Relationship w/o sex?

TheEpitome1920 · #1 03-30-2004, 11:27 AM

Am I the only person who believes its possible to have a relationship and not have sex? A male friend of mine says it would be hard to find a man who would enter into a relationship with a woman who he knew he wasn't going to have sex with.

nikki1920 · #2 03-30-2004, 05:22 PM

It might be difficult but I dont think it would be impossible.

Sex is overrated..
Enjoyable, but overrated.. lol.

Intense1920 · #3 03-31-2004, 01:42 PM

It's possible as long as both parties are upfront in the beginning.

StrangeFruit · #4 03-31-2004, 04:17 PM

It's possible. I've been in a relationship where for the past three years we haven't had sex.

I believe sex can get in the way of real issues in a relationship. And he's not getting any free milk from me.

Angelicqt716 · #5 03-31-2004, 07:56 PM

I have this same problem. All the guys here just want sex. And I can't find a guy to just date me without the sex. And all the guys tell me I never will. Is this the new era?

StrangeFruit · #6 04-01-2004, 04:06 PM

People need to wake up and find other way to have sex. It's not safe out there and just sharing such and initimate process with someone you're just "Dating" isnt worth it.

If I could do it all over again I would be a 33 year old Virgin right about now.

When I watch talks and court shows it's ridiculus how people are just giving away their power, men and women alike.

Children are having oral sex like it's Kool Aide with no type of committment associated with it, believing it's the road to popularity. When I was in high school if you were doing THAT you didn't want anyone to know about it b/c you would be labeled a Skank, but 16 years later it's the THING to do.

But more and more teenagers are becoming infected with HIV/AIDS.

Sex (IMO) doesn't define, improve,make a relationship. We need to learn to communicate and learn about the person we're involved with.

If and when I have children I will tell them that they are precious and that not everyone is WORTHY of them and to choose wisely. Know the person you are dealing with; not just their name, age, zodiac sign and address. Know what makes them tick, what their values are. Because you may find that most of the people you get to know aren't worth your time in a sexual way.

I remember Minister Louis Farakkhan saying, "Man can't live by butt alone."

Gyrl7 · #7 04-02-2004, 04:51 PM

I had one of those..

!!!

It would have been as bad if that was the way we started off, but he cooled down six months after we were dating. So the the remainder of the two and a half years we dated we must have had sex 3 times, although I only remember two of the ocassions, I will say three for arguments sake.

It was VERY frustrating, because he just cut me off cold with no real explanation other than "he didn't feel like a man", so for reasons that out weighed the sex issue, I left him to figure out what in the hell it was he actually felt like.

ThetaLove · #8 09-11-2006, 04:17 PM

It is possible. Especially (like someone mentioned) if both are upfront in the beginning.
However, I know of a few relationships that have ended b/c of problems related to sexual issues. In all the relationships, they were having sex in the beginning, then one partner wanted to stop having sex. I know that sounds like most marriages after many years.... j/k

That could certainly lead to problems in the relationship and issues with the people involved in later relationships.

f8nacn · #9 09-11-2006, 04:27 PM

I believe that it definitely is possible...as long as that is discussed and agreed upon early on (as mentioned above).

Sophist08edLady · #10 09-11-2006, 05:05 PM

Wait a minute. Do you mean never, ever, ever have sex

I mean what is the time limit? 1 year, 3 years, until you marry me? As a woman, I think that it would be hard for me to do this, yet alone ask my man to.

ShamikaT · #11 09-11-2006, 06:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nikki1920

It might be difficult but I dont think it would be impossible.

Sex is overrated..
Enjoyable, but overrated.. lol.

GIRL....

Even as a born again virgin, I think that comment is.just.wrong.!

The mens who you were with prolly just didn't know how to work it.

neosoul · #12 09-11-2006, 08:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShamikaT

GIRL....

Even as a born again virgin, I think that comment is.just.wrong.!

The mens who you were with prolly just didn't know how to work it.

ROTFL...

teena · #13 09-16-2006, 07:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShamikaT

GIRL....

Even as a born again virgin, I think that comment is.just.wrong.!

The mens who you were with prolly just didn't know how to work it.

heheheh

I think that it is very possible to find a man who is willing to have a non sexual relationship.....but you better believe he has a GOOD reason not to want to have sex. That is all I will say about that.

nikki1920 · #14 09-29-2006, 03:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShamikaT

GIRL....

Even as a born again virgin, I think that comment is.just.wrong.!

The mens who you were with prolly just didn't know how to work it.

You can't be serious!

ladyb08 · #15 09-30-2006, 03:02 AM

I guess it would depend on the relationship you have with the person, and what you all have already established with one another. Just be honest up front. If you say what you want and/or need before the "tempting situation" even comes up, I think that the chance lessens of either of you doing something not desired...

Then again, this is the opinion of a young lady who's never experienced this sort of situation... Most of them go about their business after I tell them, and I feel I'm better off without the runaround.