Saving yourself..to what extent??

RxyChrldr · #1 02-13-2002, 11:29 AM

Hm..now, i'm all for saving one's self until marriage...but to what extent? I was just watching the Ananda show, and there was a teen gal who said she's "saving herself" until marriage. And by this, she meant everything, not just sex. She's actually saving her first *kiss* for her wedding night. What do y'all think about this?

ZTAngel · #2 02-13-2002, 11:35 AM

The sex thing...fine, I can understand that.
But, a kiss?!
I would feel really bad for her if she waited until her wedding night to get her first kiss and her husband was a sloppy kisser! Yuck!

I honestly have never heard of someone who is willing to wait until their wedding night to receive their first kiss. That's a new one.

h2oot · #3 02-13-2002, 11:55 AM

You can always find somebody who will say just about anything on TV. I think saving the "first kiss" is the kind of bizarre stuff you see on the talk show to flame somebody.

xok85xo · #4 02-13-2002, 12:02 PM

actually, my friend's cousin and her fiance(now husband)'s first kiss was their "you may now kiss the bride" kiss

ZetaLuvBunny · #5 02-13-2002, 02:03 PM

I saw that show too. Both those girls were waaay on the extreme. One saying she won't even kiss a guy yet, the other saying she's slept with over 30 guys.

Sisterplum · #6 02-13-2002, 02:37 PM

Personally I think saving your first kiss for the wedding night (which I think she probably meant the wedding...you know "you may now kiss the bride"?!) is WAY extreme! I can see saving sex for the wedding night (not that I did or anything...

) but a kiss?! Come on!

LexiKD · #7 02-13-2002, 07:15 PM

That's what you call major will power!

amycat412 · #8 02-13-2002, 07:44 PM

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Originally posted by LexiKD
That's what you call major will power!

lol that's one way to put it, I was thinking FRIGID myself.

KSig RC · #9 02-13-2002, 08:37 PM

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Originally posted by amycat412

lol that's one way to put it, I was thinking FRIGID myself.

Yeah . . . I was thinking more like "She'll be waiting a long long looooong time for that kiss then . . . "

AlphaGamDiva · #10 02-14-2002, 01:17 AM

wow...that's deep. i mean...whatever cranks your tractor and all, but seriously. personally, it's just too much fun sometimes to just get some random face (and by "face" i mean makin' out...some ppl call something else "face", just to clarify that one).

stillwater15 · #11 02-14-2002, 01:33 AM

by the time she gets some, whether it's a kiss or actual sex, she'll have cobwebs all over her body. more power to her. i think it's admirable to save yourself for the wedding night, but i don't see anything wrong w/kissing before you say, "i do".

Optimist Prime · #12 02-14-2002, 01:37 AM

Wow. I hope I meet a girl like that. Not that will make we wait till wedding night to kiss but one that will date me but not let me make out the first time we're alone together. Yeah, cuz then if I have to wait for that I'll be not minding waiting for other stuff too. I'd have to really been into her though. OR i'd just steal a kiss.

James · #13 02-14-2002, 02:49 PM

Wow, if we all had to save ourselves for our wedding nights, and couldn't even do "other" things, we would all be getting married really young . . . or at least I would have

Imaginary conversation with PArents:

Parent: Well, you should really go to college first . . .

Me: Not until after I am married!

Parent: Don't you want to see the world?

Me: Not until After I am married!

Parent (must be mom

): Wow you must be really in love.

Me: Not exactly. She's just really a sure thing and your sucky matriarchal cultural values have turned me into a white hot ball of quivering testosterone fury! I might explode! So its either get married to get laid, or turn into a homosexual serial killer.

twinstars · #14 02-14-2002, 02:54 PM

I know a girl here at college who is planning to have her 1st kiss on her wedding night (apparently), and she's had a boyfriend for a few years now. He's a few years older and I'm sure they're planning to get married when she graduates. I think she's pretty seriously religious, but she's not a weirdo or anything. She's a really pretty, petite, nice girl. I personally don't see the point in not kissing before marriage, but for people who talk about "saving themselves," I think it makes sense to save everything, not just actual intercourse. I really don't want to hear about "saving themselves" from girls who've been giving blow jobs since middle school but are still "technical" virgins. I think if someone wants to save their "sexual purity" for their spouse, they should not go much beyond kissing with other people. Not that I'm saying anyone needs to save themselves (sexually) for the one they marry. I'm 21 now, not a virgin, and I can certainly see myself sleeping with at least a few more guys before I find someone I want to settle down with for the rest of my life. And I certainly don't hold my future husband to any higher standard than I hold myself.

shadokat · #15 02-14-2002, 03:19 PM

To each his/her own, but damn, waiting that long for any piece of action is crazy.