For All The Ladies

[Blue Storm]

For those of you in REAL RELATIONSHIPS, not some fly-by-night intervention, with a guy from the Club. But truly real whether with a man or woman, answer the following questions.

1. If you give your significant other a chance to get it right. How many chanes is too many?

2. When do you call it quits with your significant other?

3. Before putting an end to your relationship, do you try to work it out? Explain!!!

4. How do you and your significant other attack problems that arise in the relationship?

Help a brother out!!! Because I know... if there were no women, MAN COULD NOT EXIST!!! Who feels me?

Holla!!!
-Tha Storm

[Zetaphied]

In my opinion no one can really tell how you how many chances is too many because it depends on you and the type of person you are involved in. It also depends on what it is you are giving them chances on. Your tolerance level may be greater or less than mine for example.

1. In my experience if someone is doing something to hurt you or make you feel unappreciated in a relationship, once you voice your feelings to that person if they don't make a conscience effort to improve than that's one chance too many. Relationships are a two way street. Where both parties should be concerned about each other's emotional well being within and beyond the confines of the relationship. As long as you clearly have stated to that person how you feel about their actions or lack thereof, you shouldn't have to keep sounding like a broken record. Although love does make you give out more chances than folks often deserve.

2. I personally would call it quits with someone when there begins to be more negatives than positives in a relationship. When you know in your heart that you are not growing in that relationship and ultimately it's not doing you any good. Often times most people will try and try again to make their relationship work, so if you've given it all you have and it's leaving you drained than it's time to call it quits. No one wants to be involved in anything that causes you nothing but stress.

3. Only you know when you should call it quits. There isn't a set time carved in stone. Again it depends on what the problem(s) is(are). Is it something you can live with, if it isn't worked out? How serious are the issues? Do you feel like if it wasn't for you that there would be no relationship? Is it worth it to work it out? Are they willing to work to make things better? These all factor into whether or not you are going to stick around and see what happens. Also think about the reasons your even thinking of calling it quits, is it because you've grown out of the relationship? Are you headed in two different directions? Is there a third party involved? Be honest with both yourself and your partner.

4. In terms of attacking problems, I've always been the kind to talk things out right as they happen. Don't let feelings fester to the point you start growing resentful against your partner. Be clear and consise about what is bothering you, don't expect them to automatically know or read your mind. Once you present your concerns to them, ask them how do they feel about what you just said and what they think you can do together to work on it. Don't approach the person when your too mad to think or talk straight. Confrontations never work. Men and woman definitely have different ways of communicating with each other and that should also be taken into account.

[zetababy2000]

personally, i have been through every single question you asked and the answers depend solely on the type of person you are. some people would rather stay in a bad realtionship for fear of being alone and others would rather just cut the bull and walk. there are only so many chances a person can get and when its too many to count, it's too many to bear.