Ask a SF . . . Random questions

Ideal08 · #1 01-09-2005, 08:55 PM

SORORS (i.e., SORORS OF ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA SORORITY, INC.),

My Soror Moderator started a thread for SF's to question us; I would like to start a similar thread for us to question them.

So, my SORORS, do you have any questions that you would like to ask our Sisterfriends?

Disclaimer: The rules are the same, SFs, you don't have to answer anything you don't wish to respond to. No one is forcing you, no one is going to look down on you if you don't answer nor for how you answer, there are no tricks, no shadiness, no underhandedness, just questions. None of your answers will have any impact on whether or not you become a member of the organization. The sorors here at GC have no control over such a thing, nor do we claim to.

Sorors, should I or my Soror MIC deem your questions and/or comments to be inappropriate, your posts will be edited or deleted.

AKA2D '91 · #2 01-10-2005, 09:24 AM

gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllll..we are >>>here<<<

My questions:
Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

Why is the sky blue?
Why are there tsunamis?

LMAO! Lemme stop!

Paradise359 · #3 01-10-2005, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllll..we are >>>here<<<

My questions:
Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

Why is the sky blue?
Why are there tsunamis?

LMAO! Lemme stop!

Soror come with me...everything's gonna be allllright

I have some questions though...

Why do some SF get the impression that membership is OWED to them?

Why do some SF don't feel like they have to work towards the goal that is Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.?

SFs, do you feel like b/c of the easy access to memberfriends via the internet that there is less motivation to do your own research?

GC is pretty good with not attracting nutballs worthy of restraining orders but I have been members of other sisterfriend/soror sites & the prevelant attitude is that there is no humility i.e arguing with and or trying to cuss out a member of the organization you wish to be a part of. Why do you think that is?

I'm sure I'll be back with more...

1cococookie · #4 01-10-2005, 11:05 AM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllll..we are >>>here<<<

My questions:
Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

Why is the sky blue?
Why are there tsunamis?

LMAO! Lemme stop!

[/B]#1 That's an easy one...b/c it's easy to be bold at your computer. If the question turns out to be inappropriate, it's easier to read it from some unknown cyber persona, then someone who actually knows you

#2 Some SF's are lazy. It's that simple. Or they don't know any better. Not everyone has the same home training, work ethic or common sense.

#3 Do you mean go from ABC to DEF org? There are a lot of different reasons for that happening. My take is that for whatever reason, SF decided that ABC org is not for her. Speaking from an older SF perspective, I am certainly not the same girl I was back in UG, than I am now. My views, experiences, & expectations have all changed. Would it be such a stretch to think that maybe my interests would change also? But I do know that SF's change for reasons that are less than stellar, (denied membership, hookups in other orgs, etc)

#4. Interesting...b/c at some point in time ALL members of ABC org were SF's. A member would have to answer that question.

#5 No...but I would wager that SF's aren't trying to get in ABC org for the community service activities. You are right, I do that for free.

#6 What are the RIGHT reasons? Isn't that a subjective question? While we may all crinkle noses at "trying to get a man", or "going to the party"(obviously not the correct response)...what becomes the right answer? As you already stated, community service is a mute point. Sisterhood is a major component that most SF's are probably looking for. So what is beyond or the right reason?

#7 Lack of opportunity, lack of resources, less than a majority vote?

#8 Facade?? Some SF's are fake. They don't know how to be themselves. There is nothing wrong with having your A-game on in the presence of...but coming completely out of character...they know that if they are really who they are...(uncouth, dramafied...hot mess)...they will be DENIED.

#9 These SF's are not mature enough. Adult/Womanhood does not necessarily happen at 18 or 21. If SF's are trying to find themselves, they still won't find it in an org. That comes from inside. You are a mess before, and u still gonna be a mess in your letters.

allsmiles_22 · #5 01-10-2005, 11:08 AM

LMAO! And here I was thinking where to begin..........

I'll edit with my questions later.

Ideal08 · #6 01-10-2005, 11:36 AM

Why do some SFs choose not to use it? In regards to flip-flopping between orgs, if you never said anything, then no one would ever know that you changed your mind. So, SFs, I ask you, how do you view discretion and what does it mean to you? What do you think it means to the organization?

