Soliloquy's Fall 2007 recruitment

[ASUADPi]

Soliloquy, I'm thinking about you sweetie.

I've been sitting, tabulating, all weekend for recruitment and I can say it's not pleasant. Don't get me wrong I love helping out and being with my sisters, but recruitment "isn't fun" (so to speak). Girls get hurt (I think on both sides). One day a PNM has a wonderful conversation and is thought of highly and the next she has a stifeled conversation with the rusher and she is dropped. It bites the big one. I can't imagine how you are feeling (hell I can't imagine how any of the PNM's at ASU are feeling).

Just keep your head high and know that you are worth it and you are good enough and formal recruitment is a tough, stressful process and that if COR is available go for it. COR is so much more informal.

Plus, shouldn't your recruitment counselor be keeping you in the loop. I know Pan-hel wants to celebrate with their new members but they need to remember the girls who went bidless. IMPO.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by Soliloquy

I hope that I haven't made it obvious where I go to school and what chapters are at my college. I think my reflections throughout each event have been incredibly fair, classy, and most importantly honest- so I hope that this thread hasn't been a detriment during my personal recruitment process.

I went into recruitment respecting every chapter, and I still do. I am just terribly hurt from the rejection. There were many girls who pleged tonight with lower GPA's then mine and whose activities couldn't hold a candle to what I have accomplished. I think that is what is bothering me the most....

No, it wasn't obvious. It took me several days to figure it out. And, considering I use to work as an investigator, that is a long time.

Things will work out. You will make a lot of friends, both Greek and Non Greek. Not knowing the greek culture at your school, I can't comment on what their COB, informal or sophomore recruiting is like. I CAN tell you that when I was in school, many of my friends were non-greek. Several (at least those that were interested) were asked up for informal recruitment.

You will see the Copelands and others on campus. You made friends with them and let them know that you still want to be their friend. Who knows what good can happen of it.

Please stay in touch with us. You are the type of individual that I would be proud to call a friend.

[Scandia]

I'm sorry to hear the sad news. It can happen to anyone. It is not a reflection on the kind of person that you are.

Like other posters stated, see if your campus has COR/COB.

[pinkyphimu]

i am so sorry. i was absolutely impressed by your attitude throughout the whole process. good luck if you decide to try cob.

[sarasmile]

I'm so sorry.

And don't worry if anyone can figure out what school you attend - nothing you said has been offensive to any of the groups on your campus.

Keeping fingers crossed for you for COB/COR. If there are any chapters on your campus who aren't at total, its likely to happen...even if not formally organized. (Most nationals these days are really big on trying to hit total if at all possible...that whole "recruitment is year round" thing we have going on now. )

[AnatraAmore]

<Hugs> for Soliloguy! Please try to keep in mind that not receiving a bid through formal recruitment does NOT mean you aren't good enough... so many amazing women fall through the cracks and it breaks my heart to hear your story. I would definitely look into COB/COR in the coming weeks - many women have found their homes that way after not having the best formal experience (including quite a few GC'ers)

[mystikchick]

I hope that whatever happens, whether you decide to pursue COR or recruitment again next year or simply choose that Greek life wasn't meant for you, that you will be happy, and given your attitude, I'm certain that whatever you set your heart to, you will succeed at. Any group, Greek or otherwise, will be lucky to have you as a member. Good luck to you and please keep posting when you feel like it

[Forgetmenotivy]

I am so sorry to hear you were unmatched. That doesn't mean Copeland didn't want you or thought you weren't "good enough". A lot of campuses and greek systems allow chapters to take quota additions or quota plus even if they get to total providing the PNM has maximized her options which you did from you explanations of what happened. I guess your campus doesn't have this practice. You are mirroring my rushing experience in many ways.
I didn't join until my sophmore year. Keep a positive attitude; Sign up for COR; Keep you grades up; and meet as many of the sorority members at your school as possible. Good Luck!

[SWTXBelle]

As you know, there are many, many different paths to sisterhood. I've been really pulling for you, and am so sad that things did not work out the way you planned. Please do not give up - you have so much to offer. Check out COR and let us know the rest of your story! Good luck!

