Where are all the Potential PNMs?

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by curlygirl18

I understand, it's not the concert that's important, it's my best friend for many years who has already made travel arrangements to come in for it. I don't think I could disappoint her and we only see each other a few times a year.

I was just wondering if they'd be understanding of the situation if I decided to go through recruitment. If not, I won't go through, I know being at all the events is important and for good reasons.

One of the unfortunate facts of life as we get older is that sometimes you have to make choices. Only you can decide what is the most important thing for you.

A Chapter should understand why someone misses an event if it is school related. But harsh truth time, skipping out to see a concert won't go over well. That says you aren't even a member yet and are already showing you aren't committed to the responsibilities and time commitments of the Chapter. It won't matter if you hadn't seen your friend in 10 years, all they will remember is you blew off Recruitment for a concert.

[FSUZeta]

if you really want to be a member of a sorority, you will attend recruitment. you are sending the wrong message to the sororities if you ditch recruitment for a concert-no matter how long ago your tickets were purchased. if you miss the second night of recruitment, i doubt that you will have to worry about the third night. not very many pnms who miss an entire night are invited back for another, unless there are extremely extenuating circumstances, and even then, it is at the sorority's discretion.

you could offer your ticket to your friend and let her invite another friend, and then make arrangements to see them during some free time during recruitment.

[GatorGirl19]

yeah i'm missing incubus (for the 2nd time!) for rush. but incubus might come again some other year! and your friend, if she's a good enough friend, should understand! there will always be other concerts, especially in college towns! lol

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by curlygirl18

! I know missing recuitment events can put my chances of getting a bid at risk and understand the reasons why. Should I go for it anyway and explain my situation, or just not waste anyone's time?!

This is all up to you. We can't determine what you should do.

However, I will say that at my alma mater, chapters were not obligated to invite back any PNM who missed a party. Whether they did or not was up to the chapters. Missing a party means that the chapters have one less opportunity to get to know you, and you could very well end up with very few options or being released completely. Very few girls I know who missed parties ended up with a bid. It's not likely.

If you want to be in a sorority, in my opinion, your best bet is to attend ALL events.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by lsuchicka

I have a question:

I am about to be a sophomore at LSU. I rushed last year w/o any recs and got cut from all but one bottom-tier house. I was close-minded and decided to drop out after bid day. Although it is late in the summer, I have just begun to consider possibly rushing again. I only know a couple of girls from two houses so I really don't have any great connections. Honestly, would I be wasting my time? I really don't want to go through rush again only to be rejected.

From what I know about LSU, if you are planning on rushing, you are behind in getting recs.

Then there's the fact that you are a sophomore, and sophomores tend to be at a disadvantage compared to freshmen.

Also, if you were cut heaviily last year, as a sophomore, your chances don't generally improve.

Only YOU can determine whether this is worth it for you, but you'll be fighting an uphill battle if you are trying to get recs at almost mid July.

Clarification: did you GET a bid and decline it or drop out before recruitment was over?

[33girl]

I would not rush again. You got only got one bid to begin with, and started pledging that group and dropped out. Unless they are under intense numbers pressure (by which I mean, they're in danger of losing their charter unless they attain quota and total this rush and have horrible return rates) it is very, very doubtful they'll give you another bid. Especially if you didn't stay in contact with any of the sisters.

It's unfortunate, but consider it a lesson learned and look into other things you can get involved in at LSU.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I would not rush again. It's unfortunate, but consider it a lesson learned and look into other things you can get involved in at LSU.

True.

At a school like LSU, if you get a bid, it's best to take it because it's most likely your only shot a being Greek. Your chances do NOT improve the following year.