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tlw23 · #1 05-31-2008, 09:59 PM

I was just thinking about my upcoming informal recruitment and I thought of something that may be a small (could possibly be big IF taken in the wrong direction) issue for me in one of our five sororities.

As I said in an earlier post I will be rushing as a third year college student, not nessicarily(sp?) a junior as I have two more years after this. When I was a freshman I met a girl in one of my classes who also happened to live on my hall and we became really close for both semesters. However some random issues, I can't even really pinpoint what though I have an idea, came up and around the end of the year/beginning of the summer we just stopped talking and hanging out altogether. Recently she rushed and pledged a sorority on my campus and I was just thinking that it would kind of be awkward for me to rush informally at that sorority with her there but I'm not so sure I want to skip ABC because:

A) As I said above we only have 5 npc sororities.

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B) Even informally I want to check them all out.

My question is this, do you think I should plan around ABC or just go for it and 'ignore' her, for lack of a better term? If the latter is the answer any ideas on what I can do to avoid confrontation would be appreciated.

KSUViolet06 · #2 05-31-2008, 10:03 PM

I would definitely suggest attending all 5 if you can. You don't want to limit yourself (especially as an upperclassman).

Honestly, just go to their events, and see what happens. If you see her, be polite and say hello. Yes, it may be awkward, but a potential awkward moment with one girl is no reason to avoid an entire sorority altogether. If it is just SO awkward that you can't handle it, you aren't obligated to go back, but it won't hurt to check them out. You may find that you like them.

APhi4Ever · #3 05-31-2008, 10:06 PM

Another thing that you may consider, how large are these chapters that you will be visiting? If there are 100 sisters, chances are there is going to be someone you know that maybe you don't get along with. Even if the chapters are smaller, still give all 5 a chance. The advice above is good advice to take into consideration.

tlw23 · #4 05-31-2008, 10:16 PM

Its a pretty small university and I want to say there'll be around 8,000 students this upcoming year, because of a rather big new freshman class, and about 65% of undergrad women are in sororities if that tells you anything. I'm not sure about actual numbers though but I would think abit less than 100 per house.

And thanks, that's what I was thinking because I don't want to directly rule out any of them before I visit but I didn't want to seem rude in that one house because of one person who I would be avoiding inconspicuously.

texas*princess · #5 05-31-2008, 11:01 PM

You weren't really specific about what happened... if it was minor or you just lost touch, I'd say it shouldn't matter.

If something crazy happened (like you stole her boyfriend or something) then I'd stay away from that situation

tlw23 · #6 05-31-2008, 11:08 PM

Nothing crazy, we just kind of went seperate ways and she stopped talking to me when I called/left her messages etc. I think it was something about spending more time with my boyfriend, *new* at the time, and other people and not her that made her kind of mad at me. I don't consider it too bad a thing anyway I just don't want her or the combination me/her to end up horribly awkward and irritated at events and such.

Zillini · #7 06-01-2008, 09:02 AM

If that's all, then maybe it would just take you visiting her Chapter for the 2 of you to rekindle your friendship.

SassyPantsAGD · #8 06-01-2008, 12:54 PM

Homegirl you are worrying way too much about recruitment at Western!

Attend all 5 if you can...no matter what...chances are even with small houses and parties you will not run into her...if so I promise that she would not make you feel awkward in her house.

By not going, you could potentially always doubt the decision you make. We miss 100% of the chances we don't take... (yeah...cliche' but true)

You will have a blast doing recruitment at Western and with CORs in the fall you will more likely feel very eased and relaxed once you get started. Recruitment at WCU Is anything but scary!

However, I am very excited about hearing about your experience this fall...you should keep a blog and keep us all informed

ree-Xi · #9 06-01-2008, 06:16 PM

Chances are, there isn't ill will and she probably chalked it up to changing relationships. I suggest going to all the sororities' events and make your decision then.