big sis advice

gphib_cutie9229 · #1 02-21-2004, 03:55 AM

Hey sisters,

I am a relatively new sister of Gamma Phi Beta, I was initiated in December. I am having an issue with my big sis. I haven't hung out with her since big/little rev and I have called, emailed IM'd and done everything possible to get to know her better and it never works. She only hangs out with three people in the sorority, and obviously I am not one of those three. After being hurt, I turned to my grandbig who doesn't get along with her little, and now it has made it worst. I hate that my big won't like me because I spend time with my grandbig. Its really getting to me, and I don't know what to do anymore.
I have even thought about leaving because my big is suppose to be my mentor through all of this and she hasn't been at all. Does anyone feel as though they just don't connect with their big or little? The only thing that keeps me going is that I am going to have a little soon, and I know that I would never let her feel like she couldn't talk to me.

Love in IIKE

Shawna

nyrdrms · #2 02-21-2004, 04:25 AM

I know that it sucks, but sometimes things just don't work out as planned. Quitting shouldn't be an option, though. Just because you don't have a relationship with your big sister doesn't mean that there isn't something else of value there for you. You joined for a reason, right? And that was before you were even paired up with this sister. You need to concentrate on the positive aspects of the sisterhood and the sorority as a whole rather than dwelling on the lack of a relationship. Good luck sweetie!

Love in II K E,
Rebekah

gphib_cutie9229 · #3 02-21-2004, 05:43 AM

Well there is another reason that I will more then likely have to leave the chapter for. Long story, and I definately dont want to leave my sisters, lack of connection with my big sis was put on top of that.
Recently my father lost his job and my mom doesn't make enough money to provide for five so I am working two jobs to help pay bills as well as my sister and brother and it still isn't looking to good, so regardless of the fact that me and my big don't get along. I need to get my priorities straight and having a place to live and food on the table comes before sorority. Maybe if situations get better and my family can get back on our feet I will join again. But family comes first. You are right thought I definately have other sister who will be there for me no matter what. Keep my family in your prayers sisters.

Love in IIKE
Shawna