Finally deciding to rush Fall 2011, need some advice.

[twilightxox]

I've been debating for a long time whether or not to go through recruitment for a while. I didn't do it Freshman year because of personal reasons.

I have a couple of questions and concerns.

So, the main thing I am worried about is if I am going to get a bid. I am at home taking a break from school, I'm taking classes to raise my GPA, but I will be considered a Sophomore. Is being an upperclassman really a big deal? I have a lot of community service experience, an amazing 'resume', and I like being part of something. I know a lot of girls in sororities who I am on very good terms with. Everyone always asks me why am I not in a sorority, even some of the girls in sororities tell me I should join and I would fit right in. For the girls I am not on good terms with, will that hurt my chances? Since I am taking a year off I have a lot of time to get myself together, raise my grades and clean up before returning, because I had a big party girl image during Freshmen year.

Sorry for the long questions and what not! I am mostly concerned with not getting a bid, because I have officially become very interested in Greek life and am really trying to change things to be successful.

Thank you.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by twilightxox

I've been debating for a long time whether or not to go through recruitment for a while. I didn't do it Freshman year because I didn't know about the whole Greek system because I lived in another country. But my roommate, and one of my suite mate did it and are now in Sororities.

I have a couple of questions and concerns.

So, the main thing I am worried about is if I am going to get a bid. I am at home taking a break from school, I'm taking classes to raise my GPA, but I will be considered a Sophomore on my return, and it will be at Kansas State University, and is being an upperclassman really a big deal? I have a lot of community service experience, an amazing 'resume', and I like being part of something. I know a lot of girls in sororities who I am on very good terms with. Everyone always asks me why am I not in a sorority, even some of the girls in sororities tell me I should join and I would fit right in. For the girls I am not on good terms with, will that hurt my chances? Since I am taking a year off I have a lot of time to get myself together, raise my grades and clean up before returning, because I had a big party girl image during Freshmen year, but it wasn't a bad one where people go "there's that one girl who sleeps around", or "there's that alcoholic chick".

Sorry for the long questions and what not! I am mostly concerned with not getting a bid, because I have officially become very interested in Greek life and am really trying to change things to be successful.

Thank you.

We can't say for sure whether you'll get a bid or not because we don't know.

The girls who don't like you may affect your chances, or they may not.

As far as your reputation, what's done is done and the good thing is that you're different now. People might judge you based on the past, but there is nothing you can do about it.

I tend to think that you have nothing to lose by trying. You never know.

As far as Kansas recriutment goes, I dug up this in a search and it might help you:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=96413

[Flying Tiger]

Yea its hard to say if you will get a bid or not. But if your campus is huge, I don't think reputation will matter that much because people won't know you, unless there is a very specific sorority that you are trying to get into where you are not in good terms with a handful of the memebrs. Also I wouldn't worry too much about the upperclassman thing. If they like you they will offer you a bid. I guess it also depends on how many epople are trying to get in too. If they are desperate then your chances will be good but if there is a huge line of people trying to get into this one sorority then I guess competition will play in. Good luck.

[IrishLake]

To the OP - Ditto what KSUVi said. I'll add that you never know unless you try, but none of us can tell you your odds. Getting recs may be a good idea just to help showcase what you have to offer.

Flying Tiger, you admit you know very little, if anything, about womens traditional formal recruitment, so saying things like this:

Originally Posted by Flying Tiger

Yea its hard to say if you will get a bid or not. But if your campus is huge, I don't think reputation will matter that much because people won't know you, unless there is a very specific sorority that you are trying to get into where you are not in good terms with a handful of the memebrs. Also I wouldn't worry too much about the upperclassman thing. If they like you they will offer you a bid. I guess it also depends on how many epople are trying to get in too. If they are desperate then your chances will be good but if there is a huge line of people trying to get into this one sorority then I guess competition will play in. Good luck.

is completely misleading. It's in your best interest to not offer advice on things you know nothing about.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Flying Tiger

Yea its hard to say if you will get a bid or not. But if your campus is huge, I don't think reputation will matter that much because people won't know you, unless there is a very specific sorority that you are trying to get into where you are not in good terms with a handful of the memebrs. Also I wouldn't worry too much about the upperclassman thing. If they like you they will offer you a bid. I guess it also depends on how many epople are trying to get in too. If they are desperate then your chances will be good but if there is a huge line of people trying to get into this one sorority then I guess competition will play in. Good luck.

Excuse me, Mr. Flying Tiger. We don't appreciate male rushees coming on our recruitment threads offering advice to women when they obviously have no insight into the workings of formal recruitment! Keep to what you know...

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 408

this is complete bullshit. I'm sure there are plenty of men who can give advice on recruitment. I'm not one of them, so I won't. But I'm sure some dude with a sorority girlfriend can tell you the ins and outs of your process because she keeps chatting in his ear about all the bullshit she has to do

I will say this: Plenty of sophomores get bids at my school. You'll be fine

How many men go through sorority recruitment?

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by 408

this is complete bullshit. I'm sure there are plenty of men who can give advice on recruitment. I'm not one of them, so I won't. But I'm sure some dude with a sorority girlfriend can tell you the ins and outs of your process because she keeps chatting in his ear about all the bullshit she has to do

*clutches pearls* Oh my, that wouldn't be you, by any chance?

Originally Posted by 408

I will say this: Plenty of sophomores get bids at my school. You'll be fine

I take it that you are at the same school as the OP, and you know the OP? So you can predict this? You're sure about a lot of things.

/sarcasm off

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 408

zero.

I stopped reading here.

Let sorority women speak about sorority recruitment.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I stopped reading here.

Let sorority women speak about sorority recruitment.

Again, you're right on. Thanks k_s. *extra goodies in your stocking this year*

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 408

Well fuck you then. What I said has merit

So much so that EVERY person that's responded after you has told you to shut the hell up?

Yea, run with that.

Originally Posted by AzTheta

Again, you're right on. Thanks k_s. *extra goodies in your stocking this year*

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 408

you guys can say anything you want but what I said has merit because its just a simple fact

You're right. What supposedly happens at one random school is representative of the entire NPC nation.

Now it's my turn: Shut the fuck up.

[rollthedice]

/moving the thread back on track....

I say do it. Go in with an open mind and be ready to face rejection.
If you don't go through, I'm quite sure that you will spend some time wondering "what if?"

good luck with everything!

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 408

I'm not purporting it to. I've said multiple times that where I'm from this happens, and it may be different somewhere else. There's nothing wrong with that

Originally Posted by 408

this is complete bullshit. I'm sure there are plenty of men who can give advice on recruitment. I'm not one of them, so I won't. But I'm sure some dude with a sorority girlfriend can tell you the ins and outs of your process because she keeps chatting in his ear about all the bullshit she has to do

I will say this: Plenty of sophomores get bids at my school. You'll be fine

Remembering what you type is not your strong suit.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 408

Saying a man can't give advice about formal recruitment is complete bullshit because there are men who can give advice about recruitment. I'm not one of them and I didn't give advice. I'll edit the post to reflect this

Saying a fraternity member cannot give advice about sorority recruitment is right on track since, you know, we don't go through it.

And if you gave no advice, why would you feel the need to edit?

Fail.

ETA: Good job with the keyboard courage in your edit. Bitch.

[lucgreek]

Eh, I've seen plenty of sorority women give advice on fraternity recruitment here before.

But what this 408 person is saying is horrible advice.