Should I Rush Again?

#1 07-23-2010, 12:31 AM

I am going to be a sophomore at my school in the fall. I rushed last semester but it did not really work out. There were extenuating circumstances and lots of girls did not get bids.I felt as though I clicked with a few of the sororities. I had just started there in jan and rushed in feb so I obviously did not know many people at school. Also my father passed away right after rush So I feel like it would have been bad timing for me to join if I had got a bid. But Honestly Is it worth rushing again in the fall. Do people hold it against you? I know its informal recruitment (not really sure exactly what the difference is). Is it worth it?

KSUViolet06 · #2 07-23-2010, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by mynamegoes

I am going to be a sophomore at my school in the fall. I rushed last semester but it did not really work out. There were extenuating circumstances and lots of girls did not get bids.I felt as though I clicked with a few of the sororities. I had just started there in jan and rushed in feb so I obviously did not know many people at school. Also my father passed away right after rush So I feel like it would have been bad timing for me to join if I had got a bid. But Honestly Is it worth rushing again in the fall. Do people hold it against you? I know its informal recruitment (not really sure exactly what the difference is). Is it worth it?

First, I am sorry for your loss.

I don't know your school so I don't know it's a school where re-rushers have a harder time than first timers.

It can't hurt you to try again.

You may get a bid, you may not.

It's up to you to determine if it's worth trying.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

kddani · #3 07-23-2010, 06:29 AM

What were the extenuating circumstances that lots of girls didn't get bids?

What has changed about you in the past year to help your chances?

FleurGirl · #4 07-23-2010, 07:46 AM

It can't hurt to try again. Even if you don't get a bid, what's the worst possible thing that can happen? Not getting a bid again. Just so long as you're prepared for that to possibly happen, there's no reason not to go for it again. You'll meet some new people, and it'll be fun!

#5 07-23-2010, 09:40 AM

it was crazy snowing that they cut recrutiment by like 3 days so no one really got much of a chance to really meet any of the girls. I can't say I have necessarily changed that much in the past few months . A few of the girls who where in sororities ( who I later on grew to know) told me that because of such a short recruitment many nice girls "fell through the cracks" I can't necessarily say it will kill me if i don't get a bid. I have had a lot of worse things happen to me this year. I guess I probably will rush again it can't hurt that much. Does anyone know how informal recruitment works though?

ree-Xi · #6 07-23-2010, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by mynamegoes

it was crazy snowing that they cut recrutiment by like 3 days so no one really got much of a chance to really meet any of the girls. I can't say I have necessarily changed that much in the past few months . A few of the girls who where in sororities ( who I later on grew to know) told me that because of such a short recruitment many nice girls "fell through the cracks" I can't necessarily say it will kill me if i don't get a bid. I have had a lot of worse things happen to me this year. I guess I probably will rush again it can't hurt that much. Does anyone know how informal recruitment works though?

I'm sorry for your loss.

Based on your previous posts, all I can say is to do everything you can to improve on last year's "package". Get recommendations, be open to all the sororities, and get into activities (if you haven't already).

There really isn't that much that anyone else can tell you.

Search here for "Informal Recruitment" or "COB" or "COR" for ideas on what it's like. Every school/sorority is different, however, so you should contact your Greek Life office.

Good luck if you do choose to go through recruitment again.

GatorGirl27 · #7 07-23-2010, 11:31 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like everyone else has said, you may or may not get a bid, but you'll never know if you don't go through recruitment. Keep an open mind, and see how it goes. Even if you end up without a bid, you may meet some girls you really get along with. I would contact your Greek Life office to get more information on informal recruitment.

Also (and this is from what I've read on GC, as I participated in formal recruitment) many people find they actually like informal recruitment/COB better. For some people, it gives them a chance to get a better look into the chapters and see if they really feel at home there.

Best of luck to you, if you do choose to go through recruitment again.

33girl · #8 07-23-2010, 11:57 AM

If formal rush really was that much of a cluster because of the snow and quota was down, they might do a more structured informal rush. In that case there will still be schedules etc, just that rushees may not have to attend all events.

If it's just all COB parties for different groups may be held at the same time. In that case try and divide your time so you get to see all the groups.

Hope that helped. Hang in there...I know it's hard but it does get less hard eventually.

#9 07-23-2010, 11:59 AM

thanks everyone for the support i really appreciate it!

groovypq · #10 07-23-2010, 12:05 PM

mynamegoes, I am sorry for your loss. I'm with everyone else in that you should give recruitment a try! You never know. :-)

33girl makes a very good point above. My school has informal recruitment in the fall, and I see many girls make the mistake of getting their hearts set on one house and never visiting the others because they don't have to. Even though it's informal, you should still maximize your options and give everyone a chance. You may fall in love with a house during informal and they only have a few spots. You won't have any idea how many openings each house has (unless you do a LOT of homework and go through their websites and count... and even that might not help if the site's not updated).

Good luck!

papayafruit · #11 08-04-2010, 11:37 AM

I am sorry for your loss.
At my school it was crazy snowing too and we cut off 3 or 4 days of recruitment, so formal recruitment was different and shorter. A lot of girls didn't get bids, so I'd definitely try again. In terms of informal recruitment, it depends on what school, so contacting the greek life office at your school is best. I also agree with groovypq's advice about maximizing options. Good luck if you choose to go through with it again.