Confessions...

[DC_Zeta1920]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Do you have to plan a huge wedding? Is it for the family? Just asking...

I would get the degree only because you worked hard for it for so long and sometimes professors can be stupid about getting married while getting a graduate degree. If you already get yours, then they cannot say that... Then you can invite them "happily" to the wedding...

My guests plus the wedding party are about 135 so its not huge. I could make it huge, but I'd prefer it to be close relatives and friends. Since my degree program is accelerated, that April, I will be taking only one class (I plan to make it an online class) so I guess that will help. But I agree with you, professors can be stupid about it which is why I am arranging my schedule the way I am. Furthermore, I may need to hire a wedding planner. I don't want to because I am the type that likes to do things myself and they are expensive as hell, but having one will take some of the pressure off.

But I am going to get the degree. God made a way for me to go back to school straight out of undergrad so I have faith he will see me through it.

[Bajan_Delta]

I was at piece with myself and my situation with these people for a while, however as I said, they just won't leave me alone. A part of me wants to change my number and never see them again and I know that's not going to happen so I just stay in my corner of the world and mind my own business. I've came to terms that this is how these people are and there is nothing that I can do to change that.

Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
Bajan, please let me share with you some words of advice. While I was the person who felt the need to "go the f**k off", I eventually learned that sometimes you do all you can to make things right with that person. If they choose not to, then you continue to live your life right. That's what I had to do with my father.

My mission was to make sure that I lived everday to the best of my ability and to sleep peacfully at night. I tried to work things out, but he was not interested. I am proud to say that after three years of not speaking to me, GOD spoke to him and put it on his heart to apologize to me (this just happend two days ago).

Just know that if you do your part and continue to live right, God will make ALL of your enemies behave!

Originally posted by DC_Zeta1920
My confessions...

I have a wedding to plan for next year and I am in graduate school for my MBA and will graduate a month after the wedding. I am half done with my Master's degree, but sometimes I just feel like throwing in the towel, but what keeps me going is that I have gotten this far and I've dealt with and got through much harder times in undergrad. Furthermore, I will be the first in my family with a Master's degree.

Keep with it!!!!! You sound like me and so many of my friends!! And everytime they say that I tell them the same thing. It will be so rewarding when you finish! Sometimes I just take out a little me time, take a couple of deep breaths...then get back to the grind

And...I just might be the first in my family with a Masters degree too! I never actually thought about it.

[Bajan_Delta]

I just recently got engaged and these people are annoyed because I didn't tell them when it happened. What I did do was call my cousins and tell them, knowing they would tell their parents. I knew if I called any of these people someone would have said something to ruin this great moment for me (plus it was my birthday as well).

I want to plan a nice wedding where I can invite people who care about us. But now I'm seriously contemplating a destination wedding, just the parents and the 2 of us. Sigh....

[lil_sunshine]

Dearest Bajan_Delta,

First, I'd like to congratulate you on your engagement. I know this is an exciting time for you and your fiance!!! Also, I'd like to tell you that there will always be people (family, friends and strangers alike) who will try to steal your sunshine. Please do not allow them to do so.

Destination weddings are a beautiful thing! If you and your fiance agree to do that, then by all means. The people that should attend are the ones that will cause you the least stress and are the most genuine about their well wishes for you and your husband-to-be. Your wedding day is not the be all and end all of family gatherings. It is just the day when you and your fiance tell the world that you are willing to commit to spending the rest of your lives together. Whoever cannot understand that, tell them, "FUHGEDDABOUTIT!!!!!!"

[enigma_AKA]

I'm sooooooooo sorry I think this but....

*And I apologize in advance for the crudeness of my language/attitude*

I want to punch this hoe in the eye. Seriously. I don't condone fighting, but it's the only way I think she'll understand me.

*WOOOOSAAAHHHHHHH* *Rubs earlobes*

Ok---I'm over it. Kinda. Until she says/does something else crazy.

enigma_AKA

[DSTinguished1]

I will NEVER watch the Passion of Christ again. : I know that everyone raved over this movie but it was a little to much for me. I felt bad when I told that to a group of Bible study members when they insisted on showing it for Easter weekend. For some reason after the first time that move was enough for me.

[PerfectVerse06]

TELL 'EM WHY YOU MAD, ENIGMA!!!

TELL 'EM WHY YOU MAD!!!




That's alright...this is the place to VENT!

Sometimes folks out there make you wanna chop them in the throat, but you know you are above that sort of behavior. So you can come on this thread, release the tension, and tell us all the things you'd do to that chick if you weren't a classy woman.

LET IT OUT!

[enigma_AKA]

^^^^Hahahahahaha. I only needed a reason...

*Looks around the room--decides the coast is clear and then......*

So, it all began with sophomore year and here we are, about to graduate, and you still don't effin' get it.

Jealousy like that can kill you. Seriously. I've never been one to concern myself with other people's property ('You down wit' OPP?' No, nigga--you DON'T know ME!), with other people's talents, other people's backgrounds, friends, associations, etc, etc. I got my own ish; what I need to compare mine to anyone else's for?

I DON'T have to compete for being the one who is spoken to. I DON'T have to compete for popularity. I DON'T have to compete for looks. I DON'T have to compete for brilliance and I DON'T have to compete for respect.

I tried to squash it by addressing the situation to your silly ass in the beginning of last year. Our girl told you you were bogus as hell--told you straight up, no chaser. You continued to talk junk in a small environment, knowing it would get back to me. You tried to act like my best friend was doing me bogus while I was abroad; yet you didn't know that we talked on a daily basis. I know my FRIENDS---that circle of which you are not a part of. Everything that you had to 'die to tell me'? I already knew. Minus your ad-libs and whatnot. Three times in a row. You continued to act like nothing was wrong--yet your passive aggressive tendencies got the best of you (you can barely maintain posure by yourself) and even now? You still never once admitted you were wrong and once again proved--once a hoodrat, always a hoodrat. In both attitude and composure.

