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KSUViolet06 · #1 07-19-2011, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

LOL. When my sister and I would come home for holidays and summer, my parents would give us a 10PM curfew! Seriously. At school we came home whenever we wanted. WTF? Thank God I didn't decide to stay in BTR for school. My parents are hyper strict and nosy. They would have been all in my business.

Wow. Yeah when I was home for summer or holidays, the only rule was that I not disturb anyone when I came in late. Ex: don't come in, yell "wooooo I'm sooo drunk," then knock over a vase at 2am.

My parents aren't the "drive up and see me" type. So I never had to worry about mom just dropping by. Thank goodness.

And aephialum: you mentioned the only other type of school (other than a for-profit) that I REALLY wouldn't want my kids to attend. There's a very popular "mandatory chapel type" school near here. I know, it's hard to FORBID a kid to attend a school they're like "in loveeeee" with but I would try my hardest to help him/her to see that you can love God/be a Christian without going to a school with mandatory chapel and ban on R-rated movies.

(Yes, said school bans any movie that's rated R. My friend was written up her freshman year for having a copy of Schindler's List because of the rating.)

AGDee · #2 07-19-2011, 08:28 PM

I'm taking a new twist on this...

Over my dead body my daughter would go to... any school if she was just going there because her boyfriend was going there.

Tulip86 · #3 07-19-2011, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

I'm taking a new twist on this...

Over my dead body my daughter would go to... any school if she was just going there because her boyfriend was going there.

Igree 100%, worst choice ever. Although I can imagine it can be hard to convince a ohmigodimsoinloveandhesthebestboyfriendeverrrrr teenager of this

KSUViolet06 · #4 07-19-2011, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

I'm taking a new twist on this...

Over my dead body my daughter would go to... any school if she was just going there because her boyfriend was going there.

If I could block the car from leaving the driveway headed for Boyfriend's School, I would.

However, it is SO hard to convince kids that as much as they love Boyfriend, the chances of them lasting through freshman year at the same school are pretty slim.

My mom's co-worker watched her daughter turn down COLUMBIA for Ohio State because of her boyfriend, go to OSU, then break up with said boy by Christmas break.

I mean, she told her all the time during the decision process "you're making a HUGE mistake if you turn down Columbia" but she didn't want to be a heli-mom and try too hard to sway her decision. So she voiced her opinion but didn't force it. There's such a fine line between letting kids make their own choices and trying to keep them from making ones you KNOW they'll regret. Sigh.

IrishLake · #5 07-19-2011, 08:29 PM

^ Cedarville?

KSUViolet06 · #6 07-19-2011, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by IrishLake

^ Cedarville?

Close. Malone (Canton.)

HannahXO · #7 07-19-2011, 08:44 PM

BYU's "honor code" also freaks me out a little bit...when otherwise bright students are kicked out for having premarital sex, I think that's a problem. Colleges should only interfere in your personal life when absolutely necessary, IMO. Academic honor codes are great, of course, but this is different.

IrishLake · #8 07-19-2011, 10:12 PM

Semi-offtopic:
OMG my sister almost left OU for said (coughlosercough) boyfriend in the middle of this year. Thankfully, they are now just friends. She realized he is not her future.

My best friend from home was the textbook girl who left her first choice college to follow the older boyfriend to a lesser college. She left OSU after her first quarter (where she was surrounded by other HS friends there too), went to the lesser college where she moved in with the BF off campus right away. She made one college friend there. One, and it's only because they shared a major. (And they are no longer friends). Her major was something that you MUST go to grad school for in order to have a career in that field. BF (then fiance) didn't want her to go to grad school (too expensive, and besides, HE was going to be the bread winner, since he was a finance major), then he insisted they live in our mostly dead-end hometown area. Fast forward 8 years, 3 kids, unemployment (his) and now a divorce... she is working for $10 an hour and living with her mom and her kids, and he also lives with his parents and just found a job after nearly 3 years of unemployment. LESSON TO YOU COLLEGE GIRLS WHO WANT TO FOLLOW YOUR BOYFRIEND..... DON'T!!!!!!

