I pulled a 180.

BSCKt · #1 09-18-2008, 06:41 PM

During recruitment I met all these girls who were seriously ALL ABOUT sorority life. I promised myself I would never be like that. I wanted my focus to be on studies and growing up. Well, it has been a week or so, I am already seeing myself LIVING sorority life.
Is this common? Will I get out of this obsession? Am I terrible for not wanting to be so in love with my sisters?

#2 09-18-2008, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by BSCKt

During recruitment I met all these girls who were seriously ALL ABOUT sorority life. I promised myself I would never be like that. I wanted my focus to be on studies and growing up. Well, it has been a week or so, I am already see myself LIVING sorority life.
Is this common? Will I get out of this obsession? Am I terrible for not wanting to be so in love with my sisters?

You're fresh from recruitment and a new member. It's natural to feel the way you feel.

You'll go through a bunch of stuff during your collegiate years. Sometimes you can't get enough of your sorority and sometimes you might just get so irritated with some of your sisters. Stuff like that happens. You'll then graduate and then become an alum and everything's different all of a sudden.

Trust the process and feel however you want to feel!

violetpretty · #3 09-18-2008, 08:20 PM

Simply ask yourself what you are looking for in your sorority membership. Are you getting that? Or is the problem that you have way too many required events?

KSUViolet06 · #4 09-18-2008, 09:47 PM

It's all about finding balance. Yes, the sorority is important, but it shouldn't be any members ONLY focus in life (after all, we're in college to get an education).

There are times when you will be totally immersed in everything sorority, and others when you will feel like you need a break. It's normal.

ThetaPrincess24 · #5 09-19-2008, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It's all about finding balance. Yes, the sorority is important, but it shouldn't be any members ONLY focus in life (after all, we're in college to get an education).

There are times when you will be totally immersed in everything sorority, and others when you will feel like you need a break. It's normal.

I agree. When I was active I loved Theta and did everything I possibly could down to holding two offices, and making dean's list. When I went alum I was ready for a break, but the alumnae group here ......let's say isnt a good fit for me at present time. I'm so excited to be involved with my chapter again this year as a facility corp. board member & secretary, and recruitment/membership & panhellenic advisor to my chapter. I picked Panhellenic because I want to hear/know about what everyone else on campus is doing too not just my chapter

Kansas City · #6 09-19-2008, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

I agree. When I was active I loved Theta and did everything I possibly could down to holding two offices, and making dean's list. When I went alum I was ready for a break, but the alumnae group here ......let's say isnt a good fit for me at present time. I'm so excited to be involved with my chapter again this year as a facility corp. board member & secretary, and recruitment/membership & panhellenic advisor to my chapter. I picked Panhellenic because I want to hear/know about what everyone else on campus is doing too not just my chapter

I think that needing a break is pretty common. I did the same thing and after a 10 year hiatus of settling into a career, getting married, etc., I was ready to step back into the sorority as an adviser and help out again. That is one of the wonderful things about alumnae status, you can get as involved as you want to be. After 4 years of living life for my sorority, it is nice to now fit it into my availability instead of working my schedule around it.

violetpretty · #7 09-19-2008, 11:05 AM

I think the OP just accepted her bid. We're not talking about post-graduation or senior burnout.

breathesgelatin · #8 09-20-2008, 04:14 AM

There is a phenomenon among new members that I and my best friend from college dubbed:

"MY SORORITY IS THE CURE FOR CANCER!!!!"

Women who suffer from this ailment find themselves spontaneously drawing the symbol of their sorority underneath their name every time they sign it. (This often might occur while they are writing on others' dormitory door whiteboards.) They like to talk about their sorority incessantly to everyone around them, even if those people are not particularly interested in their sorority or Greek Life generally. Indeed, sometimes a person's lack of interest will egg the new member on, as the new member tries to convince them that really, their sorority IS the cure for cancer. These women may plaster every surface of their dorm room with sorority colors and symbols and wash their bid day shirt several times a week so they can wear it more often (bonus points if the new member buys extra t-shirts from the sorority t-shirt vault in order to wear her letters more often).

This illness may infect even the most rational, stable women. It usually persists until AT LEAST the end of the new member period, and often all the way through the following years' recruitment.

So yes, your obsession is perfectly natural.

I think having one is a normal (and exciting!) part of the cycle of sorority life.

barnard1897 · #9 09-21-2008, 10:46 PM

Then they hit senior year and decide that their sorority is akin to a fatal illness, so they refuse to go to chapter, and when they do show up, they do eye rolls and won't participate in anything because they are way too cool for school. Except maybe for formal.

And then they graduate, find out they are back in the big pond as a little fish again, and creep back towards center again.

UofISigKap · #10 09-21-2008, 11:06 PM

breathesgelatin, I think that is the perfect way to describe it. I started laughing and remembered my "CURES ALL!" days. There were doves, violets, and hearts everywhere!!

KSUViolet06 · #11 09-21-2008, 11:22 PM

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breathesgelatin, I think that is the perfect way to describe it. I started laughing and remembered my "CURES ALL!" days. There were doves, violets, and hearts everywhere!!

Same here. I was a late joiner (spring of sophomore year), so pretty much all of junior year, I thought Sigma was the cure for cancer. I wore letters every day (had enough shirts to do so) and even (gasp) double lettered regularly (had to rock the tee shirt AND lavaliere together because I was so cool).

After that year, I stayed active of course, but I toned down on the ridiculous letter wearing and whiteboard writing, and talking about it 24/7. I realized that I could be involved without being totally nuts.