Asking your crush party date at chapter

BonVoyage · #1 10-09-2014, 08:07 PM

Im not sure if this is in the right section but I have a question.
My two littles and I want to ask out our dates this sunday at their chapter meeting. we thought about bringing cupcakes or cookies that say crush party? but anyone else asked their dates in chapter that have cute ideas. I actually wanted to freak my date out since he already knows he's going with me.
Ideas or is what we're doing cute?

33girl · #2 10-09-2014, 09:44 PM

Are you actually making the cupcakes or are you just getting them from Giant Eagle?

thetalady · #3 10-09-2014, 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by BonVoyage

Im not sure if this is in the right section but I have a question. My two littles and I want to ask out our dates this sunday at their chapter meeting. we thought about bringing cupcakes or cookies that say crush party? but anyone else asked their dates in chapter that have cute ideas. I actually wanted to freak my date out since he already knows he's going with me. Ideas or is what we're doing cute?

Is it common for people to interrupt chapter meeting for this kind of thing? Maybe they don't take chapter meeting as seriously as we did when I was in school, but NO ONE interrupted chapter meeting.... for anything. Ritual stuff might be going on.

I think you are really putting at least 2 of the guys on the spot (not your BF). Your littles better KNOW the guys will say yes.

Griffins&Quills · #4 10-09-2014, 10:59 PM

We always did our crush party where the guys were invited via anonymous evites to their emails we provided and they didn't know who invited them

But also I agree with thetalady on all counts. Interrupting chapter and creating an awkward situation if someone wants to say no.

candygirl200413 · #5 10-09-2014, 11:10 PM

@thetalady I know with my chapter, they can only visit when we aren't doing ritual stuff plus they contact our president beforehand.

But I think the cupcake idea is cute!

AZTheta · #6 10-09-2014, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by candygirl200413

@thetalady I know with my chapter, they can only visit when we aren't doing ritual stuff plus they contact our president beforehand.

But I think the cupcake idea is cute!

This doesn't seem right. Stuff like that (serenandes, invites, announcements, etc) would happen at Chapter dinner, before actual Chapter. Have things changed that much? Or maybe GPhi has a different policy than Theta, which is a possibility.

PeppyGPhiB · #7 10-10-2014, 01:06 AM

Our chapter invited all the guys on our Crush Party list via a huge poster (with their names) in the quad. Anonymous. That was the point of the party. Otherwise it would just be another date dash.

FSUZeta · #8 10-10-2014, 08:17 AM

On the last campus where I was an advisor, the greeks did not have housing and invitations such as this were done frequently at chapter. Arrangements were made ahead of time with the chapter president, and she/he usually told the inviters what time to arrive. On campuses that had houses, invitations were announced toward the end of dinner, again, at a designated time.

But I agree with others, I thought crush parties were anonymous invitations and if the crushees were publicly invited, members other than the "crushers" extended the invitation. The crushee found out at the party who had a crush on him/her.

angels&angles · #9 10-10-2014, 08:24 AM

we had a specific time during chapter when nonmembers could come in. This was usually for colonizing chapters (fraternity or sorority) to talk about colonizations and how we could help, but it was sometimes also panhel or IFC. It was generally srs bzns. They would show up at the designated time and wait outside the chapter room until someone let them in (usually giving us time to cover up any ritual-related stuff in sight). It was easier during pledging, since we would have a separate non-ritual chapter for the new members anyway.

At any rate, something like serenade or date party invitations would NOT happen during chapter. Too frivolous. At my campus, all orgs would have dinner before chapter. That was the time to deliver baked goods, serenade, and do invites.

Griffins&Quills · #10 10-10-2014, 10:08 AM

We would always have visitors during chapter, mixer invites, congrats on your new pledge class, we're throwing this event please come, etc etc. But they were "official" things. Not just random guys/girls interrupting chapter.

pshsx1 · #11 10-10-2014, 11:58 AM

We had sororities come in just a handful of times to do their crush party invites. That ended, though, because the girls took up too much time in the meeting and invited like half of our chapter, making the other half not feeling great/salty. *shrug*

PaddyMaxwell · #12 12-20-2015, 02:13 AM

Never interrupt ritual. This goes with any fraternity; there are often methods/consequences that have to be followed subsequent even an expected/justifiable interruption. Proceed with caution.

sigmagirl2000 · #13 12-20-2015, 06:29 PM

I can say that Sigma Kappa formal meetings would never be interrupted for anything.... ever. This applies to the present as well as the past.

clemsongirl · #14 12-20-2015, 06:48 PM

This has been an enlightening thread for me-at Clemson, a "crush party" just means that one or two sororities hold a mixer at a bar downtown and can bring dates that are not necessarily members of a specific fraternity or sorority. We don't do anything special about asking them, and it's definitely not anonymous because our dates have to be escorted in and out of the bar with the member of the sorority in order to enter. This is contrasted with a "mixer", which is a closed event for two fraternities and two sororities or one fraternity and one sorority.

Speakers can come to chapter before the official ritual starts to talk about events happening on campus as long as they let our guard know ahead of time so we can cover up our ritual stuff.