Honeymoon Registry

JennRN · #1 10-07-2010, 05:06 PM

Has anyone ever seen this before?
My cousin is getting married next month and I just got an email from her maids of honor-not sure who all got the email, but anyway-it contained a link to their honeymoon registry, aka stuff we can buy them for their honeymoon-like, an upgrade to a suite, massages on the beach, etc. The email was encouraging us to do so.

I have never ever ever seen this done before. My gut reaction is that it's tacky as shit. The couple can afford their honeymoon (trust me, there is no $$$ issue)-so why the hell am I being asked to fund their honeymoon?? Is this a new trend that brides are doing?? Is it acceptable?
I mean-really, it probably shouldn't annoy me as much as it is, but I think it's the rudest thing. Buy me a shower gift, and wedding gift, and honeymoon gift?? NO. Fund your own shit.

Ok, vent over.(It's been a bad week). But I was just curious if this is a new thing??

Jill1228 · #2 10-07-2010, 05:10 PM

It ain't just you! That's BEYOND tacky!

Drolefille · #3 10-07-2010, 05:38 PM

Wait, is the implication that this is instead of a typical wedding gift or on top of a wedding gift? (or shower gift?) Because if it's just another registry site where you buy them a massage instead of a toaster, I don't have a problem with it. Otherwise, I think it's annoying and wouldn't participate.

Kappamd · #4 10-07-2010, 05:39 PM

I have started seeing information about setting up honeymoon registries on a lot of cruise/resort websites. It seems to be a new trend targeted towards couples who want to register/may feel pressure to register, but may already be "established" and not need a lot of the typical registry stuff.

Not a fan, and I won't be doing it.

Kappamd · #5 10-07-2010, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Wait, is the implication that this is instead of a typical wedding gift or on top of a wedding gift? (or shower gift?) Because if it's just another registry site where you buy them a massage instead of a toaster, I don't have a problem with it. Otherwise, I think it's annoying and wouldn't participate.

No, I believe it is in place of a wedding gift.

Drolefille · #6 10-07-2010, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Kappamd

No, I believe it is in place of a wedding gift.

Yeah that doesn't bother me. It depends on how well I know someone whether I do the registry gift or put my own thing together; but where someone registers, whether Walmart or a resort, why would I care?

Alumiyum · #7 10-07-2010, 05:59 PM

If it's instead of a wedding gift, I could get on board. I know for some couples that already have all the house items they need, this might be more useful to them. If it were in addition to a wedding present...they could suck it.

Xylochick216 · #8 10-07-2010, 06:09 PM

One of my best friends is doing this in lieu of a traditional registry. She's lived with her fiance for a few years, and aside from some new linens and things, she'd rather have some experiences on their honeymoon that they wouldn't normally have (like excursions, spa treatments, etc.). It's a lot more useful for them. If they just didn't register, people would take the liberty to buy things they don't want.

Kappamd · #9 10-07-2010, 06:14 PM

Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily tacky (IF the couple is doing it in lieu of a traditional registry), but for some reason I don't think I would be comfortable doing it.

But hey, more power to those who do. I'm sure it beats some ugly vase or something equally useless.

groovypq · #10 10-07-2010, 06:32 PM

I've gotten a lot of advertising about these. It's sort of tempting, because between my fiance and I we have all the "house stuff" we need. I've heard of people registering for sporting equipment or other "offbeat" stuff, so why not?

But this would definitely be for a regular wedding gift, not in addition!

JennRN · #11 10-07-2010, 06:54 PM

No, no, this isn't in lieu of a traditional registry-this is in addition to the 4 places they've registered for standard house stuff.

Kappamd · #12 10-07-2010, 07:00 PM

^^^Well, in THAT case.....

Alumiyum · #13 10-07-2010, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JennRN

No, no, this isn't in lieu of a traditional registry-this is in addition to the 4 places they've registered for standard house stuff.

Then yeah, that is damn tacky. I wouldn't feel obligated to gift from both.

southbymidwest · #14 10-07-2010, 09:08 PM

OK, still confused. If it is just option 5 of options for their wedding registry, I shrug and say ehh, ok. Gives me more possibilities on something to give them. IF it is something extra, on top of the wedding present, like a wedding party extra gift, then it is crass, crass, crass. I have a feeling that Miss Manners would not be amused.

KSUViolet06 · #15 10-07-2010, 09:57 PM

I vote no.

See also: the home down payment registry.

No.