Ghetto Wedding Stories - Page 8

loviest95 · #**106** 05-01-2002, 10:22 AM

The "dollar dance" is a tradition in many cultures-- in the Mexican American culture (from what my students tell me)-- the bride has a purse that she keeps during the dance. Friends and relatives give the new couple money for good luck-- but I also saw this done at a REAL Greek wedding (meaning people from Greece). I have also seen "wishing wells" where people drop money into a cardboard well.

DST Love · #**107** 05-01-2002, 10:32 AM

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Originally posted by BLUTANG

What exactly is this Dollar Dance? Is this similar to when Bird (Soul Food) got married and everyone was pinning money to the dress at the reception?

Yes, but people don't necessarily pin the money on the the bride and groom. The bride may have a silk bag or the groom may just put it in his pocket. Most people I know have always done the dollar dance. And in these instances, the guests KNEW that following the first dance of the bride and groom and their dances with the parents, that the next few songs would be for the dollar dances. After that is just "regular", dancing so to speak. The bride and groom didn't announce it or make it mandatory. The guests just knew. And of course, it depends on the closeness of the guests to the bride and groom.

Personally, I don't think it's ghetto because people can choose not to dance with the bride and groom during that time. But of course in my experience most of the people who dance with the bride/groom are relatives or very very close friends who want to do it and think it's fun.

From my understanding about the original idea behind the concept from back in the day, this was a way for people to help a newly married couple get started (financially speaking, of course).

BLUTANG · #**108** 05-01-2002, 01:48 PM

Thanks for the clarification, you guys... and to answer your question (DableST_1), I don't think its ghetto at all. I think it's sweet!

tammy- · #**109** 05-01-2002, 02:16 PM

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The wedding was a mess. The church was hot (no air conditioning) and we're all sittin up in there cursing and sweating because you know we didn't start on time. The bridesmaids come down the aisle wearing burgundy dresses-which would have been aight if they were all the SAME shade. I think I counted about 2 or 3 different shades of burgundy-and why would you pick that color for a summer wedding?? Then my friend comes down the aisle with her mom, she looks great! Until I find out later that this beautiful gown is BORROWED from her mom's friend! Come on now! You could have gotten your own...
The ceremony was fine...bada bing...you're now husband and wife, smiles all around. I'm sure we're all thanking God at this point because we are simply dying for some fresh air. I know I was RUNNING up out of the church.

No, actually they're not. We get in there...plastic plates and silverware and cups. Water stains on the ceiling. No dance floor. The guests get there and we're waiting to eat...and waiting...and waiting. So people are up in there saying stuff like, "WTF?? I'm hongry" and "When the hell are we gonna eat?" The bride and groom show up about a HALF HOUR later, so you know a sista is runnin to the buffet table outside...only to find that the food they served was the same food I could have bought at Publix on the way over...cause that was where it was from! Chicken wings, cheese and crackers, and a itty bitty platter of shrimp (which guests are about to go to blows over). I get what I can and go back to the reception.

Maybe they did not have enough money for a eloborate wedding..!!!!!

Marriage is about love and committment.. It does not matter how much money you spend on it or if YOUR DRESS IS BORROWED!

theo14 · #**110** 05-02-2002, 11:29 AM

Okay, im no wedding planner or anything but i know some things are not "called for" at a wedding...and ive been to a quite a few...you know, your friends who get invited, they dont want to go along, so im always the one they snag to go to these weddings...

GOOD LAWD....

1. chicken wings at a wedding...theyre messy....

2. receptions in the basement of a church is okay if youre on a tight budget, but ive seen the paper table cloths, which looks kind of tacky

3. If a Delta marries a Sigma, why you gon to have BLUE and RED as the colors, pick one or the other......i couldnt keep my eyes off the blue ribbons wrapped around the red flowers

4. the flower girl, needs to go the the SHOP just like you need to go to the shop to get your hair done, dont let the flower girl come down the aisle looking LATE and TIRED, POOR GIRL with crusty toothpaste on her mouth and strands of hair not tied into her ponytail

5. For the more full figured bridesmaid, please pick dresses that cater to ALL of the bridesmaids, so that you dont have a couple women with satin pouchs of you know what.....

theo14 · #**111** 05-02-2002, 11:39 AM

OH I almost forgot.....

this takes the cake...how could i forget....

I recently went to my guys wedding. Hes classy guy like most sigmas (LOL), Hes married this girl, who to say the least is not at his educational level, needless to say, the wedding was a circus of ghetto people on one side, and class on the other...

