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Old 01-08-2008, 05:38 PM
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Craig's List Question about dating

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What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful
(spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and
classy.
I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who
makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in
mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't
think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives?
Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average
around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000
won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was
married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as
pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How
do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars,
restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a
nice home and hearth.

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Old 01-08-2008, 05:39 PM
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Dear Pers-431649184:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade
and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in
earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buyand hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's
as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the
$500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way.
Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
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Old 01-08-2008, 06:14 PM
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Stick a fork in her, she'll be single forever.

The guy has a pretty unique perspective and some good points.
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Old 01-08-2008, 08:32 PM
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Old 01-08-2008, 08:48 PM
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LOVE that response ! LOL.
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Old 01-09-2008, 10:42 AM
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Old 01-09-2008, 08:21 PM
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Why does she care about money so much? Otherwise, it would have seemed like something anyone who is single and has nothing wrong with him or her would have written.
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Old 01-09-2008, 11:16 PM
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I think one of the boys of GC posted the response!
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Old 01-10-2008, 04:58 AM
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Not to mention that $1,000,000 is by no means "middle class," even in New York.
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Old 01-10-2008, 10:49 AM
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"Now I ain't sayin she a gold digger/But she ain't messin wit no broke ni..."

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LOLOLOLOL....Thanks for sayin' what I was thinkin'
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Old 01-10-2008, 03:16 PM
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The tragic part is that she doesn't think there is anything wrong with her perspective.

I don't know who to blame. Her parents, society, her past boyfriends that put up with sense of entitlement...

At least the response was as real as her original post.
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Old 01-10-2008, 03:30 PM
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Ok I just re read this and had to mention two things this woman says, and give my two cents...

I know a woman in my yoga class who was
married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as
pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How
do I get to her level?

ANSWER: maybe not be a social climber only interested in flashy things and "status"


"Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful
(spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and
classy."

Ummm beg to differ with the "classy"
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Old 01-10-2008, 05:51 PM
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I feel genuinely sorry for this girl. She's probably missed out on alot of great guys. I mean does personality not count for anything? I would also think that family values, whwether or not you want kids and how many, how the guy treats you, how you really feel about him and whether or not you make each other happy, and things like that should matter... I mean what if she gets this guy that makes 500k plus a year and he's abusuve? Is it worth it? You might get a guy that only makes 150k a year, but if he completely adores you and wants to do everything in his power to make you happy for the rest of your life, isn't it worth it? Maybe she should stop trying to be a trophy girlfriend\wife and try getting a job...
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Old 01-20-2008, 03:44 AM
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"classy" is a word that a prostitute who wears jewelery uses to describe herself

for example: "I'm a full figured classy woman who will fulfill your every desire. 100 roses/hr, outcall only."
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