This is WAY off color, but. . .

bgsugirlie · #1 02-03-2002, 09:23 PM

So let's say that you found out your new boyfriend slept with an astronomical amount of people. Would you sleep with him, too?

bluz4 · #2 02-03-2002, 09:31 PM

i guess it depends on how many he slept with and how much you really think it matters. i mean he is your boyfriend now so it doesnt matter how many he slept with before you. i speak from experience because my boyfriend has slept with many girls (not necessarily astronomical but more than i really think it should be.)
but what really matters now is that he's your boyfriend. plus you should be using condoms anyway if you are worried about diseases or have him go get checked out. but it really centers on your relationship with him now.

James · #3 02-03-2002, 09:33 PM

Wow, lol, definie what is astronomical to you? I don't sleep with guys on principle but I'll give you an opinion.

You should be flattered, he obviously has a lot of choice in girls (unless they were all ugly or something) and yet he chose to be with you. Guys like that are more trustworthy than guys that have been with almost no one or don't have a lot of dating options.

The only thing you really need to fear is disease. As long as he doesn't have one everything else should be cool, plus he is more likely to be better in bed given his experience (although that is not definite).

Good luck lol.

volgirl2376 · #4 02-03-2002, 11:52 PM

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Originally posted by James
I don't sleep with guys on principle

lol is this a typo?

aephi alum · #5 02-04-2002, 12:56 AM

Depends on your definition of "astronomical". Also depends on your boyfriend's honesty. If he lied - look out.

DeltaBetaBaby · #6 02-04-2002, 01:46 AM

One word of advice: NEVER do a virgin!

h2oot · #7 02-04-2002, 01:49 AM

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Originally posted by bgsugirlie
So let's say that you found out your new boyfriend slept with an astronomical amount of people. Would you sleep with him, too?

Nope. I like to think my boyfriend had discriminating tastes and is not promiscious.

Volgirl, What is James' typo? That he sleeps with a guy or that he has principles...lol.

SparkliiQTMTSU · #8 02-04-2002, 02:02 AM

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DeltaBetaBaby One word of advice: NEVER do a virgin!

Why not??

Nichole

DeltaBetaBaby · #9 02-04-2002, 02:18 AM

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Originally posted by SparkliiQTMTSU

Why not??

Nichole

The sex is lousy, and then they get all attatched.

volgirl2376 · #10 02-04-2002, 10:51 AM

I have to second the statement of not sleeping with a virgin. My ex was a virgin, and I have to tell you, that was the most akward night of my adult life. The whole day of the big event I was so nervous - just the thought of being someones first freaked me out for some reason. The sex was...weird. I mean it improved over time...kinda. In a twisted way, me being his first lover enabled me to realize he was cheating on me...all of a sudden he was the best I ever had one weekend...so apparently the whore he was running around on me with was teaching him new tricks.

KarenC725 · #11 02-04-2002, 01:27 PM

In the virgin's defese, everyone has a first time. THere will always be a "special place" for that first person as, well, the first, but from my experience, most of the people I know aren't still hung up/attached to them.

As for the astronomical number, it depends. Is he not discriminating? Does he just sleep with people out of some sort of compulsion (Dont laugh, I know someone like that). My ex had a lot of girls (i believe he still does but that's another story) and it bothered me. I was always scared that by increasing his numbers he increased the chance of getting something.

LexiKD · #12 02-04-2002, 03:31 PM

Well, is he responsible? Has he been careful every time?

Let's see some test results! Both of you can go to the doctor together and celebrate after!

bgsugirlie · #13 02-04-2002, 09:15 PM

Ok, some more info may be necessary...

He's careful to a certain extent. He would use a condom only if the girl he was sleeping with wasn't on the pill...but if a girl was on the pill, he didn't use a condom every time.

And as for the number, he won't tell me the exact number...probably because he thinks I am going to judge him because he has definitely been with a lot more people than me.m I guess we just view sex differently. But I'm guessing that he has to be in the 30"s....:-(

Now I'm open to any new opinions...???

ZTAngel · #14 02-04-2002, 09:29 PM

Ok, so let me get this straight....
The only times he would use a condom is if a girl wasn't on the pill? Ok, that is not cool. Girls could very easily lie and say, "Oh yeah, don't worry, I'm on the pill!" Also, THE PILL DOES NOT PROTECT FROM STD'S!!!!
Furthermore, if you think your guy's numbers may be in the 30's

and the only time he'd wrap it up was when a girl was "on the pill" then you need to tell him that you will NOT have sex with him unless he gets tested. Tell him you'll go with him.
You need to protect yourself.
Your initial question was if you should sleep with him or not. I cannot answer that for you because that is your own very personal decision. But, the fact that you have asked us for our opinions leads me to believe that you're having doubts. If you don't want to sleep with him, you don't have to. But, if you do, be VERY careful.

HeidiHo · #15 02-04-2002, 09:30 PM

Based on the condom only if the girl wasn't on the pill thing, I'd make him get checked out for STIs. He might not have any kids, but who knows what else he's harboring.

Most guy's STIs don't have very overt symptoms. I'd also suggest changing that condom philosophy. If/When yall sleep together, make use the raincoat and if you are on the pill you're that much safer. Go with your gut on this. If you don't feel safe then don't put yourself at risk.
Heidi