[AlexMack]

Definitely see if there's COR. I had a disappointment during my recruitment, and then after not making it to pref I emailed the other chapters to see if they were doing COR. The sorority I'm in now emailed straight back-I'd only gone to one event at their house. They loved me so much they dropped off my bid at the greek life office before coming to get me and take me out for coffee.
As everyone here will tell you, we love COR events. It gives us a chance to let our hair down while we get to know you in a timespan longer than 20 minutes.

You've had a fantastic attitude about recruitment the whole way through, so don't drop it now. And...I don't doubt that you are a very accomplished woman with a lot to offer any sorority, but my advice would be not to rely on that anymore. Anyone can see that you'd contribute to a chapter, but you are not your accomplishments. Just be you-talk about your favourite ice cream, what movie always makes you cry, which delivery place in town is the best for late night studying sustenance. Talk about what makes you, you. Screw the recs now, they know who you are on campus and what you've done. They don't know You.
Good luck!

[KSUViolet06]

I'm sorry to hear that you didn't receive a bid to Copeland. Definitely take some time out for yourself. Hang out with your friends, sit and eat ice cream, whatever.

Then if your feeling up to it, look into COR. If not, then maybe look into some other activities you might be interested in.

Good luck with the rest of your year!

[Hopeful_Bubbles]

Originally Posted by AlexMack

You've had a fantastic attitude about recruitment the whole way through, so don't drop it now. And...I don't doubt that you are a very accomplished woman with a lot to offer any sorority, but my advice would be not to rely on that anymore. Anyone can see that you'd contribute to a chapter, but you are not your accomplishments. Just be you-talk about your favourite ice cream, what movie always makes you cry, which delivery place in town is the best for late night studying sustenance. Talk about what makes you, you. Screw the recs now, they know who you are on campus and what you've done. They don't know You.
Good luck!

Well said! And best of luck to you Soliloquy

[AOII Angel]

I am so stunned to hear the news, Soliloquy. It's amazing how many wonderful women fall through the cracks of recruitment every year. I think the others have given great advice. Keep doing what you've been doing...you've already enriched your college experience in ways many sorority women never could do without the help of their chapters. You sound amazingly strong! Check out COB...they many be open for more bids...you never know.

[gphiangel624]

Originally Posted by Soliloquy

Merry, I cannot reply to your PM. It says you have them blocked.

Thanks again for the encouragement everyone. I would accept a bid through COR if my campus holds it. However, I have a feeling we won't. There would be no real way of me knowing, short of contacting our advisor, who probably won't know the answer either. Besides, panhellenic is busy celebrating with their individual sororities- why would they bother with a girl who got left behind right now? I wouldn't blame them for not really caring at this point.

If COR is something you are interested in, contact the Greek Advisor or Panhellenic - they will be able to at least tell you which chapters will hold COR (if any; no clue what campus you're on). I seriously doubt the Panhellenic officers will ignore your interest in joining a sorority and it never hurts to ask.

Good luck to you.

[AlwaysSAI]

Sililiquy,

I know how much it hurts to be rejected as you just have. I, too, was rooting for you. As, KSUViolet said, take some time out for yourself--I'm partial to eating icecream and having sleepovers.

I just want to put it out there--

(Why am I always the one to say this?? )

There are other organizations out there aside from NPC that you can have a great experience in. I also had an unsucessful rush and attended COR events for my top sorority (the only one doing COR) and was not extended an invitation. I also had a high gpa, some campus leadership and recognition in my field--so I understand the feeling of unworthiness as well. I joined SAI the following semester and Phi Sigma Pi the semester following that and could not be happier. I see now, that I would not have been able to do all I do now in an NPC organization. I have meaningful friendships in both organizations that I know will last a lifetime.

Either way, Copeland is truly missing out on an amazing woman!!!!! You deserve all the best Sililiquy!! Keep doing what you're doing and continue to make a name for yourself on campus. Surely, they will realize what they passed up--even if by then, you have moved on.