Men and unplanned pregnancies

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by SydneyK


I know it sounds awful, but, kstar said, maybe parenting should be viewed as a priviledge, not a right. If only there were a way to have parental screening for every couple interested in having children -- not just those who are adopting!

This is fine in theory, but not in practice. Variations on this have been put into practice historically, and they've always ended up with forcing or tricking minority women into becoming sterilized. While "permission to have kids" actually does seem like a good idea to me, what it translates to in the real world is just eugenics.

[AGDee]

Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
AFAIK, this is already in effect, and exactly the way you described it.

Never having the kid = full child support. Having the kid half the time = half child support. Etc. There are even rules governing what constitutes a "night" and a "day", etc.

Again, personal experience here with the Marine - his lawer explained that he would owe X amount if he never saw the kid, X-Y if he had the kid on weekends, etc.

This is one I have personal experience with also. My ex and I have 50-50 joint custody. I get a very small amount of child support ($20/week) because they figured it out using a formula based on income and days of parenting time. They figured what I would pay him if he had full custody, what he would pay me if I had full custody and figured out the difference. If I made more than him, I'd pay him. He makes a little more than me, so he pays me a little.

Michigan now has a pretty set calculator that spits out the answer quickly, based on income and parenting days.