If you were a legacy, would you tell?

If your blood sister was an AKA perp would you tell or would you let my Sorors think she was real?

Have you ever thought about perping? What made you decide against it?

In your own words, what is the difference between a necessity and a luxury?

If you have to ask what the "right" reason is for joining an organization, should you even be thinking about joining?

What, if any, is the advantage of doing community service in a group as opposed to doing it alone?

btb87 · #7 01-10-2005, 11:54 AM

The same SF can answer this question as well, 'cause I could use some clarification:

If you have always wanted Sorority ABC and instead go to Sorority XYZ, what makes Sorority ABC "not right" for you anymore? What are you looking for in any Sorority?

Knowing what you know about your organization of choice, what would make you a "fit"?

Okay, let's say you were chosen for the organization that you want, but another person that you really don't like at all was also chosen. How do you handle that?

What are your favorite colors? (I have a reason for asking this seemingly crazy question.)

AKA2D '91 · #8 01-10-2005, 12:39 PM

Why do SOME SFs say they want to join XYZ because of the colors?

Why do some SFs choose XYZ org ONLY because their boyfriend/manfriend is a member of DEF? What happens if you and your boy/manfriend breakup? Then what?

Why is it that SOME SFs have their own agenda? Why not establish SF Social and Pleasure Aid Club?

Why am I not being sisterly to my sorors as I continue to ask MORE questions?

1cococookie · #9 01-10-2005, 01:17 PM

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Originally posted by btb87
The same SF can answer this question as well, 'cause I could use some clarification:

If you have always wanted Sorority ABC and instead go to Sorority XYZ, what makes Sorority ABC "not right" for you anymore? What are you looking for in any Sorority?

Knowing what you know about your organization of choice, what would make you a "fit"?

Okay, let's say you were chosen for the organization that you want, but another person that you really don't like at all was also chosen. How do you handle that?

What are your favorite colors? (I have a reason for asking this seemingly crazy question.)

In terms of changing your sorority choice, I was speaking moreso on those who may have wanted to join ABC in UG, then some years pass & you re-visit the sorority option and see that you may not be so inclined to your original choice. A person may not agree with the national programs (i.e, feels the sorority should be doing something different), the feel of the chapter/women, etc, may not be in the same vibe that you are. People change.

To answer your other question about being selected with someone I don't like...what can I do about it? The org saw something in her that apparently I can't or don't see. I would have to be polite, but we don't have to be friends. Business is business. Handle it.

Ideal08 · #10 01-10-2005, 01:36 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by 1cococookie
In terms of changing your sorority choice, I was speaking moreso on those who may have wanted to join ABC in UG, then some years pass & you re-visit the sorority option and see that you may not be so inclined to your original choice. A person may not agree with the national programs (i.e, feels the sorority should be doing something different), the feel of the chapter/women, etc, may not be in the same vibe that you are. People change.

This is an interesting perspective. It would stand to reason that as everyone grows, everyone changes. And if that is true, then that brings me to a new question:

Do you (not just coco, collective you) think that Alpha Kappa Alpha should discontinue membership at the undergraduate level so that we can make sure we are taking women who KNOW what they want?

1cococookie, what, exactly, is "the sorority option?" Does that mean choosing whether or not to join a sorority as opposed to choosing whether or not to join ABC?

What ARE the national programs of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.? How have they differed Through the Years?

What, in your honest opinion, is the purpose of a sorority? Now, how does it relate to the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha? Are they aligned? And do you believe that they HAVE to be aligned in order for you to join the organization?

futurestar1 · #11 01-10-2005, 01:41 PM

My questions:
Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

Supposed anonymity.

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

Same answer as the above question. On the internet, people consider themselves faceless.

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?
I will never understand this. Because BLGO are supposed to be lifetime commitments, I would think you would do everything within your power to make sure you are choosing the best fit. To me, from an interest perspective, it is like a marriage (lifetime commitment). I would never go into marriage unsure, so I certainly wouldn't pledge to work for an organization for life if I was unsure. I think those who choose this option just want to belong. I know people who have done this. And once they finally got into an organization, they did NO work for it.

