CHARACTER...what is your's like?

DirectorDST99 · #1 08-09-2000, 04:30 PM

No one is perfect, but we all should strive to be Christlike.

When people meet you, are they disturbed by your attitude and disposition? If the answer is yes, then you need to check yourself - CHARACTER!

On your campus or community, are you known as the campus...I'll be nice..."friend" to all or most of the men? If the answer is yes, then you need to check yourself - CHARACTER!

Do you lie, cheat, steal and everyone knows this about you? If the answer is yes, then you need to check yourself - CHARACTER!

Are you disrespectful to people, professors, classmates, administrators, colleagues and you often display a "funky" attitude? If the answer is yes, then you need to check yourself - CHARACTER!

I can go on and on with questions about character, but I will stop here and offer some CHARACTER BUILDING advice. To become a woman of good character you must have as your life goals:

To live and be like Christ;
To live guileless, full of faith, and obedient to His will;
To hold to simplicity in your walk with Him, guarding your heart against duplicity;
To know God's will and pursue it;
To be willing to SUBMIT to WHATEVER it takes to develop His CHARACTERistics within you.

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Director #2
LMAC
Spr 99

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thatgirl · #2 08-09-2000, 04:37 PM

Uh oh.. Now I'm gonna be refreshing my screen every ten seconds..... Or maybe I'll just do some work.

Sexy Mocha · #3 08-09-2000, 04:42 PM

This sounds good!

Nubian · #4 08-09-2000, 08:15 PM

The suspense is killing me!!

12dn94dst · #5 08-09-2000, 10:45 PM

LMAO @ "reserve my spot"!!!

DirectorDST99 · #6 08-10-2000, 02:42 AM

OK!

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Director #2
LMAC
Spr 99

thatgirl · #7 08-10-2000, 10:46 AM

Where do I begin?

When people meet you, are they disturbed by your attitude and disposition?

Disturbed? Maybe. Many times, I've been headed somewhere and had people ask me:
"Why do you look so mean?" "Why don't you smile?" Now, before these people (usuallly men) mentioned this, I wasn't feeling any particular way. Usually, I'm just making my way to a place that I need to be. Does this reflect my character? Aside from glueing a smile on my face every morning, I have absolutely no clue of how to avoid this type of reaction. I feel like if I was really looking mean, they these people wouldn't have approached me at all. What am I to do?

On your campus or community, are you known as the campus...I'll be nice..."friend" to all or most of the men?

Not at all. That's not to say that I'm not friendly with the men. They're usually very good for intelligent conversation, but I am by no means a campus trick or a 'hoodrat'. The thought of it is ludicrous!

Do you lie, cheat, steal and everyone knows this about you?

Okay, Director

. I've gotta play devil's advocate here. Would it be okay if I did all of these things and no one knew? Regardless, I try to stay away from deceit all around. I'm clear on this one too.

Are you disrespectful to people, professors, classmates, administrators, colleagues and you often display a "funky" attitude?

NOPE. Not guilty. I respect people until they give me cause to do otherwise (which is seldom).

Now, here's where I could use some help:
To hold to simplicity in your walk with Him, guarding your heart against duplicity;

There are so many pros and cons to EVERY SINGLE DECISION AND ISSUE in the world that I sometimes find it very very challenging to keep things simple. A guy once told me to follow my first mind. I found out that you really have to pay attention to even catch your first mind. Mine goes a mile a minute. If anyone has advice, please help.

Director, you know you opened the can this time!

Sexy Mocha · #8 08-10-2000, 01:03 PM

This is a very thought provoking topic. It really makes you dig deep into yourself. Ok, I'm going to attempt to answer these questions as honestly as I can...and not just to make myself seem Christlike because I'll be worried about what people will think of me if I answer otherwise.
1) To my knowledge, (cause ya never know what people are REALLY thinking

), people are not disturbed by my attitude or disposition. I try not to act in any way that I, myself, would find tasteless or tacky. I am not mean, rude, obnoxious, overbearing or loud when I meet people.
2) I'm neither known as the "I'll be nice friend" to all or most of the men OR women for that matter.
3) Honestly, I do cheat here and there, but only as a last resort. I am not proud of this fact, however.(I'm assuming we're talking about exams here.) I loathe anyone that takes something that is not theirs/without permission so I would never do it. Everyone that knows me, knows where I stand on these two issues.
4)I am NEVER disrespectful to professors or administrators. Or ANYONE in authority. I have been known to get funky with classmates, colleagues and others in my day...with good reason of course.

Here's where I need help (and Lord knows I need all the help I can get):

Turning the other cheek...I tend to mirror how others treat/act towards me. If I meet someone that's rude and nasty (to me or anyone else), then that's exactly how I am to them. If I know someone is phony, I find no reason to be on the up and up with them. If someone has said something to/about me that I do not take a liking to...expect a mouthful from me when I see you.
I would love to know how to overcome this....and not to turn this into an advice column, but how does one become humble? Is it something a person is born with? Does it come with maturity? Does it have to be practiced until it comes naturally?

DirectorDST99 · #9 08-10-2000, 03:01 PM

Now, you all know these were rhetorical questions. You didn't have to answer them in the post. LOL.

And, thatgirl, regarding playing the "devil's advocate" about how would someone know....well what's done in the dark will come to the light. I have some true stories but too lengthy to go into detail.

You all are interesting!!! LoL My intention was to get you to think about who you are. I think it's working.

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Director #2
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Tinese · #10 08-10-2000, 10:45 PM

Hi everyone I was browsing along when I came across this topic. All I can say is that I agree with you DirectorDST99. Your on point about being a woman of character and developing it as well.

Tinese
SGRHO

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Originally posted by DirectorDST99:
Now, you all know these were rhetorical questions. You didn't have to answer them in the post. LOL.

And, thatgirl, regarding playing the "devil's advocate" about how would someone know....well what's done in the dark will come to the light. I have some true stories but too lengthy to go into detail.

You all are interesting!!! LoL My intention was to get you to think about who you are. I think it's working.