UGA 2013 Sorority Recruitment

[DubaiSis]

One more point: rush isn't real! It feels real and it feels desperately important to make the right choice, but when it all boils down to it, it's a highly stylized way to make friends. Would you not be friends with someone because she didn't have the cutest dress? Or dog forbid, she puts on a skit for your benefit and it kind of thuds? All of the chapters are good and VERY large. No matter which house she gets, she will make friends and find her niche. If she wants to, that is. If she goes in being a pissy pants, or worse, a princess who expects to be spoon-fed her friendships, then she's going to get very disenchanted very quickly, and it was all because she didn't get that 1 perfect house, who by the way didn't like her enough to invite her. But I have a feeling you won't allow that to happen

[Katmandu]

It's so hard for 18 year olds to see beyond the immediate moment on their campus, in their limited exposure to what all of this means.

Every sorority offers leadership training, philanthropic engagement, parties, sparkly things, sisterhood and the opportunity to help run what amounts to a small non-profit agency.

I am an old lady by their standards, and I still get a thrill when I put on my pin, meet a random KD in the store wearing her letters, or read about one my chapter sister's accomplishments. I have served as an advisor, an alum officer and have met KDs from all over the country and have bonded with women half my age, based on our common experience with KD. My son counted KDs on his campus as some of his best friends, and they thought it was so cool that his mom was their sister.

If I had dropped out, I would have missed one of my treasured life experiences.

Each of our groups has high ideals, beautiful bling and wonderful charities to support. Honestly, given what I have learned about NPC from this board, I could proudly wear the letters of any group.

Especially in these gigantic chapters, there is something for everyone and they will find a place to fit in.

[Bamamom13]

My rec girl had a full schedule today for Pref with one that had been one of her favorites all week. She was really touched by the other two during their Pref ceremonies so I think she is comfortable with however it goes down tomorrow. She has had a few ups and downs but overall this has been a good experience for her!

[Football Fan]

The Red & Black have a few photos of 2013 t-shirt day and preference online.

[ToujoursSK]

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

[FSUZeta]

That is always hard. Like you I hope that your friend's daughter finds her dream house among her 3 choices.

[BraveMaroon]

Originally Posted by ToujoursSK

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

This happened to my roommate at UGA back 20 years ago. She was multiple legacy to a house that had, unfortunately, more legacies than space. She got cut the night before prefs and her mother was blowing up our phone trying to reach her.

It sucked. It sucked for all of her family members who were XYZ, and it sucked for her, and it sucked for me because I was really happy with my parties and had to keep my happiness on low.

She got knocked from her favorite non-legacy house as well, and ended up quitting rush. She told me she didn't want to tell me where she'd been invited because "They're both houses *you* like!" - the tone doesn't come out, but she wasn't being kind.

I ended up tickled pink, and she never went anywhere - I think she'd have been happy at either place - because, you know as soon as she walked out of the room I turned over her scheduled and took a peek.

[Lovethesand]

Instead of focusing on what their options are, some PNMs focus too much on what they no longer have. I sometimes think the hurt/rejection is stronger than the acceptance/we want you. I think it is normal but recruitment teaches young women that they have to adjust quickly and move on or get left behind. Life lessons.

[PearlGirl13]

Originally Posted by Lovethesand

Instead of focusing on what their options are, some PNMs focus too much on what they no longer have. I sometimes think the hurt/rejection is stronger than the acceptance/we want you. I think it is normal but recruitment teaches young women that they have to adjust quickly and move on or get left behind. Life lessons.

This is great advice! The process doesn't allow for much time to regroup. At 6:00 in the morning you are dealt a disappointing blow and by 8:00 have to put on your best self for a pref party. That is hard to deal with...

God Bless the Gamma Chi that got my daughter turned around and back in the game!

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by ToujoursSK

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

Typically, that's when they have to release them or else put them on their bid list. Obviously, they gave her a really good look or she would have been released earlier - which would have made for worse hurt feelings, I would think. There's no good way or time to release a legacy.

[Lovethesand]

Originally Posted by PearlGirl13

This is great advice! The process doesn't allow for much time to regroup. At 6:00 in the morning you are dealt a disappointing blow and by 8:00 have to put on your best self for a pref party. That is hard to deal with...

God Bless the Gamma Chi that got my daughter turned around and back in the game!

Trust me I am completely aware of the morning disappointment followed by the "I love you, I'm sorry your hurt and sad....but now go out there and knock them dead". My Debbie had her own up and down moments and all you can do is balance the parental comfort and support with a gentle kick in the backside to get back out there.

[ComradesTrue]

I have heard that one of my rec girls has dropped out. Very disappointing.

Another rec girl has a definite favorite after pref, so hopefully tomorrow she will open her bid card to see that group's name. We shall see!

[lilybeth3]

good luck to all these UGA girls....I know it is tough. praying that all end up with smiles on their faces and brightness in their hearts. just wish rush ended before classes begin.

[DoctorD]

The Dawg I had in the game was released this evening - I was feeding advice to her mom left and right, but when it came down to it, she chose to list one group on her bid card despite the advice given.

I understand the reasons for not listing others, but am sad for her.

[PearlGirl13]

If girl only listed one sorority on her bid card and was not going to get a bid from them today, would she have received "the call" last night?