How can I recognize my sisters at my wedding?

MHelfRMU · #1 09-29-2009, 07:38 PM

I'm getting married and I want to recognize my sorority sisters during the ceremony...but how?!?

Zeta Tau Alpha and my sisters have been a huge part of my relationship and my college experience. I am getting married in May shortly after graduation, and I want to involve all the girls that I have invited in the ceremony somehow. I plan on seating them all last and putting them in reserved front rows at the ceremony, but what can they wear to be recognized as special people, and not just late guests? I also do not want them to have to wear specific clothes, just a pin or corsage or something that denotes them as special. Our colors are turquoise and gray, our flower is the white violet (but it would be far too expensive to get everyone a white violet to wear on their dresses), and our symbols are a crown, a bunny and a strawberry. Help me figure out something that will be elegant and give them the recognition they deserve!

KSUViolet06 · #2 09-29-2009, 07:47 PM

ZTA wedding traditions:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=105990

DrPhil · #3 09-29-2009, 07:48 PM

You already have the reserved seating.

I don't think it's too much to ask that THEY get their own flowers or other insignia for your ceremony.

If you all have a sorority song that is for public consumption, they can sing that at the reception.

33girl · #4 09-29-2009, 08:11 PM

I didn't understand the thread title, and was going to ask "holy cow, how drunk do you plan on getting?" Or "how bad is your eyesight?" LOL.

How about silk white violets rather than the real thing? I was also going to suggest a small enameled pin but that might be too hard to see.

DrPhil · #5 09-29-2009, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

I didn't understand the thread title, and was going to ask "holy cow, how drunk do you plan on getting?" Or "how bad is your eyesight?" LOL..

Add to that "why would you invite sisters you don't know and wouldn't recognize?" LOL. I was really trippin' off that title.

amanda6035 · #6 09-29-2009, 08:30 PM

I had one of my sisters, who wasnt officially in the bridal party, be a greeter, and whenever a sister arrived to be seated, she gave her a pink rose.

tld221 · #7 09-29-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Add to that "why would you invite sisters you don't know and wouldn't recognize?" LOL. I was really trippin' off that title.

a couple of notes:

1. it sounds like you have lots of cash to invite your sisters, ones that you're not that close with. why anyone would do such a thing, sister or not, boggles my mind. yes theyre your sisters but do they ALL need to be there?

2. why do they need to sit in a separate section?

3. its YOUR day - why are you focused on giving them the attention? theyll get their chance at the reception - im sure your organization has wedding traditions. plus, during the ceremony, shouldnt you be looking at that dazzling man standing across from you instead of out in the audience?

4. i realize that you may be from a huge house where its legitimate that you dont know all your house sisters at a glance. why dont you put it on them - tell your sisters to wear one of your colors to stand out? maybe a lavalier or badge/pin? or maybe something specific to your chapter to wear?

KSigkid · #8 09-29-2009, 09:24 PM

Give them name tags?

(I'm here all week folks!)

OneHeartOneWay · #9 09-29-2009, 10:08 PM

I saw pictures once where a bride didn't have a flower girl, but rather her sorority sisters were her flower girls. The sisters were lining the aisle, each holding different single stem flowers. The bride didn't have a bouquet when she started down the aisle. As she passed each sister, she collected the single stem flowers they held, so that when she got to the alter, she had her full, beautiful bouquet. (I don't know about tying them together- maybe the maid of honor has a ribbon or elastic band she can wrap around them?) The sisters could then simply slip into the pew next to where they were standing, instead of being seated up front.

33girl · #10 09-29-2009, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

a couple of notes:

1. it sounds like you have lots of cash to invite your sisters, ones that you're not that close with. why anyone would do such a thing, sister or not, boggles my mind. yes theyre your sisters but do they ALL need to be there?

She didn't say that, she said she wants to acknowledge the sisters that she has invited.

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Originally Posted by tld221

2. why do they need to sit in a separate section?

3. its YOUR day - why are you focused on giving them the attention? theyll get their chance at the reception - im sure your organization has wedding traditions. plus, during the ceremony, shouldnt you be looking at that dazzling man standing across from you instead of out in the audience?

4. i realize that you may be from a huge house where its legitimate that you dont know all your house sisters at a glance. why dont you put it on them - tell your sisters to wear one of your colors to stand out? maybe a lavalier or badge/pin? or maybe something specific to your chapter to wear?

Re #4 - I don't think it's a question of her not recognizing people - she meant recognize as in acknowledge. She just wants the rest of the wedding attendees to know that these are special people in her life.

I think what she's doing is very sweet. Many of us have sisters and brothers that are closer to us and that have done a heck of a lot more for us than our biological familes (who are usually the ones strutting their stuff in the front pews).

ree-Xi · #11 09-29-2009, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

4. i realize that you may be from a huge house where its legitimate that you dont know all your house sisters at a glance. why dont you put it on them - tell your sisters to wear one of your colors to stand out? maybe a lavalier or badge/pin? or maybe something specific to your chapter to wear?

I don't think she meant "recognize" as in she didn't know them and needed them to wear something so that she knows they are sisters, but rather, she wanted to recognize/acknowledge/honor them somehow by giving reserved seating, or a flower or whatever.

Is this the case?

DrPhil · #12 09-29-2009, 10:25 PM

tld221 missed the joke 33girl and I were making about the title. LOL

tld221 · #13 09-29-2009, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

tld221 missed the joke 33girl and I were making about the title. LOL

no, i didnt miss it. but i did misread "recognize" - i took it literally, as in, she wouldnt be able to spot them in the crowd. versus "recognize" them as sisters important to her and worthy of such. my bad!

DrPhil · #14 09-29-2009, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

no, i didnt miss it. but i did misread "recognize" - i took it literally, as in, she wouldnt be able to spot them in the crowd. versus "recognize" them as sisters important to her and worthy of such. my bad!

Eh...right...LOL...hence, you missed what 33girl and I were saying.

tld221 · #15 09-29-2009, 10:46 PM

ok. fail on my part.