Jewlery from an ex - can you wear it?

[gphi2k2]

So let's say you date someone for a while, and over the years you accrue some jewlery. A ring here (not an engagement ring), a bracelet there, a necklace here....

Once you break up, what's the etiquette on wearing the jewlery?
And what are the Karma implications???

Do you think it's wrong to wear jewlery an ex gave you, especially when you're seeing someone new? And is it just asking for bad mojo?

For example, let's say you have a really nice tiffany heart pendant bracelet that happens to be engraved and was a present from an ex (for example of course, strickly theoretical ). If you get the engraving removed, is it still pretty stupid/uncool/bad karma/disrespectful to the present bf to wear it? And this is of course after all attempts to sell said jewlery have failed miserably.

What the heck do you do with jewlery an ex gave you?!?

[Tippiechick]

In general, I see nothing wrong with wearing jewelry from exes. Personally, I burn everything from exes. But, if it's pretty valuable and someone cannot sell it, I can't find fault with someone else keeping said jewelry and wearing it.

The only item I would question would be an engagement ring. If he wants it back and has been a complete ass, you can either sell it or wear it for a while just to piss him off and flaunt the ring in his face. If you sell it, take yourself on a nice little trip, etc. If it just brings too much emotion, then still sell it and spend the money on something REALLY nice for yourself.

[ZTAMich]

The ring the Ex gave me last year for Christmas was stolen when my apt was broken into last month. I say good, glad it's gone!

Jewlery should not be worn after a relationship. Keep it if you must, but put it away & out of sight.

[WCUgirl]

Save it, and you can do one of a few things:

1-trade it in to purchase a new piece(s) for yourself
2-trade it in and design a new piece(s) using some of the stones (or none, whatever floats your boat)
3-do what my friend did and trade in all her jewelry from all her exes and get a bomb-diggity engagement ring for a few hundred dollars.

[Lil' Hannah]

I still wear ex-boyfriend jewlery. I don't think it's really a big deal.

[33girl]

I've missed youuuuu!!

anyway - if it doesn't make you feel bad, keep it and wear it. I have a necklace an ex gave me that I still wear all the time - of course we parted on very good terms.

[valkyrie]

There's nothing wrong with wearing jewelry from an ex.

I'd also caution against selling an engagement ring or other diamond jewelry. Chances are, you wouldn't get nearly what it's worth.

[winneythepooh7]

I love butterflies and have a really cool silver butterfly ring my ex got me in Monterey, CA. I wear it all the time because I like it. My boyfriend now saw it and asked where I got it from. I could have lied but I told him the truth. Yesterday we happened to be X-mas shopping in the mall and out of the blue he asked if he could get me a new butterfly ring to wear so I didn't have to wear the one from "him"..........

[recentASAalum]

I think it depends on the sentimental attachment you have to it... I still wear a really nice Fossil watch that an ex gave me cuz it doesn't really cause me to think of him because I don't place to much sentimental attachment on things like that... but if you do i would say don't wear it...

otherwise it was a gift hang on to it... you never know when it might be useful or you could maybe regift it to a close friend of yours... I have two friends who broke up right around the same time with their boyfriends... and then traded the rings (not engagement) they had gotten from them so that someone would get some use out of it...

[Munchkin03]

There's nothing wrong with wearing or using any gift from an ex.

[AChiOAlumna]

I was engaged once before (not to my DH) and we broke off the engagement. He didn't want the ring back, so I had it reset as a pendant and wore it on a necklace. My mom HATED (I can't emphasize this word enough) when she saw me wearing it because she thought I wore it out of a type of "homage." I wore it because it was pretty...

Anyway, because of my mother, I put the ring on consignment and got enough money to buy a kitchenette set with my current DH.

[PhoenixAzul]

My mother has a three diamond ring. One diamond is my father's engagement diamond, the center one is her grandmother's engagement diamond, and the other is from her former fiance who died in a car crash before my parents met. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, my dad gets upset because he thinks the other guy's diamond is bigger than his (Truth be told, it is off by a millimeter or some ridiculously tiny measurement). I get to inherit the ring when I become older, and I'm proud to.

My boyfriend, on the other hand, has this really really really nice watch. His ex girlfriend's parents gave it to him (they own a jewelry store in Pgh) for Christmas, despite the fact they had only been dating for a few months at the time. I am just kinda hurt because I can't give him that type of present and neither can my parents. But at the same time, it's like a $500 watch, and truth be told, I'd be willing to hang onto a 500 dollar watch despite who gave it to me.

[AchtungBaby80]

I have a nice stainless steel watch and a Tiffany necklace from an ex that I wear a lot. I've never worn jewelry from other exes, but that's not because I like this ex any better than the others--it's just that the jewelry the previous exes gave me was hideous.

I never thought about it being bad mojo to wear it, though...

[JennRN]

I never wear the ring (not engagement) that my ex gave me. It's pretty and I like it, but every time I pull it out of the jewelry box, my stomach turns, and it's like eecchhhhh..... All those bad memories come back.

I do however, have a necklace that another ex gave me, and even though we ended badly, I still wear it occasionally because it's so cool!! (It's made out of telephone wire).

[honeychile]

I've never kept anything that was an heirloom, but anything else is fair game. Find a good, fair jeweler, and have the jewelry reset into something new and interesting - and all yours.