE, SORORS, MY GREEK BROTHERS AND SISTERS, LET'S LET THE SISTERFRIENDS ANSWER, FIRST, BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO COMMENT...THANKS!

THIS IS OPEN TO ANY SISTERFRIEND, REGARDLESS OF ORG. INTEREST!

EXCUSE, MY TYPO OF "FRIENDS" IN THE TOPIC HEADER!

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CarmelTreat · #2 03-04-2001, 12:23 PM

I think that it would be impossible to hide any type of animosity from the "bigsisters". Sure they may not tell you, but they probably know what's going on. As far as rectifying the situation, the only thing I can think of to do is to actually sit down and talk to your "linesisters" to get things out in the open and to try to work things out. Sure they still may not like each other a whole lot but at least they might start to get along and be civil and decent towards one another.

I also have edited my post per your request, Ms. AKA2D'91

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AKA2D '91 · #3 03-04-2001, 12:39 PM

OKAY, LET ME ADD THIS THEN...WHAT IF THE BSs KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON...AND THEY HAVE DEMANDED THAT YOU IRON OUT YOUR DIFFERENCES, CREATIVELY, HOW WOULD YOU DO IT?

Now, it is possible that something like this could POSSIBLY happen... Try to do more than just "sit down" and talk. One can talk until the cows come home...LOL

OKAY, I AM THROUGH...NEXT!

onesavvydiva · #4 03-04-2001, 02:34 PM

Two Words...."Bitch Session"

(and excuse my language, but you all know where I am coming from.

We are all women, and therefore, we all have personalities that must be contended with. sometimes you may not "like" someone, but if you just sit down and verbally express your feelings, you realize that things may not go as deep as they seem. I think that FIRST and foremost you should have an immediate bond with your "lSs" for the simple fact that you have a common goal to attain. Even if there was someone coming into the process that I sincerely disliked, I would definitely have to squash it (or try to at least) for the sake of the "sisterhood" and for the sake of making the "process" a whole heck of a lot easier on everybody. I am quite sure that the "process" is hectic enough without adding undue confusion, strife, and such.

Anyway, back to the original question, a "session" if handled correctly by MATURE people who sincerely have intentions of letting the animosity go, can be very cleansing and purging. Try to not just be accusatory like, "You are such a freeloader", but maybe like "I feel that sometimes, I have to pick of the slack from you guys, and that stresses me", or "I think that WE as a line aren't on top of our 'stuff' like we should be, so we need to take some extra time and study TOGETHER", or "I feel that WE as a group have some tension that's between us, and I just felt that since WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER, that we talk about it, and possibly ease each other's burdens." Anyway, sorry so long, but that's how I would go about it...if I were in that position.

Miss Moderator,

, I edited my post per your request, Sorry!
My two cents!!

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AKA2D '91 · #5 03-04-2001, 03:19 PM

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Originally posted by onesavvydiva:
One reason I believe that she, (Sickofthese) may just be trying to start confusion on GC, is because she doesn't even know the basic concepts of sisterhood. I, for one, find it VERY hard to believe that anyone couldn't see through that. And if not her, then why would any chapter pick a "line" of girls who didn't know their stuff. She said that one of the girls couldn't even name ONE founder, I find that hard to believe. But that is another thread entirely.

OKAY, This is NOT about Sickofthesefolks (so please, try not to refer to her, there is another thread about the SPECIFIC topic...THANKS!

)

...IT'S ABOUT YOU (SFs) AND A HYPOTHETICAL SITUATION THAT YOU MAY ENCOUNTER...

NEEEXXXXT!

AKA2D '91 · #6 03-04-2001, 04:26 PM

I just deleted a post....

IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO PARTICIPATE ...DON'T POST, OR I WILL DELETE YOU, TOO!

SOROR, IDEAL...I DELETED YOU TOO!

WE MUST HAVE BEEN POSTING SIMULTANEOUSLY!

SKEE-WEEE!

WE NEED A CUP OF TEA ON THIS ONE

NEXXXXXXXTTTT!

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cutiepie · #7 03-04-2001, 05:08 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
I just deleted a post....

IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO PARTICIPATE ...DON'T POST, OR I WILL DELETE YOU, TOO!

SOROR, IDEAL...I DELETED YOU TOO!
WE MUST HAVE BEEN POSTING SIMULTANEOUSLY!

SKEE-WEEE!

WE NEED A CUP OF TEA ON THIS ONE

NEXXXXXXXTTTT!