But I thought you knew that already. It seems with all your insecurity, pettiness and small-mindedness, you still haven't gotten over IT, gotten over ME. Now, you and all of your situations are becoming self fulfilled prophecies. You know deep down that you are WEAK. A sad state of affairs. And you know what's worse? That everytime you do something else wack, it proves that main point that these duplicitous behaviors speak to a weak character. I don't have to be fake to you or anyone else. I'm doing. I suggest you start doing YOU.

Getting rid of you will be like getting rid of a serious case of hives. That they are not useful in any means but there to serve as a reminder that something is wrong in my system--you being it---and that I am allergic to you like Diddy's momma and a decent weave!

Lastly, I need you to slow your effin' role. You know it's brimming just beneath the surface and you've done a good job of tip-toeing around it. Good for you. Keep it up. We only have a few weeks left and trust, you will do best to do like you've been doing before you get jacked up. Not that we will fight physically, becaue I don't get down like that. But, no, all that ish you were afraid of? Karma? Yeah, it's a bitch.

*Whew....some ish never ceases to amaze me. I got a lot of pent up rage. I need to vent here more often.*

What's more, I should have listened to my mother when she told me "a snake in the grass, once hidden, is still a snake in the grass." Mama's always right.

enigma_AKA

[Bajan_Delta]

Well thank you my dear for the well wishes. Actually the more we think about it the more we are both liking the idea of a destination wedding. If we do that we can get married sooner and be able to buy a home alot quicker. This could work out

Originally posted by lil_sunshine
Dearest Bajan_Delta,

First, I'd like to congratulate you on your engagement. I know this is an exciting time for you and your fiance!!! Also, I'd like to tell you that there will always be people (family, friends and strangers alike) who will try to steal your sunshine. Please do not allow them to do so.

Destination weddings are a beautiful thing! If you and your fiance agree to do that, then by all means. The people that should attend are the ones that will cause you the least stress and are the most genuine about their well wishes for you and your husband-to-be. Your wedding day is not the be all and end all of family gatherings. It is just the day when you and your fiance tell the world that you are willing to commit to spending the rest of your lives together. Whoever cannot understand that, tell them, "FUHGEDDABOUTIT!!!!!!"

[PerfectVerse06]

*falls out after reading enigma's post*



I have to give you PROPS for that one, girl!

I have never 'heard' anyone get told off so eloquently LOL!!!

If/when you tell that so-called friend what you typed in this thread, she won't be able to say NATHAN! Which is alright, in my opinion! She has been shut down cyberly, and soon in reality as well!

LOL, I'm mad I'm all crunk like I know you and ole girl, but this is what I was trying to explain to someone the other day. There are ways of expressing oneself with the force and conviction to leave your enemies powerless without having to resort to ignorant phrases and expletive-laden drivel, and this is the perfect example of that!

Yes, you used a lil foul language, but it was used to give your words a lil somthing extra, more POP. But you didn't depend on cursing to make your point.

*round of applause*

[lil_sunshine]

See Bajan_Delta, that's the spirit!!!!! Home ownership is extremely important, and the fact that you and your fiance are keeping it a top priority is great! I recently read an article on MSN.com about first-time homebuyers. I'll send it to you and hope that the article can help you and your fiance.

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
Well thank you my dear for the well wishes. Actually the more we think about it the more we are both liking the idea of a destination wedding. If we do that we can get married sooner and be able to buy a home alot quicker. This could work out

[ShamikaT]

Originally posted by ShamikaT
I've been having the r.u.n.s since 3 am.

I "borrowed" some more money from my cash register. And, don't yall trip. It was only thirty dollas, and I will pay that mess back. I'm not above of asking for some more allowance from pops.

LAWD, I have not had sex in a year. I done regained my virginity since I became a Christian, and I'm 'bout to relose it. I am also stuggling with masturbation. All before I get out of bed in the morning. All at work (when no one's there). All in the showers. All at stoplights (when there's no cars next me). All before I go to sleep at night. Yall pray for me.

Thank yall for the prayers, I have NOT masturbated in 3 1/2 weeks!

But, do female wet dreams count?

[Bajan_Delta]

Please, share the knowledge, I am a woman who constantly seeks knowledge. O believe me we fully understand the importance of homeownership. I have us on a plan to be debt- free in 3 years, luckily we don't have too much bad debt (credit card etc.) It's mostly good debt, ie school loans.

Originally posted by lil_sunshine
See Bajan_Delta, that's the spirit!!!!! Home ownership is extremely important, and the fact that you and your fiance are keeping it a top priority is great! I recently read an article on MSN.com about first-time homebuyers. I'll send it to you and hope that the article can help you and your fiance.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by Bajan_Delta
I just recently got engaged and these people are annoyed because I didn't tell them when it happened. What I did do was call my cousins and tell them, knowing they would tell their parents. I knew if I called any of these people someone would have said something to ruin this great moment for me (plus it was my birthday as well).

I want to plan a nice wedding where I can invite people who care about us. But now I'm seriously contemplating a destination wedding, just the parents and the 2 of us. Sigh....

I tole you 'bout how some folks just will ack a fool... They just ack a fool...

But be 'bout it, 'bout it and do yo thang gwirl... Destination, far, far away...

Or, you can skrait piss 'em off and go waaay out and do the stuh you KNOW will piss them off just to see how pissed off they can get...

Naw, I don't recommend that... But, in my ole age, I'd be crazy enuf to do it...