Anyone else feel ackward when first hanging out with your "sisters"?

DGpledge · #1 02-04-2001, 06:08 PM

Here's the thing...I'm currently pledging a sorority. And this past friday night a couple of the active girls invited me out with them and some other girls from our chapter, naturally I accepted. I was having a lot of fun, but at the same time was feeling kind of weird around all of them. I think what made me feel the weirdest was how they would keep talking about things they've all been through together. SInce I'm a new pledge I haven't gone thorugh or experienced anything with any of them, so i guess I kinda felt left out. I know that eventually I too will be able to join in on there reminicing once I go through stuff with them as well.

So my question is: Is it normal to feel this way? I choose these girls cause I felt great around them during rush, etc...

Anyone?

Thanks!

Billy Optimist · #2 02-04-2001, 06:18 PM

Yeah, I think that is pretty normal. These people have known each other, for like years right? They have a lot more common expericences than you do with them. Think of it like this, if they were just new people that you met at college that grew up together, they would probably have the same stories. So just try to relax, because next semester you will be the one making pledges feel weird. Hope that helped.

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adpigirl · #3 02-04-2001, 06:37 PM

it's normal to feel that way. but the bond between you and your sisters will grow fast, especially the bond between you and your pledge sisters and you will start to feel more comfortable. all it takes is time!!!

33girl · #4 02-04-2001, 09:16 PM

Yeah, it's normal. Just like if anyone became part of your group of friends from high school after y'all had known each other 12 years! You can feel good that they asked you out and didn't feel like they had to NOT discuss stuff. It sounds like you are going to have a great time!

xok85xo · #5 02-04-2001, 10:24 PM

Well, maybe in they're reminicing they were trying to show you one of the best parts about being in a sorority: the memories that you make, and the bonds that will last a lifetime.. They probably weren't trying to make you feel like out, but trying to share with you something that was special to them..

SigmaChiRainbow · #6 02-04-2001, 10:49 PM

Lesbian activity will really break the ice

just trying to help

hope it works out for you, silly

HeidiHo · #7 02-05-2001, 12:31 AM

Oh my goodness. I can't even begin to tell you how I know exactly what you mean. I rushed this past fall, knowing zero people. Bid day came and went & it was hard to be thrown into a group & suddenly try to find friends.
Right around thanksgiving we each met with out scholarship chair to discuss goals for the next quarter. I included school goals, but also personal ones. One of the most important ones, to me, was to make some stronger, closer friendships. I say that it was around thanksgiving because now, the beginning of Feburary, I'm house-hunting with three girls from my pledge class.
Trust me when I say that the "I love my bestfriend, she's going to be my maid of honor" type of friendship will come. I'm not even to that point yet, but it's coming. Like so many other good things, it just takes a little time.
Heidi

ZTAngel · #8 02-06-2001, 01:26 AM

It's hard at first to try and become friends with all those girls. It doesn't help either that they all seem to already be so close. I didn't start feeling completely comfortable until we went through recruitment last fall. Being in the house with all those girls 24-7 really brings you closer. My advice for you is to get involved. That's the only way you'll get to meet and get to know your sisters. Also, give it time. I promise that it's all worth it!

Kauilani · #9 02-08-2001, 02:30 PM

Don't worry I think that everyone goes through it. I am a Pi Phi and I pledged in the fall. During pledgeship I mostly hung out with my class and at first it was a little wierd but we all became the best of friends by the time of initiation. You are a DG for a reason, everyone fits in some where. Things get better, sometimes I still feel confused and out of place and I've been here for over a semester. Don't worry, Have fun! Proud to be a Pi Phi!