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

They wanted to join to belong to something, anything.

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?
No, but it is worth a thousand dollars to keep something you believe in stable and growing. If you donate to certain charities, a portion of your donation goes to the organization to cover administrative costs.

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?
Yes, for the right reason. Just being a member of any group will not get you a man or the type of attention that you necessarily want. I look for nothing to complete me because I am whole. However, I am drawn to things and people that compliment my dreams, goals, beliefs and values.

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

This, I do not know. One cannot know everything from the outside looking in. And even once you are in the Greek life, I would assume (and I know I shouldn't assume) there is a learning curve.

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?
I can't speak for everyone, but I can speak for the sisterfriends that I know...it is never a facade. We simply put our best foot forward, just as we would on a job interview.

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?
I hope interests have a true sense of self. I think this one is a case by case basis

Why is the sky blue?
A clear cloudless day-time sky is blue because molecules in the air scatter blue light from the sun more than they scatter red light. When we look towards the sun at sunset, we see red and orange colours because the blue light has been scattered out and away from the line of sight.

Why are there tsunamis?
Tsunamis can be generated when the sea floor abruptly deforms and vertically displaces the overlying water. Tectonic earthquakes are a particular kind of earthquake that are associated with the earth's crustal deformation; when these earthquakes occur beneath the sea, the water above the deformed area is displaced from its equilibrium position. Waves are formed as the displaced water mass, which acts under the influence of gravity, attempts to regain its equilibrium. When large areas of the sea floor elevate or subside, a tsunami can be created.

The last 2 answers were found via www.ask.com. I already knew the blue sky answer, but I wanted to know the other for myself.

skeeliteful · #12 01-10-2005, 01:54 PM

Why is it that some SF's feel that XYZ Sorority Inc. wasn't a good fit for them in undergrad and go so far as to belittle XYZ Sorority, Inc... but will break there neck for sponsorship on the graduate level for XYZ Sorority, Inc?

Why is it that some SF's are so bold as to tell me WHEN they are going to become a member of XYZ Sorority, Inc?

I'll stop now because the rest of the questions I want to ask will probably get deleted

That is all....

Ideal08 · #13 01-10-2005, 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by skeeliteful
I'll stop now because the rest of the questions I want to ask will probably get deleted

Are you sure, Soror? LMAO! At least you are honest!

Sorors, I forgot one of the rules. Should I post a question that you think is inappropriate, please PM me and let me know. Thanks!

OrangeMoon · #14 01-10-2005, 02:38 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllll..we are >>>here<<<

Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

Why is the sky blue?
Why are there tsunamis?

LMAO! Lemme stop!

Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?

Over the Internet there is a certain since of anonymity (that is questionable) which led some SFs to get keyboard courage.

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?

As mentioned before some are lazy and want the straightforward answer instead of reading and researching.

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?

I have no idea.

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?

Once again, I have no idea.

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?

Yes, community service is free and my participation is deemed necessary. Business is business and money is needed for growth

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?

In my heart, soul and mind for the RIGHT reasons and do not involve men or attention.

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?

I have no idea. You learn something new everyday regardless of origin.

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship? If I can’t be true to myself how then could I be true to a sponsor and the organization?

To me it is not worth it however, there are some issues such as home training and discretion that should be used.

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

I myself am not looking for an organization to define me and with age found that sense of self led to my choice.

Why is the sky blue?

I am not sure exactly but if I remember correctly from class the light passing through the air hits tiny particles such as pollen and dust reflecting the bluish color.

Why are there tsunamis?

Tsunamis are caused by underwater earthquakes.

AKA2D '91 · #15 01-10-2005, 02:42 PM

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Originally posted by Ideal08
Are you sure, Soror? LMAO! At least you are honest!

Sorors, I forgot one of the rules. Should I post a question that you think is inappropriate, please PM me and let me know. Thanks!

Deletions? The only way it will get deleted is if the person who posed the question deletes it!

Off the top of my head, yeah!