On the flip side:
Theta sister who had been with her boyfriend since their sophomore year of high school and her boyfriend shared the same major (pharmacy!!!!!). She went to ONU, he went to a school on the east coast. They loved each other, both knew what they wanted to be and it was even the same thing, but agreed they had to experience life away from each other. They stayed together through 6 years of college in a LDR (with a few "breaks"), have now been married for 5 years and are expecting their first baby.

/endofftopic

Vi, I always forgot about Malone. I don't know anyone who went there and I think you were the first person I even heard about it from.

So yeah, I'm on Team "Follow your boy/girlfriend to a college for the wrong reasons and I'll throttle you!!!!!!!!!"

Munchkin03 · #9 07-19-2011, 10:22 PM

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So yeah, I'm on Team "Follow your boy/girlfriend to a college for the wrong reasons and I'll throttle you!!!!!!!!!"

This guy on my hall, who ended up dating one of my best friends for a few years, came to college with his girlfriend. He was especially needy, so he probably followed his HS girlfriend to college.

Around the middle of the second semester--she realizes she's a lesbian. OH SNAP. Before this realization, she was his world, so he ended up scrambling to make new friends.

AlphaFrog · #10 07-20-2011, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

This guy on my hall, who ended up dating one of my best friends for a few years, came to college with his girlfriend. He was especially needy, so he probably followed his HS girlfriend to college.

How do you know my ex?

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Around the middle of the second semester--she realizes she's a lesbian. OH SNAP. Before this realization, she was his world, so he ended up scrambling to make new friends.

Oops, nevermind. I still bat for the same team.

tld221 · #11 07-20-2011, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

This guy on my hall, who ended up dating one of my best friends for a few years, came to college with his girlfriend. He was especially needy, so he probably followed his HS girlfriend to college.

Around the middle of the second semester--she realizes she's a lesbian. OH SNAP. Before this realization, she was his world, so he ended up scrambling to make new friends.

HA! Oh, karma. You win again.

My freshman year roommate was the gf who left her hometown but couldn't live w/o her HS bf. She did everything in her power to get him to transfer, but he absolutely hated the city and school when he visited. Plus, his school was one of the tops for his major and had no desire to move to the East coast. Rather, leave the West coast.

While (AFAIK) girl did not realize she was a lesbian, he broke up with her before spring break, which is wayyyy longer than anyone anticipated.

AGDee · #12 07-20-2011, 06:59 PM

Wayne State, in Detroit, is a good example of "Very safe campus, not so safe city". Their crime rate on campus is among the lowest of college campuses in Michigan. The surrounding neighborhood, not so much!

My daughter did say that at Barnard last week, the campus was very isolated from NYC. She loved how it felt like you were on a small campus and then you went through the gate and BAM, there was NYC.

Dutchie · #13 07-20-2011, 08:44 PM

I agree with everyone who says for-profit. This would be the only schools I would say 'absolutely not' to. I'd probably say no to any online program as well.

There are places I'd prefer they didn't go but wouldn't stop them if that's where they really wanted to go. Like what ever school I'm working at (I'm going into student affairs). While free/discounted tuition is tempting, College is time to grow on your own. Plus who wants their mother to know everything they're up to?
And if they really want to annoy me (which if they turn out anything like me, I'm sure they will), they'll go to Michigan. I'm raising State fans

IrishLake · #14 07-20-2011, 08:55 PM

UC is in a notsogreat part of Cincinnati, and there's crime all over the area, but I would have no issue with my kids going there and living on campus. It's the moving off-campus that would concern me.

Benzgirl · #15 07-22-2011, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by IrishLake

UC is in a notsogreat part of Cincinnati, and there's crime all over the area, but I would have no issue with my kids going there and living on campus. It's the moving off-campus that would concern me.

My niece is at UC and is renting a house off-campus with a bunch of other girls. Makes me nervous.

UC is a great school and has become extremely competitive because of the internship program. Even though grads take 5 years to graduate, most have good jobs lined up when they finish. My cousin was hired by the companay in which he interned. Hoping the same for my girl.