BUT the climax,
some girl, with long, really long nails and a tight, too tight brown dress got a little drunk at the reception, and basicaly was making her rounds with most of the guys. She then started to mess with this one guy, whose girlfriend and, i think, friend of the bride, saw it. well GOOD LAWD, let me tell you, things got UGGGLLLLLYYYYY....ALL i saw was women beating this girl down, the her girls jumped in, i saw flowers here and there, bridesmaids dresses torn off, weaves on the table

NinjaPoodle · #**112** 05-02-2002, 12:39 PM

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Originally posted by theo14

..ALL i saw was women beating this girl down, the her girls jumped in, i saw flowers here and there, bridesmaids dresses torn off, weaves on the table

ROTFLMBAO!!!!

AKA2D '91 · #**113** 05-02-2002, 12:48 PM

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Originally posted by loviest95
The "dollar dance" is a tradition in many cultures-- in the Mexican American culture (from what my students tell me)-- the bride has a purse that she keeps during the dance. Friends and relatives give the new couple money for good luck-- but I also saw this done at a REAL Greek wedding (meaning people from Greece). I have also seen "wishing wells" where people drop money into a cardboard well.

Down here they must do the "ghetto" version of the "dollar dance". Here, someone dances with the bride or the groom, in order to dance, they have to pin the money on who ever they dance with.

Pinning money on someone for their birthday is big here, too.

Some weddings have the "wishing well" where there is something big decorated in the colors of the wedding and guests can give whatever (money) they choose.

Now, I find this ghetto IF one thinks I'm supposed to purchase a gift AND give you money for the well or the dance. Either the gift or the money...

DST Love · #**114** 05-02-2002, 01:54 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91

Down here they must do the "ghetto" version of the "dollar dance". Here, someone dances with the bride or the groom, in order to dance, they have to pin the money on who ever they dance with.

Pinning money on someone for their birthday is big here, too.

Some weddings have the "wishing well" where there is something big decorated in the colors of the wedding and guests can give whatever (money) they choose.

Now, I find this ghetto IF one thinks I'm supposed to purchase a gift AND give you money for the well or the dance. Either the gift or the money...

Well I guess most people don't mind giving a gift and doing the dollar dance because they usually give the bride/groom only $1-5, although some may give a lot more. I think people just enjoy the concept of the dollar dance. Like I stated earlier, most of the guests that I see participate are relatives and very close longtime friends. Also, some people give their money gift to the bride/groom during the dollar dance.

From my experience, the wishing well is for those who are giving cards/money as opposed to wrapped gifts. It's just a container to keep everything together so that cards and stuff aren't all over the place.

UDZETA · #**115** 05-02-2002, 02:57 PM

You want to know about tacky and ghetto.... I went to a wedding where the bridesmaid where wearing these dresses that looked like they were dyed red the day before. Plus they looked like old wedding dresses from the 80's just dyed and they had these tacky red flowers around thier head. It was so ugly.

Rain Man · #**116** 05-03-2002, 09:50 AM

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Originally posted by theo14
OH I almost forgot.....

this takes the cake...how could i forget....

I recently went to my guys wedding. Hes classy guy like most sigmas (LOL), Hes married this girl, who to say the least is not at his educational level, needless to say, the wedding was a circus of ghetto people on one side, and class on the other...

BUT the climax,
some girl, with long, really long nails and a tight, too tight brown dress got a little drunk at the reception, and basicaly was making her rounds with most of the guys. She then started to mess with this one guy, whose girlfriend and, i think, friend of the bride, saw it. well GOOD LAWD, let me tell you, things got UGGGLLLLLYYYYY....ALL i saw was women beating this girl down, the her girls jumped in, i saw flowers here and there, bridesmaids dresses torn off, weaves on the table

DANG, THEO, WHY DIDN'T YOU TAPE THAT MESS??!!

You coulda downloaded it to a RealPlayer file and let us see it. We can use a good laugh every now and then. Shoot, Jerry Springer would have paid you big bucks to air that on TV.

OK, this really isn't ghetto per se, but it does convey a serious message.

A few weeks ago, i attended a wedding of my pastor's mother, who is 74 years old and was marrying a deacon after being widowed for over 20 years. The bridesmaids and groomsmen (all grand or great-grandchildren of the bride), wore color coordinated outfits (no tuxedos or formal dresses). Not a problem. The ceremony went very well overall.

