A Note from A Bottom-Tier Sister

Nanners52674 · #1 08-15-2014, 03:00 PM

I found this on That site, but I think it's something every PNM should read.

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"I am in a 'bottom tier' sorority. I like it a lot. In fact, I love it. Some of you will talk to me during recruitment. Of the people who do, some will be super sweet and talkative and genuinely interested in learning about my sorority, some of you will feign polite interest, and some of you will be downright rude to me. All because of some preconceived notion of me.
I'm not going to give you some lecture about how you should be open-minded or about how much I love my sorority. I don't care about changing anyone's mind. The kind of women I want in my sorority are the kind who don't have to be told to be open-minded. No, what I would like to remind each and every one of you is that you're the new kids. At best, you're freshmen who haven't even attended your first college class. At worst, you're glorified high school students. And you're being invited into thirteen homes. These are the places we eat, sleep, comfort each other, get ready to go out, conduct our sacred rituals, and watch trashy reality tv shows. Think about inviting us into your home. You'd want us to be respectful.
The bottom line is that if you're walking into a chapter house and you've written it off before you even come in, you need to check your ego and remember that Greek life is a privilege, not a right."

maconmagnolia · #2 08-15-2014, 03:06 PM

I LOVE this. Thanks for sharing.

33girl · #3 08-15-2014, 03:42 PM

Part of me likes this, and part of me thinks it's way too on the defensive to be positive. There are also girls who go through rush being rude to the "druggie" sorority or the "hottie" sorority. Let's just say "don't be rude" and stop at that.

Griffins&Quills · #4 08-15-2014, 03:47 PM

I do like the message but I think it is applicable to all groups. Strong recruiting chapters can also have amazing sisterhood, have fun together and watch trashy reality tv together.

AOII Angel · #5 08-15-2014, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Griffins&Quills

I do like the message but I think it is applicable to all groups. Strong recruiting chapters can also have amazing sisterhood, have fun together and watch trashy reality tv together.

She's talking about ALL the chapters doing these things. Read carefully.

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And you're being invited into thirteen homes. These are the places we eat, sleep, comfort each other, get ready to go out, conduct our sacred rituals, and watch trashy reality tv shows. Think about inviting us into your home. You'd want us to be respectful.

That is an inclusive statement.

Nanners52674 · #6 08-15-2014, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Griffins&Quills

I do like the message but I think it is applicable to all groups. Strong recruiting chapters can also have amazing sisterhood, have fun together and watch trashy reality tv together.

It is applicable to all groups, that's the whole point. That just because their "bottom tier" doesn't mean your manners go out the window. That the whole Greek system is opening up their homes to you and no matter the chapters reputation they deserve respect in their home.

Griffins&Quills · #7 08-15-2014, 05:05 PM

I missed the part AOIIAngel pointed out

33girl · #8 08-15-2014, 07:13 PM

I think she could have just said "I am in a sorority" and let it go at that. Preconceptions happen for all groups. All this does is makes people wonder which group at the school they're rushing is bottom tier.

DubaiSis · #9 08-15-2014, 08:43 PM

I think the point is made in that she is in a chapter that (some) others perceive as bottom tier. And she's ok with it. Do I want her to talk like this to some girl during a rush party? No. But I think as an anonymous statement on a site like this one or "that one" it's ok, and should be seen as provocative, not necessarily how she lives her life.

KSUViolet06 · #10 08-15-2014, 10:38 PM

The "13 homes" part stuck out to me.

You are a guest in their HOME and you have been INVITED there. Be a gracious and polite guest.

Other important note:

You might think that no one is going to care that you were rude to Lambda Least Popular.

Know that it is very possible that the girl you just rolled your eyes at in Lambda Least Popular has a best friend in Epsilon Everyone Loves. They may talk. Your rudeness to one may get you cut from a few. It happens.

PhiMu_Mom · #11 08-15-2014, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Other important note:

You might think that no one is going to care that you were rude to Lambda Least Popular.

Know that it is very possible that the girl you just rolled your eyes at in Lambda Least Popular has a best friend in Epsilon Everyone Loves. They may talk. Your rudeness to one may get you cut from a few. It happens.

***THIS***
My daughter has a roommate, and they are very good friends, that is a different sorority. Think they don't talk?

DubaiSis · #12 08-15-2014, 11:23 PM

There were members of my weak performing chapter who had bio sisters (one, in fact, a twin) who were in strong performing chapters on the same campus at the same time. With all the oh my god this is the end of the world drama it seems like you have to make the one single right choice because these girls will be your only friends for 4 years. The fact is unless you are an anti-social boob you WILL have friends (even good friends, roommates and sisters) who will be in other sororities. Be nice.