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i guess if people have a different opinion than you and/or point out your mistakes they get deleted. is that how it goes on this board? i'm just glad it isn't like that on the others and the ladies are polite and civil.

AKA2D '91 · #8 03-04-2001, 05:39 PM

You guessed wrong!

I did not make a mistake in my post. I SIMPLY ADDED CLARITY TO WHAT I WANTED!

Again, if someone does not want to participate, do not waste our space! Go to another thread/ANOTHER board! It's not cute!

Thanks SAVVY DIVA!

You clearly understand!

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Shalom2U · #9 03-04-2001, 05:55 PM

Shalom AKA2D'91~ Shalom Everyone~

First, I would go on a 3-day fast to seek and hear from the LORD because if I acted in my carnel flesh, I'd be "laying on of hands" that weren't Godly!

I would be seeking ways to solidify the unity of my sisters in love. Love that would go into eternality and not just for a temporal bandage (until I crossed).

Until I allowed the FATHER to deal with Me and my heart, I wouldn't approach the sister on my line with her soul-issue (even if she thought she had things well hidden from us--because I was always taught that Fashion Fair, Black Opal and MAC only covered scars on the face, not the soul, and spirit).

Lastly, during my time of fasting I'd be rejoicing in Faith that the promise of LOVE, after Faith and Hope--was greater!

Shalom~

CarmelTreat · #10 03-04-2001, 06:15 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91:

One can talk until the cows come home...LOL

You're right, just talking will not do any good if the ladies involved aren't going to listen and put forth an effort.

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MarvyG · #11 03-04-2001, 06:52 PM

I think that we should have a three day retreat/lock-in where everyone on line would have to come and stay the entire weekend. The first day we would do something like everyone write there problems down on a list and express what their problems were. Then after we did this then we would go over all of the entire list so everybody would have that off their chests. The next day, everyone would pair up with somebody for about an hour and they would get to know each other better. Then we would switch and go to another person until everyone has spent time with each other. After we got to know each other on another level some of the animosity should go away because we would know things that we didn't know about each other. Then we will play games in groups that require everyone to work together. Saturday night should be spent making sure we all know our history, founders, etc. We could quiz each other and play Jeopardy type games so that we know our stuff. Sunday morning we would go to church and worship together and then go to Brunch. We would end with just a farewell session.

Shalom2U · #12 03-05-2001, 12:43 AM

Shalom MarvyG~
This was a good exercise for many relationship situations....Thanks, AKA2D'91!

Shalom~

uh ohhhhh! i hit the wrong icon...sorry!

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Diamon · #13 03-05-2001, 09:16 AM

My solution:

Pray first, individually and collectively. "Prayers of the righteous availeth much" and know this to be a fact! Then I would have to break down and do what I used to do with my students who had issues with one another. We would be spending the day together: ALL DAY until the air was clear. I would have us handcuffed in pairs - switching periodically. (No, I did not handcuff my students, they had to hold hands until their problem was resolved. I would send a note around to their other teachers explaining this and for them to reinforce it)When you are forced to be that close to someone, you're going to talk. Come back together as a group and play: Win, Loose or Draw, Who Wants to be a Linesister, [We're in] Jeopardy [ if we don't get along and know our history] or something creative so that it will not seem like a "bashing session".

exquizit · #14 03-05-2001, 09:42 AM

I had to really think before answering this one.Of course I'd pray and talk and all this..But honestly you guys I'd be UPSET!

I mean think about it, I'm sure it takes alot to become a part of something so great and this would no doubt put a damper on my parade!

Now not to piggy back off the previous posts, I would have to say I'd make a way for all of us to have to spend even more time around eachother. Have everyone think of a program that they're interested in that could somehow help the community where each person on the line would HAVE to be involved, then start making each one happen.

I'd have to stress the fact that we were sisters and that's a strong bond whether we like eachother or not.

(I don't like my biological sister half the ime, but I wouldn't let anything happen to her)I'd also have to remind everyone that

we'd pledged ourselves into something bigger than our individual egos and that we'd need to get over ourselves and get to work!

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completion · #15 03-05-2001, 07:33 PM

Well I had to post to this message because I believe in a short amount of time this will be a reality for me. Right now there is some tension betweent the other prospectives and myself mostly on the account of my behalf and me not keeping my mouth closed and there has been so much tension in the air that I don't know what to do. I have been praying and secluding myself from people and asking God to give me strength and for the others to forgive me but it seems like it's not working so what do I do. If we do get on "line" together how do I rectify the situation. How do I prove to to them that I have learned from my mistake??? Any responses would help. Thanks.