The problem I had was with the reception. About halfway through the reception, they ran out of food. While I did get to eat, my table was the last table that was able to do so. There were still two tables of guests who was still waiting to eat. It got to the point that the pastor had to have someone go to the Olive Garden to buy more food that was paid for out of the pastor's pocket (it was an all-pasta type meal). It got to the point that he even had the non-eating guests get first crack at the wedding cake (rightfully so all things considered)

There was a very good reason why this took place, and it had nothing to do with the wedding planners or the preparation: It was because guests who were continuously told to RSVP if they were going to attend did not do so. Thus there were more guests in attendance than who RSVPed. I will never forget the sad/disappointed look in the pastor's eyes when this situation came to a head. BTW, I did RSVP, albeit on the last day to do so.

Needless to say, the food from Olive Garden came promptly and everyone had a meal.

Moral to the story: Please RSVP and encourage your friends and relatives who will attend a wedding to do the same thing. It is for a reason.

Riley · #**117** 05-03-2002, 10:25 AM

1. The first one has to do with my step-sister. She got married two years ago. Not in a church but at the justice of the peace . What's the problem you say. About three months later she has her wedding reception, not a party but a reception. I mean complete with limo, the wedding hall, bridesmaids, flower girls, and yes a wedding dress she bought for her reception.

What made it even worse is the house she was leaving from in the limo you could see from the end of the block where the reception hall was located. Maybe it is just me but if I got married by a judge I wouldn't go out and buy a real wedding gown and have a real catered recption several months later.

2. The second one, unfortunately, was my mother's. Trying to save money she used friends of my step-father to make the cake and help coordinate the wedding. ( you can see where this was going). Well first the cake. The lady made the cake at our house and we bought all the materials for the cake and I believe my mother even helped. ( it was a traditional jamaican black cake). The grooms men brought the cake to the hall. My boyfriend tells me the cake is oosing out some sicky stuff and the icing came off the back of the largest cake. So I had to fix that. Then when it was time to cut the cake for the guests the cake lady didn't want to cut it. I had to calm my mother down b/c she was getting ready to cut it herself. Despite all that she still wanted $300 for making the cake.
Sorry it is so long.
The "wedding planner" was no Jennifer Lopez. She did absolutley nothing! I did most of the work and I was three states away. My mother told her to call the florist and give them the address of the church and hall a 3 days later she hands the florist card back to my mother ( she didn't do it). Then she refers a guy to my mother to be an usher at the hall to help direct the guests. After every was done aparently the fee for the guy to stand there for 1hr was $100.

and of cousre her fee was$100 also.

Word of advice: Get professionals!!!!!!!!

DableST_1 · #**118** 05-03-2002, 01:04 PM

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Originally posted by Rain Man

Moral to the story: Please RSVP and encourage your friends and relatives who will attend a wedding to do the same thing. It is for a reason.

I totally agree with you!!! 110%%%%% Now I know that some people are going to probably find this as being GHETTO but my friend got married a couple of years ago, and she sent out invitations to everyone. BUT she only had a list at the door of ONLY the names that had RSVP'd. So you can IMAGINE how SALTY these people were when they were getting turned away becuase their names weren't on the list. I PERSONLLY thought this was wrong until about a year ago. I went to my cousin's wedding and all of her guests did not RSVP. So at then end, the manager at the Reception hall told them that they would either have to pay more money UP front for them to make more food, or everyone would not get served!!!! And mind you, that would mean that some of the guest that DID RSVP would not get to eat, and some that didin't would (b/c/ its' not like she had a list of who all responded and who didn't) Well she ended up going over to her wishing well, and pulling out cards with money in it to pay the difference

HOW EMBARASSING is that!!!

After I witness that episode, I promised myself that if people do not RSVP then they are NOT getting in!!! Sounds ghetto to you???? Well you can just call me GEHTTO DA'BLEST_1 because I reFUSE to go through ANY UNECESSARY Drama on my BIG day just becuase people are too DAMN Lazy to send a responce card..... Actually I am mailing out my invitations next week, so I am just going to sit back, wait, and see who is all going to respond to them!!!!!

SweetestDiva · #**119** 05-03-2002, 01:08 PM

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Originally posted by theo14
4. the flower girl, needs to go the the SHOP just like you need to go to the shop to get your hair done, dont let the flower girl come down the aisle looking LATE and TIRED, POOR GIRL with crusty toothpaste on her mouth and strands of hair not tied into her ponytail

LMAO!!! You are a mess....

crmldiva08 · #**120** 06-05-2002, 01:29 PM

Let me preface by saying that I'm NOT from Dallas. Here they have "bell ringers" which are little boys that run down the aisle ringing a bell to announce that the bride is coming! Isn't that the purpose of the organist and "Here Comes the Bride" ?